In modern society, cheating has become a social norm. Everywhere you look, whether it’s on showsTV, movies or social media; cheating has become so normalized in our daily lives. This doesn’t necessarily have to be bad thing though. The act of cheating has been known to be a confidence and self esteem booster for individuals in relationships. Think of it as ‘security options’ instead of deceiving your spouse. There are many people who believe it is harmful and ruins relationships but if you think on your own, without the influence of media; you will see that it’s actually quite the opposite. These days, I believe people think love is only the kind they see on TV or in books and social media. Regardless of how cheating is viewed by the public, it is actually one of the key components to building a healthier relationship with your significant other and yourself. …show more content…
According to Molly Fosco, a writer for The Huffington Post, “The idea that human beings are not biologically designed to be with one person for our entire lives seems to be quite prevalent in modern, western culture.” Even in today’s culture, people seem to be so stuck on the relationships they see on media that they don’t realize they are being brainwashed. Most of us only believe something is good because we see the majority of people believe it too. Think outside the box and be open minded. You’d be surprised when you hear all the benefits that come from cheating. In this case, the benefits greatly outweigh the harm. For some people, being able to have multiple spouses at the same time is a big confidence booster. It increases their self-esteem and makes them feel attractive. This might not be a big deal but to insecure people, cheating can really help boost their moral. While those who are being cheated on might lose their self-confidence, they can just as easily gain it back by going out and meeting new
Infidelity really isn't anything new. It's as old as civilization itself. The only thing that's changed is that today's world is driven by technology and so it's easier than in the past to get intimate with another person. At the same time, it's also easier to have paranoid/apprehensive
This article talks about the millions of accounts that were created for cheating on one anothers partners while also describing how to salvage a damaged marriage. This article depicts cheating on one another 's spouse as something that can completely dissolve a marriage. In fact, a good majority of marriages were dissolved instantly after the faithful companion had found out they were being cheated on. The article goes on to talk about the best way to talk to a spouse in order to save a marriage. Interestingly, the most common, and safest way to salvage a marriage is by confessing the truth to the spouse before they have any suspicions. The article also goes on to state that expressing sorrow at the start of the conversation may not be a good choice, as it can be seen as a way to excuse yourself from the wrongdoing. The “Ashley Madison” article ultimately shows that cheating on a spouse in today’s society can only turn out for the
Adultery can happen for many different reasons. With this being said, the way one was raised has a lot to do with the perception of other people’s view. For example, if one was raised in a family where they would see their father or mother cheating all the time, then eventually they might think it’s okay to be doing that; however, if someone comes from a family in which they are told that cheating is bad then the way they see adultery will be completely
As seen basing ones life on infidelity can ruin everything one has built for themselves. Lies and unfaithfulness never ends with happy endings and should never be a foundation for any relationship. As seen infidelity will emotionally damage oneself and some even being permanently damaged out of their existence. Consequently the ones that started and perpetrated the whole situation will also learn their lesson through the
Infidelity is depicted as an extremely negative thing in the United States, and is often blamed for trust issues, psychologically damaging the spouse and their children, tearing apart marriages and families and more. People who commit adultery are often shamed and told how wrong what they did is and what a terrible person they are for doing it. According to the Journal of Martial and Family by the Associated Press, however, 41% of “marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional.” Clearly, while infidelity is generally viewed negative by society, many people either decide that it is not as negative as it is portrayed, or do not care and do it anyway. “The Lady with the Pet Dog” and “The Storm” both go against the typical view of adultery being a negative thing in a relationship by showing that it can actually have a beneficial outcome and leave some, if not all people happier.
Have you ever considered cheating on your partner? Studies show that there is a 76% chance of either partner in a marriage committing infidelity (Ferrer 55). In light of the common occurrence of infidelity within monogamous relationships in our society, would it not be logical to consider the possibility that non-monogamous relationship dynamics might be appropriate for some individuals? The idea seems to be on people’s minds, since it has also been coming up in popular culture lately, in shows like “Big Love” and “Sister-Wives”, both of which focus on polygamy, the practice of being married to more than one person at a time. Additionally, there have been many articles written about polyamory, the practice of having more than one intimate relationship at one time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved, and non-monogamy recently. One such article is “Beyond Monogamy and Polyamory,” written by Jorge Ferrer, Ph.D., who is the Chair of the Dept. of East-West Psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies, and was published in ReVision Journal. Ferrer’s goal in writing this article is to expose readers, mainly other scholars, to the possibility of non-monogamous relationships, and the concept of sympathetic joy. While I agree with much of what Ferrer is saying in his article, particularly his points about sympathetic joy, jealousy, genetics, and his responses to the arguments against polyamory, the fact that he overlooks the religions that do not support his theory, while using others to support his theory, weakens his argument.
Cheating hurts not only the one who do it, but also everything
The divorce count in this country is now up to one out of every three marriages ending in divorce. Serial polygamy is a common lifestyle for those who are divorced and then remarried. The relationship between a husband and wife should be sacred and trustworthy. Without the trust and honesty, there is no marriage. Monogamy is the loving, sharing, and devoting one's self to another person for the rest of their life.
The following five models are used to explain the concept of infidelity, based on the marital relationship: the need fulfillment model, the investment model, the deficit model, the self-expansion model, and the personal growth model. Each model explains a potential reason that one might cheat on his or her spouse. Part of the need fulfillment model that intrigued me was that people are attracted to their spouses based on how well they think they can fulfill the following seven specific needs: sex, intimacy, companionship, intellectual stimulation, emotional involvement, security, and self worth. The key word that stood out in this was the word “think.” These people believed that the partners they chose could fulfill their needs, but they later discovered that this was not the case. Perhaps they were infatuated or “blinded by love” so to speak, but whatever the case may be they still cheated on their partners due to unmet needs. The investment model examined what makes one more or less committed to his or her spouse. This model demonstrates that the level of commitment and attraction to one’s spouse hinges on the level of satisfaction and what the individual has to lose from the marriage ending. I would imagine there are plenty of people who stay in their marriages strictly because of children and financial stability. As the article stated, these things act as a “barrier to keep the
There was a time when more smart-conscious decisions were made relating to sexual relationships. In particular, sexual relationships within a marriage. However, times have changed. The pillars that hold up our individual sexual values have started to crumble. It is estimated that two out of three marriages fail due to infidelity. This is a scary statistic considering that people believe a marriage can survive infidelity. This brings us to our first myth: Everyone has affairs.
University of Wisconsin: New Study Reveals that Cheating Actually Makes a Marriage Stronger: A study emerging out of Italy suggests that infidelity promotes stronger marriage bonds.
I used to think that cheating could improve relationships and make things better, but in reality it only creates more conflicts such as trust issues. You won’t know who to trust. Being in a relationship is about staying committed to that individual, not going around behind each other’s backs seeing other people.
Cheating can set a pattern that can lead to a practice of lying that may involve more serious matters. In the first place, the harmlessness of cheating is notoriously disputable. What the cheater perceives as harmless or even beneficial may not be so in the eyes of the deceived.
Cheating is another reason why relationships fail, sometimes when couples are together for a while they can become bored w...
Cheating in relationships happen to both men and women, and for many varied reasons. The reasons of cheating on someone may however, change based off the person’s gender. To simply state, the reason a man cheats may be different than the reason a woman cheats in a relationship. There have been facts and as well as myths surrounding the topic of infidelity. Also, one person may have a different view on what is cheating, where on the other hand, another person may think cheating is the complete opposite. With this, there is not a full and official definition of cheating in a relationship, so this can make it difficult to actually know what exactly is or what is not cheating. I have been told what is cheating by one person, and later on would