Heart Eyes Speech

What is Heart-eyes? It’s the feeling you get when you first fall for someone and you’re blind to the world around you. Not caring about your social, physical, or mental health. The feeling that no matter what happens they can cheer you up. Now that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but not listening to others advice or being uncaring towards friends and family is something else, and that’s what Heart-eyes can do.

I think the best thing you can receive from something as scary as it may seem, is lessons, and I’ve learned a few. Heart-eyes can come in different forms with different relationships, the worst of all, is the future is ours Heart-eyes. Someone who without a doubt loves you and plans on spending the rest of their lives with you, within the first week of the relationship. Now I use Heart-eyes as a pet-name for Codependency. If you don’t understand what Codependency is it’s the physical/mental need for something, you’re depending on someone for your own happiness. That isn’t a relationship, I mean sure you go into to get something you’re not getting out of everyday life but, that isn’t healthy, and I found that out the hard way. Don’t depend on someone else for your own happiness, to have a successful relationship you

must, no you need to, be happy with yourself.

Now listen, this may sound hard to do but if you aren’t happy with your relationship or feel trapped, leave, that’s it, that’s all there is to it, you don’t need to stay in something that changes the way you are or act.

Don’t feel obligated to stay, your happiness is worth it. Leave. Now, Heart-eyes may sound romantic but it isn’t. Heart-eyes to me is that you see or hear nothing else but them. By that I mean when people talk to you about them and tells you things which no doubt makes their character questionable, you don’t hear it, you don’t care, all you care about is them. Now I affiliate Codependency with another level unrelated to Heart-eyes. Codependency could be anything when it comes to a person but most of the time it’s

happiness.

I can’t begin to stress how important it is to love yourself first, because once you depend on someone for happiness, life is going to get a lot more stressful. I say this because, once they leave you, you have nothing, there is nothing, they were your inspiration, your happiness, your own ray of sunshine if you will, and when they’re gone you believe there is nothing. This is what Codependency is capable of and the only way out of it, is you. Over the years I learned to love myself, and it’s made the largest impact I could ever imagine.

When you’re single life seems to feel different like you’re missing something, but when you love yourself, it always feels good to just be you, to be free of decision, and be your own inspiration, I apologize if this reflective essay is one-sided in a sense I’m against relationships (which is false, you can ask my girlfriend), but I believe happiness is found within you. Happiness is a hobby, an art form, and can too be a person, just don’t dwell and make them the only source of it.