They say breaking up is hard to do. Break-ups are very common in fact sadly enough, it happens to everyone at some point in time. For many women, relationships coming to an end are hard due to lack of closure. So very often, they are left wondering what they did wrong.
While I can’t be a miracle worker this area I can provide some very common mistakes that women tend to make. Its not complete, but it’s definitely a good insight. Continue to read and evaluate how youve been doing on the dating game.
1. Thinking you can change who he is.
Many women get involved with men with undesirable habits, and cling to the relationship hoping that hell improve with time. They tend to feel like the man requires the woman’s help in order to change.
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In other words, trying to change him is like trying to teach a pig to sing – it wastes time, it doesnt work, and it annoys the pig.
Gut feelings are well and good, but its better to trust your intuition instead.
2. Assuming good looks are enough.
Women tend to think that men only care about an attractive physical appearance. Also, many women think that men aren’t very verbally communicative. Therefore many women resort to using provacative body language to gain a man’s attention which gives off the wrong impression.
Its not that simple. Looks may be most obvious way to get the train started, but it’s hardly the best way. The right thing to do is to use a combination of verbal communication and body language. It takes practice, but a man is less likely to be smitten by a beautiful woman than by a beautiful woman who can also carry a good conversation.
3. Acting like someone that you are not.
I may be stating the obvious, but it’s worth repeating: Men aren’t happy in a relationship if the woman isn’t happy herself. A woman should never lose herself by trying to satisfy a man’s every need and desire. A man can’t have respect for a woman that isn’t confident of who she is. Acting like a prostitute or a slave won’t get you
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So driven by what they believe is the right thing to do and give the person what they deserve.
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...we started dating each other. I got bored about him since we do the same matters everyday and I found someone that can complete my happiness. We quarreled a lot because I disappointed him. I don’t meet his expectations for me such as to be a good girlfriend and I think he deserves better. Not talking to him for a week changed our relationship; we became strangers and I uttered lies excuses for one week. I shouldn’t have done that.