For this skill application, I choose the one from Chapter 4 skill application case 3, the first thing that comes to my mind is I had a disagreement with my mom a couple weeks ago, I with her get along very well but whenever it comes to spending money, she and I always seem to have disagreements. Because she grew up in traditional Chinese culture which the parents and more specifically the mother has the final say in all things. I also grew up in traditional Chinese culture, however, I also have learned western culture that allows more freedoms. She thinks I spend way too much money on things I do not necessarily need, and I think I work every week to make money so I can spend on things I want. For this assignment, I decide to sit down with my mom and talk about our different views on spending money. During the conversation, I’m hoping that I can use more supportive communication instead of using defensiveness and disconfirmation communication. Because when it comes to communication sometimes we both feel threatened and became a little defensive rather than listening to what each other have to say.
I took my mom for lunch last Sunday, and before the lunch I
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She mentioned although I have been live in the United State for a couple years, but I still need to value my Chinese traditions. I can’ t act like many Americans are the same age as me, they spend almost of their paycheck, and in their bank account they hardly have any money left. She also says I spend too much money on clothes, makeup and shoes in the past couple years. But my point of view on this is I’m young and I wants to looks nice, also I make enough money to support myself every week and I don’t ever ask my mom for money, so I think if I like something and I can afford it then I will most likely buy the product. However, she thinks although I make money for myself, but I shouldn’t spend all of them on things I don’t necessary
When people receive education, they will also be receiving the real life techniques like the ways how to communicate, and how to tackle with the possible problem in life. In school, we have our teachers teaching us all the textbook stuffs along with teaching us to be actively participating in extracurricular activities. The extracurricular activities such as participating in speech, debate, sports, and other school programs will activate the communication skills inside the children. In the same way, the author Wes’s parents also learnt the communication skills in school. Not only this, they have even learnt the ways how to tackle with the problems without being afraid of the consequences. When the author Wes got into depression when he was unable to perform well in school, that made him feel quitting to study from military school, her mother knew what she had to do as a responsible guardian, she acted very precisely, she did not use physical threats. Instead, she told him like, “‘I am so proud of you, and your father is proud of you, and we just want you to give this a shot. Too many people have sacrificed in order for you to be there.’”(95). Her mother knew the communication skills about how to persuade her son to do good, and most importantly she told that they are proud of the way he is. The way she communicate with her son, made him realise that to study diligently should be his first priority. Regard of
The book is divided into two main sections. In the first section, “Shift to a Learning Stance”, the authors suggest that each difficult conversation actually involves three concurrent conversations: the “what happened” conversation, the feelings conversation, and the identity conversation. The “what happened” conversation is complicated by the differing perspectives of the participants. Although parties often agree on basic facts, there are differences of opinion regarding the interpretation of their meaning or importance. These diverse viewpoints may be the result of differences in personality, exposure to different information, or different life experiences. Progress toward a learning conversation requires letting go of strong mindsets and shifting toward genuine curiosity about the other’s point of view. Adoption of the “And Stance” can be helpf...
The response to the spread of Buddhism in China differed according to one’s social position.
The one skill that I used more of was empathy; I wanted the client to know that I understood her situation as well her feelings. At the end of our conversation, I summarized everything that we talked about, especially her want to open up to her parents and express herself to them. She mentioned that she wants them to fell empathy towards her, because the lack of parental empathy that she felt when she was younger, has even affected her in her adult life (Kilpatrick,2005).
The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua demonstrates the two different mind sets of parenting: Chinese parenting and Western approach to parenting. In my view, Chinese parenting is very strict about school work and extracurricular activities such as pianos and violins. For example, if we compare the two different sets of parenting; Chua says, for instance that Western parents believe that they are strict by forcing their kids practice their instruments for 30 minutes a day at most to an hour. This is nothing compared to the Chinese parents that would say the first hour of practice is easy it’s the second or third hour that gets tough (Chua 2011). This shows how forcefully strict the Chinese parents are compared to Western parents. The Chinese parents would say anything that really has to be said to their kid’s straight forward, but the Westerns would go about telling their kids, so it won’t hurt their feelings or their self-esteem. A few of these examples come to show that Chinese parents have intelligent kids, but are they intelligent enough for society? In other words are these Chinese children capable to work in group projects compared to an American kid that lives the usually life as a kid; like going to sleepovers and participating in different school activities. This is what David Brooks actually discusses about in his article “Amy Chua Is a Wimp”, says that Amy Chua’s way of parenting which is Chinese parenting isn’t effective enough. Well sure their kids are very intelligent and get high grades, but can they participate in well-functioning groups? One thing that Chinese parenting lacks in is a skill set that is not taught formally, but is imparted through strenuous experiences. This is exactly what Chua...
Discrimination and prejudice actions in American society is prominent with no hint of extinction. In the book “Sông I Sing” by Bao Phi, he depicts and highlights racism in his poems. The poet outlines stereotypes, prejudices, discrimination along with reference to white privilege. This two time Minnesota slam champion injects his passionate feelings of his views of other people into his poems. He advocates that racism shouldn’t exist in American society. Bao Phi is semi descriptive on the stories and brings his poems alive to visualize the content through words. This poet illustrates the effects of prejudice on people in American society who do not feel freedom based on skin color. All of his poems are deemed excellent not just because Phi
The couple has lacked communication as well as Mrs. Davis has felt unheard. Therefore, helping the couple in communication will began to reshape and reform new clear boundaries within the spousal subsystem and parental subsystem. Helping my client’s communicate in a way that brings value to each other will strengthen the couple’s love for each other which will build hope (Worthington, 2005). In assisting the Davis’s in communication I would ask them to complete invention 10-5 exercise the will help them discern their personal love language. A love language is how each person in a relationship expresses their love through words and actions (Worthington, 2005).
came into her family heritage that she should get anything that she wants from her mom. In
Communication is a vital skill in all facets of life and all occupations. Before a person begins work, they first interview with the employer, where their communication skills are made apparent. These skills are vital to daily success in the workplace, whether they are used in direct communication or indirectly through the written word. It is crucial that the true meaning of what one person is trying to communicate to another is made perfectly clear the first time to ensure efficiency and success throughout all paths of life. There are also several situations for communication a person may experience. Communication situations can happen at any point in a person’s life, and it is imperative that a person is prepared for these situations when
"The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are. The second greatest is being happy with what you find."- Unknown. I have learned so much this year alone and taking an interpersonal communication class has broadened my view of myself and others. I am going to take you on a journey of what I learned and what I am continuing to learn. First I have chosen four chapters of the book that I think I have developed and learned the most from. From these chapters I picked the concepts and the theories that I have revised within myself. Starting with chapter two Considering Self, Perceiving Others, Experiencing and Expressing Emotions, Managing Conflict and last but not least Relationships with Family Members. I think that
Family members’ ability to effectively express their emotions, insights, and ideas to each other reflects how well members relate to each other, and how well the family functions as a whole. According to Kirst-Ashman & Hull (2012) assessing communication patterns within a family is crucial to the planned change process that must occur in order to assist families reconcile their problems in the best possible way (p.331). There are various facets of communication in addition to verbal and nonverbal communication. There are at least five different paths of communication, referred to as avenues of communication, which include: consonance, condemnation, submission, intellectualization, and indifference (p. 331-332). An assessment of the various facets of communication used by a family is useful in indicating where change is
I, myself have learned a lot along the way during this Interpersonal Communication class. I have learned how to communicate effectively with those around me by using the information along with tips presented within this class and textbook. In this paper I’ve chosen two communicative behaviors from chapters four and five to improve my skills in; they are making prejudice opinions/judgments toward others and listening.
This reflective essay has critically reviewed my personal and professional skills that are essential for communication and developing positive relationships with others. It has discussed the skills identified in the skills audit that I needed more confidence in for communication and effective relationships. It has finally linked two communication theories to both skills
In this part of the assignment, I will be reviewing the strengths and weaknesses that were shown when I was using counselling skills on my client. I believe that there were more strengths when I was showing counselling skills compared to the weaknesses that there were.
In turn, having competent communicative abilities contributes to progression and maturation in many aspects of life, with education and employment being majorly affected facets. Upon entering this course this semester, I was unaware of my lack of important communication skills interpersonally, intrapersonally, and interprofessionally. Throughout my semester in this course, I have explored many different styles and skills used in communication. I have been able to recognize my strengths and weaknesses, and I have also been able to make noticeable and satisfying incremental improvements to enhance my communication. In this paper I will reflect on the knowledge I have gained throughout this semester that has allowed me to better my communication skills; I will do this by providing examples from my life. Furthermore, I will explore how I can continue to develop my commination skills in the future.