Being The Oldest Child Research Paper

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Being the oldest child in my family isn’t as easy and simple as it seems. Although it was very hard being the only child for the majority of my life, sometimes I like to imagine what it would have been like if I was born as the younger sibling or if my sister and I had a smaller age difference, as we are polar opposites and have trouble understanding each other. Due to this, my expectations and responsibilities are set higher for being the oldest child. Being the older sibling, I take these responsibilities and accept my expectations, while my younger sister has much less than I did as a child. My sister and I are polar opposites, in which I am the north pole and my sister is the south pole. With many varied interests, hobbies, and even temperature …show more content…

For example, I am expected to get the straight As whereas my sister is not, to set the ideal and good example for my sister. Similar to Darry having to want Ponyboy to get As, because he did. With this, I feel double the pressure, not only I need to make sure my grades look good for my college application, but I also need to make sure my sister can get the same or similar outcome. That’s just one of the many things I am responsible for, even if it’s taking the blame for something I didn't do or if I have the more important task of completing a particular thing versus my …show more content…

I desire to learn more and get the perspective of the position. I always ask this question myself in my mind: “Will I get the most attention or the least?” Right now, it seems that my younger sister gets more attention than me, which I understand because she can’t take care of herself in ways that I can. At the same time, being the youngest also means that I don’t get the special privileges. I can’t imagine not having a phone or not being allowed late night parties. Even though I truly enjoy imagining myself as the younger sibling, I also imagine what it would be like if my sister and I had a relatively lesser age difference, which I believe would help us understand each other better. Plus, I would really like to observe how she performs in middle school, especially in eighth grade. Instead, at the current seven year age difference, I would be applying or going to the city where my college is located while my sister would just be starting sixth

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