My experience of growing up in another country, I have learned the fact that arranged marriage was still powerful. The purpose of arrange marriage is keeping relationship last longer. Back in Cambodia, relationship need to start through family, and no one able to break the rule because it is part of Cambodian culture, which I believed was right. Almost eight years of my living in the United states, I have learned what I believe in the past was wrong. Arrange marriage should not be allowed because it would cause painful marriage life. One reason arranged marriage infringe the difference between the two parties. For some of those who forced to marry someone in the different language, encounter many issues. Many women who were …show more content…
Marriage is not an obstacle to stop either one of the spouses to have another hiding love. For those who date someone before they become the victim of an arranged relationship are at a high risk of cheating. If the couple uses to date someone before they are married, they would still continue to date that person because there is no love involving in their married life. For those men in the culture that lower the value of women, they normally betray the wife. Even after the first marriage, those men are still adding a second and third wife. Although some countries create the law against multiple husband or wife, but hiding relationship still exists. Cambodia is one of the countries which is not allowing more than one husband or wife. There are still many men and women out there who have multiple couples. Those who disagree, believe that arranged marriage last longer. It is true that arranged marriages could last longer, However, the spouse would not be able to encounter what a happiness feels like. Marriage requires both parties to have characteristics in common because they need to combine two different lives into just one. If one of them does not match another, how could we combine them into one piece? The couple should spend time to learn from others personality as well as allowing them enough time to adopt each other bad
According to the author, Lizette Alvarez, in the article “Arranged Marriages Get a Little Reshuffling”, Arranged marriages are better than modern marriages and parents can choose good mates for young. First, the arranged marriage has changed a lot in modern time. Arranged marriages are more flexible because young people can meet several times in some public venues without family members. Parents and elders have become more lenient. Second, arranged marriages have more advantages than modern marriages. Arranged marriages can preserve religion and identity and help people to find their mates in the same social class. Arranged marriages can outlast modern marriages because couples can avoid social and religions disharmony. Finally, young people prefer arranged marriage to modern marriage. Young people would spend less time to find their mate because their parents, chat rooms and dating websites help find mates for them. Young people can easily find their mates who have the same education level and social status. As a young person, I do not agree with the author because other people migh...
In the book Arranged Marriage, I was intrigued with all the short stories it had. It was difficult to concentrate throughout the book without the interruption of tears in my eyes. Most of the stories deal with the experiences of the Indian women in arranged marriages. I did not admire any of the stories since most of them ended in a depressing marital experience. While arranged marriage is not commonly practiced in the United States, the women in both cultures deal with controlling husbands that reprimand their wives when they do not meet their expectations.
Both arranged marriages and romantic marriages have good and bad points. Cultures such as India, Japan, and Ethiopia have had arranged marriages since the dawn of time. In America we allow our young adults to make their own decisions on whom to marry. Would Americans accept the practice of parents deciding whom they are going to marry without considering their wants or feelings? The answer is an emphatic NO! Americans are hopelessly romantic and fiercely believe in freedom of choice. Arranged marriages would never be accepted in American culture.
“Our matriarchs had an interesting advantage over today 's western women. Matriarchs didn 't begin their marriage with love. Instead, they were taught how to love. They entered marriage with an earnest determination to grow a love that would sustain their marriage for a life-time” (Zenhabe). Love is a universal virtue that is found in the sacred bond of marriage. Arranged marriage is a unique practice that changes the perspective of marriage from a bond that blossomed from love to a seed that uses love to blossom. The practice of arranged marriage is dwindling as society evolves but there are still many parts of the world that hold firm to the tradition. Although the success of the sacred sacrament of marriage is a practice that cannot
One of the main arguments for arranged marriages is that parents, being older and more experienced, are better able to find a suitable match for their children. This belief relies on the trust the offspring has that their parents understand what would be best choice or most suitable for their children. This trust is often discouraged by the individualist ideal and rebel teen mentality sponsored by American mass-media. However, in India trust between parent and child are common. When Nanda tried helping arrange a marriage, we see that parents in India weigh many considerations when choosing partners for their children including the statuses of the individuals (including their caste and career path), the social dynamics between the members of both households, and what resources the other family and potential partner have. At least in the case given in the reading, this process can be though and produce a good marriage with stable family ties. Another argument made for arranged marriage is that since the parents are handling the marriage, the children are free to enjoy life and not worry about the details. To a lesser degree in our country, people delegate part of the relationship forming process to others by allowing friends, family, and dating sites or shows to play matchmaker. Though in general, in America the person who would be in the relationship is more involved, and has to worry about handling some of the details. In India, culture is more dependent on family structure so marriage is just as much about forming ties between families as the couple itself, which is part of the reason why the family is so involved in these
In the event that it isn't possible, they proceed with arranged marriage'. This clarifies why they weren't certain because there are still arranged marriages, however individuals are first searching for affection first. Those respondents who weren't certain whether arranged marriages are declining or not felt that it is still about the
This is how most Americans dream they will find their soulmate and can only view this type of meeting as the only means of living “happily ever after” with their lover. Cliches such as this, are one of the main reasons why people refuse to believe the fact that arranged marriages do indeed produce successful marriages that last for decades. Utpal Dholakia writes in his article called “ Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?”, about how more and more people are starting realize that this type of marriage actually works. Utpal says that “High levels of satisfaction are reported by those in arranged marriages over the longer term”(“Why Are”). That’s what special about having an arranged marriage, the love might not be there from the moment you start a life together with the other person, but as time goes on you learn so much and grow to love your spouse. Love marriages consist of both people being head over heels for each other from the start and those who can’t keep that same passion usually end up in divorce. Dholkia says that potentially “ 1 in 100 Indian marriages end up in divorce”(“Why Are”). This divorce rate statistic makes it clear enough that what these foreign countries are doing in terms of marriage are definitely working. The book that is looked at by most as the guide to knowing all
Many cultures practice arranged marriages. Are these arranged marriages more sustainable than love marriages? Yes, arranged marriages last longer and are stronger than love marriages; therefore, the practice of arranged marriages should continue.
Arranged marriage is a standard in many parts of Asia, Africa and Center East. This kind of marriage approach is mostly taken by people that want to please their parents or to follow a tradition. B. Forced Marriage In the other hand, there are forced marriages. This method implies that is a marriage into which possibly one or the two life partners have been constrained without their assent.
In the United States, marriage is a commitment two people make for the rest of their lives. The average American marriage lasts seven years. Well over half of all marriages end in divorce (Francouer, 72). Statistics in the infidelity have rose fifty percent since the 1970s and is rising all the time. The divorce count in this country is now up to one out of every three-marriage end in divorce. Serial polygamy is a common lifestyle for those who are divorced and then become remarried. The relationship between a husband and wife should be sacred and trustworthy. Without the trust and honesty there is no marriage. Monogamy is the loving, sharing, and devoting one's self to another person for the rest of their life. Monogamy should be the most important aspect in a marriage.
Parents know best, or at least that is what some assume. All over the world men and women alike are being forced to marry someone that their parent picked for them. These marriages are not based on love, but on tradition and social hierarchy. To think that parents would view their own social gaining above their child’s freedom and human rights is absolutely appalling, and I strongly believe that arranged marriages should be done away with. People should have the right to make their own choices and decide for themselves.
Marriage is a private affair and differs in many parts of the world. In some Indian societies, many Hindus believe in arranged marriages between families. Although this tradition, heritage and culture stems from many centuries ago, times have changed and can result in divorce, social welfare because people getting marriage should be given choices.
For years, there has been much debate over the topic of stable marriage. Currently, there is a general debate among some people on whether the stable marriage would come from love or arranged marriage. They believe that relationships have developed over time, and more people believe in love, marriage, nevertheless tradition and religion. Their belief is that people should be able to marry whoever they want, live happily, and carefree no matter the involvement in the relationship between the tradition and the religion.
Love marriages and arranged marriages can both be justified, and they can both be disagreed upon for good reasons. The culture is what defines each marriage, supporting one belief or another. Although both can be justified, the definition of the two marriages are very different, Regardless of the way of marriage, they are very common. Having introduced to your better half unintentionally may be a love marriage but a third party still played a role in it makes it an arranged
This does not put any pressure upon the couple or their families, as arranged marriages are extremely traditional. However, in a love marriage, the two individuals, more times than not, try to find their significant other based upon what society classifies as ‘hot’, which indicates that the two people who get together may only be perfect in society’s eyes. The couple, while dating, may not discuss much about each other lives, and talk more about their likes/dislikes on a short term basis, which may result in many altercations; the couple may not share any common interests, ideas, religions, or beliefs. This leads to quick break-ups, only weeks after the start of their relationship, or even divorces in their married life. Would you like to be in several short term relationships, or one long term relationship with someone who you will learn to love