Argumentative Essay On Blended Families

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Blended We learn as kids through our society that we should strive to achieve the American dream. The idea that you will meet the love of your life, have two and a half kids, buy a house with a white picket fence and a dog, and then live happily ever after. Sadly it doesn’t always work out the way we imagine. For many people unexpected challenges will arise in life: divorce, death, and unplanned pregnancies are some of the curveballs life throws at us. All we are left to do is pick up the pieces and make the best of a bad situation. Blended families are sometimes looked at with negativity. Due to the unique struggles that blended families deal with, we as a society should: respect, encourage, help, and embrace them. I grew up in a suburb …show more content…

Visitations were not very complicated to arrange, the aftermath of a visit was the difficult part. His father appeared to be in competition with us, it seemed as if he had no rules and would buy expensive gifts that we could not afford to give him. This made setting boundaries almost impossible, he was the “fun parent” who had all of the joys but none of the real responsibilities of parenting.
“When a stepfamily is formed, the members have no shared family histories or shared ways of doing things, and they may have very different beliefs. In addition, a child may feel torn between the parent they live with most (more) of the time and their other parent who they visit (e.g. lives somewhere else). Also, newly married couples may not have had much time together to adjust to their new relationship” ("Stepfamily Problems"). It is very hard to relate to my step-son when his childhood and mine seem to be polar opposites. Growing up, I lived in the same house until I graduated from High School. In contrast, before he had turned five, he was used bouncing between four different family members’ homes. I understand that picking up the pieces and building a new family is not a simple task.
Blended families require an extra dose of patience, forgiveness, love, and

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