Who is more Fortunate?
Are men or women more fortunate? Physically, men may be more fortunate; for men do not give birth, do not have to deal with periods and menopause, and do not spend a long time getting prepared each morning. But what is the answer if we just look at the temperament? In relationships, men are surely less fortunate than women: men often must take risks for the relationship; women can concentrate on more then one activity at a time; and most women are able to express their emotions more freely.
Traditionally men risk more to impress or get a woman that they like but, the risks can be worth it. Firstly, when a male likes a female he is expected to make the first move. That move may be to initiate a conversation or to ask for her number. This is a risk for the male because he may suffer the embarrassment of rejection. Secondly, men are the ones expected to ask their female companion out on a date and even to pay for the activity, although, now the latter example is starting to change. Thirdly, the male is the one who gets on one knee to propose marriage to his woman. Women nowadays like to hint to the male about getting married but men are still expected to actually do the action. Men go out on a limb and purchase the ring, in most cases without knowing what result may come. If he gets rejected, he suffers the pain of rejection as well as some embarrassment when the ring must be returned. This i...
All the way through Migdim's incident with arranged marriages, we can understand the old customs that has to do with marriage. It is obvious that, although women were believed to be obedient, they were capable to effectively convince men. Yet, today there seems to be a sign toward polygamous marriages that are eventu...
It is human nature to look for happiness. Some people find it in material possessions, some find it in money, but most of us find it in love. To find true love is a difficult task especially now in the times of cell phones and Jaguars. Money and power play a big role in today’s society, and some people would rather have those things than a love of another human being. In some rare cases it is not even a person’s decision who she (almost every time it’s a woman who is being given away) will marry. Although it does not happen very often, there are still cases where a woman is being married off to a man by an arrangement made by her parents, to insure stability and security of that woman. The standing in the community means a great deal, just like Zora Neale Hurston’s Their Eyes Were Watching God illustrates.
A men biggest weakness is expressing their emotions. They are taught from an early age to be fearless and powerful. They are informed that 'Big Boys Don 't Cry ' and to 'Man Up '. Men start to connect feelings and emotions with their weakness. They come to believe that they have failed if they become affectionate and were to open their hearts. As a result, many men try to be the warrior who saves the people around them and always puts on a bold face. Men are typically the provider of their household and tend to play the male role. “All men are the same”, is the most common phrase we all hear a lot nowadays, but some of us fail to realize that they are not. Carver argues that men are successful in relationship when they are unafraid to express emotion.
Has society treated men and women equally through the years? During the most inhuman, barbaric, and sadistic period of history, women seem to be mistreated in a higher degree. For many years women were not only considered the weaker sex but also repressed and dehumanized by the male dominated society. As terrible as The Holocaust that persecuted and killed millions of Jewish and other groups considered undesirable, was the impact of slavery on American slaves. Slavery and male dominant society occurred simultaneously; therefore, women were twice discriminated, abused, and mistreated. There are multiple indirect and direct records of the suffering women went trough during this horrible and sad period in history. “Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl” by Harriet Jacobs happens to be a vivid account of the incidents in the life of Jacobs, a misfortune girl that as a child tragically lost her parents and discovered she was a slave. Referring to the terrible condition of slavery, she wrote: “You never knew what it is to be slave; to be entirely unprotected by law or custom; to have the laws reduce you to the condition of a chattel, entirely subject to the will of another.” (49)
Women start sacrificing from the time they are born, from being taught how to dress up and taught all the house chorus instead of being educated. The father passes his daughter’s hand to their husband and tie her to another bond. In a marriage a strong foundation is required to build a stable relationship. Many times marriage is defined as the male being the dominant provider, while the female takes upon the rol...
I believed that men should always take the initiatives in most situations, such as invitations and proposals. When I am interested in a man, I would only provide hints but never take the actions, remaining in the passive position. Many advertisements I saw include men proposing to women with a diamond ring, and I thought it should never be the opposite. Though after enrolling this class, I am starting to shift my idea of gender roles, most of the concepts are deeply rooted in my mind. Jhally (2009) discusses that it would be against the norms for females to do what a males, just as males would not show femininity. If I grew up in a different culture where media promotes a different concept, perhaps the exact opposite of ours, I would act entirely unlike and my ways of interacting would not be the same because advertisements are essentially our culture. The gender roles presented in the media influence our action, and it is an abnormal concept that has been integrated as part of our
The search for love is a dilemma most people are faced with at some point. Many different reality shows have been released over the years focusing on relationships. However the television show, The Bachelor, takes reality T.V. dating to the next level. Different from most dating reality T.V. shows, the participants on The Bachelor are looking for much more than just a relationship; the end goal is a proposal. The show revolves around a single bachelor who is essentially dating an entire group of woman, typically starting the first episode with around 25. As the show advances the bachelor eliminates women by not offering them a rose during the ceremony. All of the women that do receive a rose are invited to stay another week at the house while continuing to go on dates with the same man. Early in the season, the bachelor goes on large group dates with all of women at once but as the season progresses; the remaining women are also invited on one-on-one dates. The problem with this show is that it depicts love in an illogical way. Because she is the last woman, the bachelor’s logic dictates that she must be the right woman for him. The women and the bachelor of the show are whisked away to romantic and tropical areas to live while dating each other. Aside from the fact that the man these women are dating also is dating 24 other women, the participants in this show are completely removed from actual reality. There is no strain or issues that they have to work through like the real world with honest relationships. In this paper I will explain the issues with The Bachelor and what affects it has on our culture. My research question is: What does...
The socio-biological theory suggests gender appropriate behaviour has evolved to allow humanity to survive. There is supporting evidence in the composition of the human body; men have a larger lung capacity and greater physical strength than women in order to better equip them for protecting their family. In contrast, women are born with child-bearing capacities and are therefore biologically predetermined to care for their children, thus ensuring the human race survives.
Since the beginning of time, marriage exists as a large part of life. The values of marriage change on a year to year basis and as trends continue to change so will marriage. There have been numerous reasons for marriage throughout time such as arranged, wealth, love or many others. In the 18th century, many marriages were based on one’s class and wealth and not true love. Today, many marriages do not take wealth or class into account they focus on that person’s inner self and love. Marriage exists as an overlying theme throughout Pride and Prejudice and every marriage appears for a different reason.
According to Eagley, Wood, and Fishbaugh (1981), women are more concerned than men about the quality of interpersonal relationships. Women take greater responsibility for establishing and maintaining interpersonal bonds, whereas men do not. Also, women are more empathetic and more accurate at decoding nonverbal communication than males. Male gender roles also claim that men should remain independent and not agree closely with others, while it is seen as acceptable for women to conform to group behaviors.
“Arranging a Marriage in India” by Serena Nanda is a well written, informative article aimed at sharing the view of the Indian culture on arranged marriages and also showing how much effort is put into the process of arranging a marriage. Our own culture has evolved into accepting the fact that we are all independent individuals who could not imagine having someone else make such a significant decision for us. Serena Nanda does an excellent job of using her sources within the society as evidence of the acceptance of the arranged marriage aspect of their culture.
I do not pretend to be a complete expert in the vast world of men and women. However, as one of these creatures, I decided early on in life to do my best to figure out the relationship between us and our counterparts. This was very interesting to me because, unlike most people, I do not believe that we simply "evolved" to become what we are today. I believe we were created the way we are by a very big God who knew what He was doing, and did it for a purpose. After a mere 18 years of observation, I have concluded that we as humans are trying to look too deeply into the purpose of "man" and "woman." We make the relationship too complicated. We need to stop prying into why men like football and women like quilts, and simply accept that we do. That is the way it is. And as I shall point out, that is the way it is best.
Here in America, in regards to dating and marriage, we are free to do whatever we please, anytime. Many people enjoy the feeling of spontaneity and randomness because of pure excitement. Newer and better things excite the folks these times and many times if you can kiss the mind, the heart will follow. However, in Japan, things can be very different. In Japanese culture, there is a “certain way” you must act, rules of society that can’t be broken. Otherwise, many people will think of you in a wrong way. To the Japanese, following tradition can be incredibly important in dating and marriage, as such, reputation is also important. Many times, the woman is to be submissive of the man. The man in a sense controls the relationship. He will be the one to say when the dates are, what the woman should do, what they should do, and similar aspects of dating. The Ja...
Men and women have always had their differences, but do those make their lives easier compared ? Both sexes have certain aspects to overcome the opposite sex, yet neither is better than the other. A woman comes into the world and is expected to act certain ways, to follow certain rules, and to be as feminine as she can just be, otherwise man comes into the world and is expected to be strong and being able to do everything only because he is a man. The idea of getting together and planning to become a family should equal both men and women, family is something that both should speak and express their oppinions. Though often times happen when man and woman meet each other, and they feel some kind of feeling that they are born for each other, something that we often called our second half. However after some years of marriage one of the partners feel that he or she isn't loved enough as he/she used to be, and many kinds of contradiction come along. The reason why partners don't get along and understand each other the way they used to is various.The fact that men and women are different is well known. Some of these defferences are constant and some are not, some have changed in the past and some are about to change in the future. Women are very emotional and communicating creatures, though men are more realistic and problem solvers,that's the reason why they have different conceptions of family life and relationship.
Each marriage comes with a different perspective and story, whether it is an arranged marriage or love marriage. Arranged and Love marriages are very similar yet different. Love is the pure feeling of attachment. Arrange marriage is like a blind date in hopes to find love. It could be love at first sight or love after a while so in somewhat way they end up being a love marriage after all because the end result is the same as they get married or find love. In this essay there will be comparison done on love marriage and arrange marriage. Each country has a different perspective on each type of marriage. I will be comparing both marriages in America and India. Love Marriages come with a responsibility of their