Analysis Of Learning To Lie By Judith Viorst

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Marqiana Davis
Professor McGee
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2 December 2016
Is the Truth about Lying Bad for Us? Why do people lie? Think about it how many lies have you told all week... better yet what about in the last twenty- four hours? Sad to say that your response might be more than you expected. Writer Judith Viorst describes, classifies and give examples of various kinds of lies. While Po Bronson author of “Learning to Lie,” examines why kids lie how they grow out of lies, and gets worse once they get older. It has been estimated that the average American tells eleven lies per week (Gunderman). Even for younger children, lying is one of the first things they learn to do. Let’s not ignore the fact that we all have not been through the stage. When a …show more content…

They become immune to their own lies they don’t even recognize when they are doing it. At times people tell white lies to be polite. White lies are harmless lies to tell someone to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. In Learning to Lie Talwar remarks “Often, the parents are proud that their kids are ‘polite’- they do not see it as lying”. For example, for Christmas one of a child’s family members give them a gift but the child does not like it, but instead of being rude and tell them they just act as if they love the gift just be grateful. In the Truth about Lying author Judith Viorst explained that “most of the people I have talked with say that they find social lying acceptable and necessary. They think it’s the civilized way for folks to behave”. Such as when someone ask you if you wanted to eat dinner with them and you respond by saying that you are busy that night knowing that you really are going to stay at home and watch movies. Sometimes it is just unnecessary to not tell the …show more content…

If a person keeps telling white lies will eventually lead to the person not trusting you as a friend and they will probably end the entire friendship. Maybe the person that was doing the lying might just stop being their friend since they feel the need to tell white lies daily. Also, there are white lies that people use to leave any confrontation such as excusing their selves to leave, changing the subject, etc. Everyone has told these simple white lies and the bad thing about it is that people do not even think that they are really lies. Which is probably why they keep telling them without feeling any type of way after. Individuals might not know but there are different types of white lies. There a certain type of lies called, outright lies. These are the lies that have no truth in them. And there are soften truths these are the lies that were really supposed to be the truth but once they start lying you don’t even say the

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