Spanking is not a good discipline and it should not be used on children. It is not any more effective than any other punishment like grounding the child. So why get physical when there are many other options, the kid can be grounded, lose privileges, another good way is to be verbal with them. Tell the child what they did wrong rather than hitting them and moving on, that will not change their behavior. In To Kill A Mockingbird Jem and Scout were rarely spanked by Atticus. Jem said that he had been spanked very few times and he is a very respectful boy, he does what he is asked now that he is a little older. Scout has not been spanked by Atticus and she is becoming more respectful with age. Atticus talks to the children, he talks out the problem. Atticus makes sure the kids know what they did wrong and how to fix it. It is easier to be verbal with them rather than physical. …show more content…
Secondly in the first article by Murray Straus it says “ the more parents spank, the more likely kids are to hit the parent.” Murray Straus also says that “ the more kids get spanked, the higher the child’s score on a post-trumatic stress test.
It can be a very traumatic experience for the child. Sometimes the child does not even know what they did wrong and feel like they are hit for no reason. The child must understand what they did wrong first before any punishment is given. Lastly in the article by Murray Straus it talks about how spanking does not eliminate the bad behavior of the child. If spanking does not stop the bad behavior and does not really make a bigger difference than non-physical punishments why do it? Correction and control is the way to go it is non-physical so it will not be traumatic and the child will know what they did wrong, and it should be explained how to fix what they
did. There are people who believe it is okay to spank which is talked about in the second article by Robert Larzelere. Although it says it should be the last resort of the parent once everything else has been tried, it is still traumatic even if it only happens once and awhile. Showing love to the kid after you hit them is not really a way to make it less traumatic. Someone much larger than that child is hitting them then say, hugging them that is pretty traumatic. Yes, it is still traumatic for the child and is still not any better than finding a non-physical punishment. Larzelere says “find an adequate non-physical consequence, like a "timeout" or taking away privileges.” Spanking is not any more effective than a non-physical punishment. So why cause the child problems like post-traumatic stress and depression along with being abusive to others. If the child does something wrong Larzelere says “they should try to understand a child, make sure the child understands what is expected of them.” Talk to the child and stop the spanking, stand up and make a change.
Spanking is permitted in many U.S. States but it does very by state. I would inform the parents that in the state of South Carolina, it is legal to spank your child for punishment if for sole purpose of restraining or correcting, and the force has is reasonable in manner and moderate in degree. (Kidjacked Spanking Laws, 2014) I have always felt that spanking doesn't work. It can temporarily stop the unwanted behavior, but the most effective forms of discipline are those that teach children how to control their behavior. Spanking could teach your child to be afraid of you when they have done something wrong, but it does not teach the child the real consequences of their behavior.
Spanking doesn’t allow children to learn the reasons why to act appropriately. When parents use physical punishment, such as spanking, to discipline their children, they do so in order to improve their child’s behavior. According to a report composed by a lead researcher in the field of pediatrics, spanking does not teach children the reason for why they are being punished or why their behavior was wrong. Spanking teaches children to act in a desired way only because of fear of being punished. Being a victim of spanking, I only feared the idea of being spanked, and that is why I changed my behavior for the time being. I did not actually understand the reasoning for why I was being punished. Spanked children do not understand the positive and important reasons for acting properly.
Spanking, a supposed form of child abuse, is the best way to discipline a child who has behaved against guidelines previously discussed by parents, and does not harm a child in the grand scheme of life. Spanking a child will result in the betterment of a child’s behavior, the lessening chance of the child developing a behavioral disorder, and the assurance that the child will blossom into a well-developed and responsible adult.
The Chicago Tribune author wrote, “Make no mistake: hitting a child hurts, not just physically, but psychologically” (“Child Abuse in Plain View”)...
Holden (2002) reviewed Gershoff’s (2002) meta-analyses of eighty-eight (88) studies and noted that there were both positive and negative outcomes associated with the punishment of spanking. According to Gershoff’s (2002) analysis, the one positive outcome was immediate compliance by the child (Holden, 2002). This result was found to be consistent in five (5) studies. Immediate compliance was defined as the child complying to the parents directive within five (5) seconds. In stark contrast, there were four (4) negative outcomes. The analysis showed a negative effect on the quality of the parent child relationship, the child’s mental health, the child’s perception of being a victim of physical child abuse, and also impacted aggression in adulthood (Holden, 2002).
Many authorities and psychologists believe that spanking breaks a child's spirit and only leads to violence. They think that it causes the child to become depressed, angry or hostile and they have conducted many studies to prove these things. This type of harsh punishment occurs often, but it is called child abuse. There is a great difference between abusing a child and properly disciplining a child. "One is an act of love; the other is an act of hostility, and they are as different as night and day" (Dobson 35).
Spanking teaches the child that violence is a socially accepted behavior to attain a desired result. To better understand this concept, we must first look at how a child’s brain works. From infancy, children learn through observation and imitation. Studies have shown that infants as young as forty-two minutes can successfully replicate simple facial expressions (Metzloff, Decety 492). By eight months, infants can imitate basic motor movement, even after twenty-four hours have passed since the initial movement occurred. At fourteen months, children can apply an imitation to an external situation up to a week after the initial imitation. (Windell, 67-68, 221). A famous example of this is Albert Bandura’s Bobo doll experiment. Christopher Green of York University helps interpret Bandura’s experiment and results: While acknowledging that certain children may have inherited aggressive personalities, Bandura demonstrated that the majority of personality is learned. Adult models were escorted to a room and shown various toys to play with while child observers watched from outside the room. Among the various toys was a clown “bobo” doll. In some “play” sessions, the models demonstrated aggression toward the doll by punching, kicking, hitting and yelling at it. In other sessions, the models quietly pla...
Educators and parents usually administer spankings to children. Spanking usually refers to a child lying, stomach down, across the educator's lap and the parent or teacher repeatedly swatting the child's backside.
Everyone has their own unique parenting style when raising children. Some parents believe in tough love while others coddle their children through to the early twenties. Whatever it may be, every parent deserves to raise their child without the input of a society where twenty-six percent of people do not even have children. They should be able to decide how to punish their children, what they want their children to learn in terms of sexual education, and how they want to overall bring up their children.
Atticus makes them apologize if they have done something wrong. For example, when Jem ruins Ms. Dubose’s garden. “‘I strongly advise you to to go down and have a talk with Mrs.Dubose,’”(138). As a consequence Atticus makes them read to Ms. Dubose. “Atticus,” he said, “she wants me to read to her.” “Read to her?” “Yes sir. She wants me to come every afternoon after school and Saturdays and read to her out loud for two hours. Atticus, do I have to?” “Certainly.” “But she wants me to do it for a month.” “Then you’ll do it for a month.” (140) This quote shows how Atticus isn’t lenient, he makes sure his kids learn that what they have done was wrong. Atticus make sure Jem and Scout respect their elders. He makes sure they say “ma’am” and “sir” when they are talking to someone. For example “Please don’t send me back, please sir,”(39) “Yes ma’am, blanket. It isn’t ours.”(95) In the story Atticus puts a stop to certain stuff and Jem and Scout always need his permission. “‘Jem, Scout,’ said Atticus, ‘I don’t want to hear of poker in any form again. Go by Dill’s and get your pants, Jem. Settle it yourselves.’” (73). Atticus is strict towards his kids because he cares about them and he wants to keep them safe. Atticus is strict by giving his kids consequences, having his kids apologize to others and by putting a stop
When reading chapters four through nine I was evaluating how Atticus treats people. The first people I will evaluate is Jem and Scout. Atticus has a different relationship with each of his children. When Scout got in a fight at school Atticus told her to stop fighting and instead fight with her head. “Atticus had promised me he would wear me out if he ever heard of me fighting anymore; I was far too old and too big for childish things, and the sooner I learned to hold in, the better off everybody would be” (Lee 85).
"Spanking doesn 't work, and it just makes kids mistrustful and aggressive. What we 're teaching them is fear rather than responsibility and problem-solving." said Kimberly Sirl, a clinical psychologist at St. Louis Children 's Hospital (Blythe). This is important because parents need to understand spanking doesn 't work and it results that the child becomes aggressive and mistrustful. Parents are trying to teach their child a lesson but instead making them fearful. Children will be aggressive and think violence is the answer to everything. The point of spanking is to teach the child what they did was wrong but kids don 't get that message when they get physically abused. It teaches them the wrong lesson and they think that it 's okay to spank kids so when they get older they will probably do the same thing. Corporal punishment of a child by a caregiver is legal in every state, but it crosses the line to abuse when a child is injured. Doctors and teachers are required to report to authorities any marks, bruises, cuts or other injuries inflicted on a child (Blythe). Anyone who is a caregiver of a child is legally allowed to hit the child. It only becomes an issue or problem when the child is left with bruises, marks, and injuries. If a doctor or teacher were to see any type of bruise on the child they are required to report it. There is spanking a
Some people believe spanking a child is child abuse, and that it causes the child to grow up aggressive and violent. This would mean that every child that is spanked during their developmental stages will grow up to be an example of bad behavior. However, there is no actual data or information that can confirm that spanking a child will cause a child to grow up to be violent or too aggressive. Children have been trained to obey rules or a set code of behavior for centuries. It is the best way to mold a child to be a respectable adult, and they can pass on the behavior to their future children. It may not always happen, but its pretty effective.
The first thing to look at is the immediate effect physical force has on the child. Seasoned child care provider, author, and host of the international hit television series Supernanny, Jo Frost points out in her latest book that “inflicting pain on a child shuts down the good-judgement part of the brain which then reverts to basic primitive processing, fight-or-flight.” Instead of the child processing what they did that was wrong and learning from the experience, the child’s instincts are instead frantically attempting to protect itself from pain. As many parents who implement corporal punishment will attest, the effect is an immediate halt of the unwanted behaviour. As Frost pointed out, the child, while compliant, is not having a positive learning experience. Without trust and learning, it is likely the child will try harder not to get caught which in turn, creates distance in the parent/ child relationship. While there are plenty of people quick to explain just how “fine” they turned out, there are plenty more who can testify how a swat on the bottom can intensify to a sore rear end, escalate to welts on the back, and in some cases become bruises and bloodied noses. Duke University professors Jennifer Lansford and Kenneth Dodge concluded from
The children could get aggressive over time and start hitting his/her parents. A 2002 study found that across time periods and across countries children that were spanked regularly were found to be more aggressive from childhood to adulthood (brookings.edu). According to several studies done in 1987 and 1990, the more children were hit, or spanked, by their parent or an adult the more likely they were to hit others including peers, siblings, and their spouse later in life along with their future children (handinhandpartenting.org). According to CNN, children that have been regularly spanked have what is known as hostile attribution bias (CNN.com). This means that their brains just automatically expect people to be mean to them or spank them. This makes children essentially hostile towards everyone. If someone is coming towards them like they are going to hit them, then they are going to “bull up” and fight them back. Facts prove that spanking your kids makes them more hostile and more defensive towards others. They don’t always have to be in danger or have others being mean to them for the children to get aggressive and dis the payment back out. It is a proven fact that children who are more aggressive as children are more aggressive as adults. Other sources show that if your child was spanked at school, then they are more aggressive and hostile towards other kids. This is because the protective region in the brain “fires up” and puts them into protective mode. They then tend to mistreat teachers and children when they feel threatened. The more kids are spanked the higher the risk for them to commit Juvenal crime suck as assaulting others, and constantly beating people. Some studies show that adults that were spanked as kids will handle high stressful tension with aggression towards others. Studies also show that children tend to be meaner to their friends as a way of showing their