Children are a precious gift that God gives to adults as they grow in life, from adolescence to adulthood. Individuals are raised from different walks of life and many diverse backgrounds. As adults progress from childhood to adulthood they begin to develop a parental guidance. However, some parents never interpret the correct way to care for a child, creating a negative effect on their life. I feel that it is important to enforce discipline at a young age. Discipline is a great responsibility that all parents need to grasp in order to raise obedient and healthy children, creating an enjoyable life as they mature and become adults. Disciplining a child properly is a method that you as a person have to create. When correcting a child, I believe …show more content…
A child's behavior is seen by his or her outward actions, seeking attention from surrounding individuals causing chaos due to insecurities. The behavior of a corporal punished child establishes self-harm. Corporal punishment produces a child to create pain upon his or her body, leaving scars for life. Children often aspire to find a way to cope with their problems; turning to drugs, battling suicide, or even choosing to abuse their own children when they become adults. Behavioral problems tend to cause a child to have long-term illnesses as they develop throughout life. An illness of the mind and body can affect the establishment of a relationship, producing negative outcomes on marriages. I believe that parents should shower their children with love and care, giving the best method of positive enforcement. A way to correct a child without physical abuse is to use some form of timeout for the child instead of hands on. Using an alternative such as timeout will allow a child to realize the parents' care for them without having to harm them in any …show more content…
People tend to forget that verbal abuse can scar children and diminish their self-esteem. Children do not deserve to be treated with verbal abuse, instead one should speak kind words of encouragement. Encouragement is an element that can be used to lighten a child's emotions. Reassuring a child is an aspect of positive discipline; however, some children live a lifestyle where encouragement is not accustomed to them. "I was an only child, and her constant criticism and putting me down made me feel terrible about myself, and it made me double my efforts to please her" (Aileen). Harsh words can humiliate a child and leave them ashamed of their life, with no respect towards their parents. "Words are still damaging when you have one loving parent who uses his or her words with care and one who is verbally aggressive and abusive" (Ann Polcari). Verbal abuse "inflicts deep emotional pain", leading to children having bitterness. Yelling in a child's face is not the best way to correct them when they are young. Instead, correct them with a punishment, teaching them a lesson. I believe that parents should punish their child for something they like, rather than screaming at them for what they did wrong. Parents need to correct their children in the right manner and with
Parents should be held more accountable for child abuse and neglect. Children are in the hand of their parents or caregivers, and not in the hand of child service workers. Children who are severely disciplined to the point of where they are emotionally deprived and don’t feel wanted could indicate that the family needs to have outside help. Disciplining a child is the one way a parent is allowed to prove their dominance to their child, it doesn't have to be by force, but with how things are today kids think they can do whatever they want. “While parents do need to be the person in control in the parent-child relationship, there are non-abusive ways of disciplining a child”(WebMD). This could include grounding the child and or taking away the things they value the most. “Workers and families should cooperate to develop a treatment plan together to solve problems. This may include referring you and your family to specialized counseling, homemaker services, day care or to other resources you may not know about” (Department of Social Services). Making a family, and or a caregiver goes to a counselor and get a professional outlook on what is going on in your home can provide the parents with other ways of disciplining and dealing with their children. Sometimes makes you realize how wrong a parent or caregiver is. This would include skills like listening to what your child has to say is a key to making a better relationship with them. By working together, it could help solve some issues and help the child and parent become closer. “As a parent who has had to spend the majority of their life dealing with the fallout of an out of control child, some believe that there is only so much that you can ask of someone who raises a child. To hold them responsible for everything is really not fair and does not stress personal
“Verbally abusive parents convey that the child is bad, stupid, and worse. Looking the child in the eyes and explaining that you see the child as a good child who is actually smart etc can make a huge difference to that child's self-image” (“Verbal Abuse of” par. 15). This means the most simple action and conversation can really change the outcome of their future and can help lean them to live a better life. According to an article, “verbal abuse causes people to feel fear. However, victims may deny or not recognize their anxiety and feelings of wanting to get away as fear of the abuser” (“Effects of Verbal” par. 1).
An example can be if Timmy decides he wants to go to a party on Friday. His parents tell him he has to be back by 9:00 pm. He gets angry and decides to come back home at 11:00 pm. When he gets home his parents punish him by beating him with a stick. They do not explain to him why they are hitting him or they do not take the time to ask why he has arrived home late. As a result to this form of discipline the children usually react quickly and do not make an attempt to negotiate with their parents in fear that they will receive more discipline. The outcome of this type of parenting style is that the child usually becomes unfriendly, anxious, distrusted, and withdrawn. Most of them also have a low self-esteem. A positive outcome is that the child becomes academically successful beca...
A child’s ability to interact positively with others, to self-regulate, and to effectively communicate his or her emotions has a great impact on the parent-child relationship. Children with challenging behaviors are more likely to be abused, so early identification and intervention helps keep their development on track and keeps them safe. Also, children who have experienced or witness violence need a safe environment that offers trauma-informed care and helps them to develop normally. 4.
Isolation is unable to help a child to calm down and regain control over emotions. Only parents’ presence and their comforting support are able to assist a child to build self-discipline and make a child more cooperative and more receptive to the parental guidance. “Kids tend to misbehave when the situation or their feelings tax their capacity to handle things. And when they do try to express these big emotions, they may act out in ways that are aggressive or disrespectful” (Siegel and Bryson “The trouble” 42). The objective of parents is to help the child to overcome the emotions, to assist in understanding of their nature, and to guide to master self-discipline. Often the child’s misbehavior is a call for parental attention and love. By using “time-out” approach, parents limit their ability to influence a child, and to set an example of self-discipline by taking control over the emotions. “Time-out” demonstrates to the child that parents are not able to control their own emotions and give up on teaching a little one how to manage feelings and make better choices. “Studies in neuroplasticity—the brain’s adaptability—have proved that repeated experiences actually change the physical structure of the brain” (Siegel and Bryson “Time-outs”, par. 2). It comes as no surprise when teenagers shut the door in front of parents’ faces without any slight contribution to resolving the
Each parent is different; they all have different ways in parenting and disciplining their children. One’s own parenting style is usually derived from the way one was raised or the society one lives in. Parenting styles include authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive, and it is very important to know which style one falls in because it can have an effect on how one’s child grows up to be and develops. Authoritative parenting would be the better parenting style because it is in the middle of the parenting styles; it is not at the extreme ends of the spectrum. It can be very beneficial to parents to understand that how one raises their children can give them a foundation for good development for years to come.
Acknowledging that there are benefits and potential hazards, the author seeks to find which side supersedes the others in terms of effects on the child. She gives the opinions and general consensus of most psychologists and related professionals on these issues. The article is broken up into concise sections that address behavioral factors and disciplinary practices including but not limited to aggression, abuse, and parental goals behind using corporal punishment. She furthers her analysis with case studies and a conclusion for a continuation of
Such parents believe that according to the biblical concept the issue of disciplining the child is obligated to the parents themselves. The Bible itself demands that the guardian becomes accountable and diligent in applying the concept of disciplining the child. The concept calls for reasonable, controlled as well as a balancing act of physical punishment on the child. In the extreme instances, cases of disobedience are met with physical corrections that have set limit. This will go a long way in ensuring that the children conform to right morals that are acceptable in the society.
Various people will argue that, because yelling is such a common way to express frustration, there is nothing negative about yelling at a child. In fact, 90% of Americans yell at their children proving the prevalence of yelling at children in today’s society (Entin, Esther, M.D.). This prevalence is further proved by copious amount of parents who will admit to yelling at a child at least once, and will claim that not only was being yelled at common in the household in which he or she grew up, but is also common in the household that he or she now manages (Dr Anitha Anchan). It is further argued that children can grow numb to and can learn how to handle being yelled at simply due to the fact that a child is around that form of communication
Because the beliefs, education and cultures of people vary so much, along with the age of the child, methods of child discipline vary widely. The topic of child discipline involves a wide range of fields such as parenting, behavioural analysis, developmental psychology, social work and various religious perspectives. Advances in the understanding of parenting have provided a background of theoretical understanding and practical understanding of the effectiveness of parenting methods.
This essay will discuss whether it is thought that punishment is effective and whether it is currently thought to work, additionally it will examine the best ways to change a child’s behaviour in terms of positive and negative reinforcements. The issue of child punishment has received considerable critical attention within many cultures. Punishment towards children can be argued to be a very controversial area. It is argued that many people have been brought up with distinctive beliefs about punishments toward a child. A child’s upbringing is argued by many researchers to be key to how they will go on to treat their own children in the future. This can surely be argued to be a negative effect of physical punishment. It is becoming increasingly difficult to ignore the effects of what severe punishment may have on a child. Later convictions of violence and the evidence of damaging effects on well-being, corporal punishment has on children is overwhelming. However, it is not ingrained that corporal punishment is definitely damaging. There is also sufficient evidence to corporal punishment being an effective form of discipline, if used appropriately. It is thought that corporal punishment helps parents retain control over their children’s behaviour. This essay will consider the various forms of punishment, such as physical punishments and whether they are considered to work. This is essay will also consider effective ways of changing a child’s behaviour including the use of classical and operant conditioning and studies that support the theories and how they can be applied to real life. Classical conditioning for example uses learning through association, memory prompts the person to associate an object/ sound to a certain behaviour. ...
Never discipline a child in anger because then you might yell at them saying things that you have no business saying to a child or spanking harder then you intended on. If a child lives with criticism then they learn to resent because they feel that they can not do anything right. You want your child to respect you and not fear you. Children comply with expected rules because they respect their parents and will rebel when treated unfairly. Be consistent with your discipline and be firm but fair. If you follow these guidelines it is likely that you will have a well behaved child that is considerate of others feelings and has meaningful relationships in life.
I believe that parents should encourage love, and accept their children rather than using physical and emotional abuse to shape their child. Growing up discipline was just apart of my everyday life. Short tempered,no patience my father had. He grew up doing exactly what his parents had taught him. A family cycle lingered on to his generation and on to mine. My fathers way of communicating was by yelling; disciplining us with his hand or by an object like his belt. Loud words swearing profusely under such anger happened more frequently then one could imagine. Growing up with a parent that was emotionally,physically abusive was torture.
As a child, it is important that you receive positive and negative reinforcement so you know what is right and wrong. If a child is insulted their entire life and told that everything they do is wrong, they will have a very unstable life with allot of uncertainty and most times end up depressed, however if a child is complemented and everything they do is enforced with positivity, they will end up with high self esteem and have a more enjoyable life. There also is a tipping point though, if a child is constantly enforced with positivity regardless of what happens, they won't know what is right or wrong, this is a big issue because they will do harm, and be unaware of the consequences, but like complements, there is a tipping point for insults. If a child is insulted all his life even if they did the correct thing, like the positivity child, the negativity child won't recognize what is right and what is wrong, but they will think differently. When a child gets older, into teenage years, their emotions become more sensitive because of hormones.
In conclusion, by eliminating punishment, using the kind and firm technique and by having a relationship based on mutual respect, parents can properly discipline their children without being abusive. Although, positive discipline may not provide immediate results, it will actively stop misbehavior instead of redirecting