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I believe that parents should encourage love, and accept their children rather than using physical and emotional abuse to shape their child. Growing up discipline was just apart of my everyday life. Short tempered,no patience my father had. He grew up doing exactly what his parents had taught him. A family cycle lingered on to his generation and on to mine. My fathers way of communicating was by yelling; disciplining us with his hand or by an object like his belt. Loud words swearing profusely under such anger happened more frequently then one could imagine. Growing up with a parent that was emotionally,physically abusive was torture.
My father was a walking time bomb. Sometimes you would be able to tell when he was going to explode,but most of the time you had no clue;what would set his bomb off, it could be a small minor thing that he would take way out of context. When I disobeyed my father or even talked back there were serious consequences. For example I was about fifteen years old. My father was sitting on the couch I was in the kitchen cooking dinner...

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