Unacceptance of People

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Being unwanted, unloved, and forgotten is one of the hardest things that one may have to cope with. In the book “Theories of Relativity” by Barbara-Attard Haworth, the poem “Behind her Tears” by Jessica Sanches, and the short story “The Ugly Duckling” by Hans Christian Andersen, all share a similar theme which is feeling unaccepted in one’s family, or community. The feeling of being unwanted crosses each and every mind at least once, and it impacts that someone’s life. They also try their hardest just to fit in, and they will always find a way through.
Someone’s life could drastically change just by the way they are treated, and the way they feel. In the book, “Theories of Relativity”, the main character Dylan, lives on the streets because he is unwanted by his own mother. This changes his whole perspective on life. Seeing that he needs to adapt to his surroundings, he learns to survive on his own. He goes through many hazards like people doing drugs, gangs, and parties involving alcohol. He never wants to be like that, but he gets tempted and decides to use drugs, it changes his life. “‘No, Thanks,’ I say. A party, a beer, a snort of coke, a joint, a night of warmth off the street.” Dylan is declining the offer of going to a party, because he does not want to lose control of himself. Dylan is always cautious of what he does, but he does end up losing control later on, and is greatly affected. In the poem, “Behind Her Tears”, the girl mentioned feels unaccepted. She takes the pain away by drinking, smoking, and cutting herself. She feels as if the people insulting her enjoy watching her in pain. This impacts her life, because she feels as if she should just die, and if she does it would not matter. This girl is greatly affected b...

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...will not be able to see things turn around and find where they belong.
Many may encounter the feeling of being unaccepted in their family or community, but they should try not to let that affect their life. Most of the time, this feeling impacts people, which changes their view on life and the way they act. People try so hard to fit in with the crowd, instead of helping themselves. But no matter how bad it gets, one can pull their life together if they try. Mother Teresa said “Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty,” Being alone, and unwanted can really change one’s life.

Works Cited

Haworth-Attard, Barbara. Theories of Relativity. Toronto: HarperCollins, 2003. Print.
Andersen, Hans Chrisitian. The Ugly Duckling. N.p.: Planet, 2012. Print.
Jessica, Sanches. "Behind Her Tears." Best Teen Poems. N.p., n.d. Web. 18 Dec. 2013.

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