Do you believe in true love? It is at the core of every Fairy Tale imaginable. Fairy Tales usually begin with a charming prince and a beautiful princess intertwining in a miraculous tale of romance and wonder with an evil figure that must be defeated in order for the two to live happily ever after. With that being said, it doesn't seem to be too realistic or like it could be present in modern day America, or anywhere in the world for that matter, so I choose not to believe that it may exist. Many people confuse love with passion or lust and the fairytale receives this confusion as well. Now the prince and the princess barely know each other after only seeing each other a couple of times before the prince declares that he is in love with Cinderella and that he must search the entire kingdom to find her in order to be with his true love. Who is to say that the prince didn't just have a very strong passion or lust for her, one so deep with a desire to be fulfilled that he would use any powers that he has at his disposal to retrieve our fair maiden for himself? Snapping back to modern day, studies show that lust and/or passion is centered in the “motivation/reward” side of the brain, while emotional love is found more in the “empathy/caring” side. With that being said there are also studies that show that love …show more content…
Ironically, the most exhilarating of human emotions, love, is just a more sophisticated version of lust, a way to keep our species repopulating and growing. We believe that we are choosing whom we are to fall in love with but, studies show that we are merely following nature's great plan. It is said that within the first four minutes of seeing someone, you can tell if you are attracted to them or not. That being said, if we can tell if we are attracted to somebody that quickly, could that completely disprove love existing at
Lust is an incredibly strong feeling that can prove to be almost uncontrollable, leading it to commonly be mistaken for love. Due to the relative closeness of these emotions, both are often confused, and even when one is in love he or she does not recognize it. Many think that love just comes knocking on one's door and one will know when it does, but they don't realize that for love to occur a relationship has must be worked out. Love is described by some as fireworks, tingles, and butterflies in the stomach; but it is lust that can cause these things to happen, and it is these that mark only the beginning of a relationship. After a while, these feelings die out, and this is when the honeymoon period is over; it is from this point on that the relationship will either end or get stronger and eventually lead to true love.
Every day it’s possible to find something related to romance. There are so many “epic” stories that have gone down in history but a lot of them were infatuation mistaken for true love. Infatuation is a lot like love so it’s difficult to pick the two apart. They both are strong intense feelings and make you feel the same emotions but infatuation typically takes off very fast and is short lived. It’s more of an obsession based off of physical attraction and leads to absurd, impulsive decisions. A lot of the qualities of this fixation describe Romeo and Juliet’s marriage. “Romeo, Romeo, Romeo, I drink to thee!” (IV.iv.58) in this scene Juliet drank poison so she could fake her death to be with her lover which is an insane choice. When in love crazy things can be done but with infatuation a person will do anything to feel the euphoria again without even giving the consequences much thought. This is alike what Juliet did because she didn’t have any second thoughts until the very last minute before drinking the poison. “The measure done, I’ll watch her place of stand / And, touching hers, make blessed my rude hand. / Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! / For I ne’er saw true beauty till this night.” (I.V.50-53) this was when he first saw her. As previously stated infatuation can be based off of physical attraction and this was when Romeo first saw her; he hadn’t even talked to
Ninety percent of Americans marry by the time that they are fifty; however, forty to fifty percent of marriages end in divorce ("Marriage and Divorce"). Love and marriage are said to go hand in hand, so why does true love not persist? True, whole-hearted, and long-lasting love is as difficult to find as a black cat in a coal cellar. Loveless marriages are more common than ever, and the divorce rate reflects this. The forms of love seen between these many marriages is often fleeting. Raymond Carver explores these many forms of love, how they create happiness, sadness, and anything in between, and how they contrast from true love, through his characters in "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love". Four couples are presented: Mel and Terri, Nick and Laura, Ed and Terri, and, most importantly, an unnamed elderly couple; each couple exhibits a variation on the word love.
Love can mean so many different things. It is unconditional, selfless, accepting; an addictive feeling people crave. When a person falls in love, they fall in love with their heart and not their head. It’s an impulse from emotion, not rational judgement. Love is sometimes beyond control, defying logical reason. It is beautiful and insane all at once and doesn’t always make sense. Love and irrationality are set as the same, however rival entities, in a Midsummer’s Dream. As Shakespeare wrote, “...to say the truth, reason and love keep little company together nowadays.” This is communicated through the story, specifically through four teenage lovers -- Hermia, Helena, Demetrius,
True love is something that occurs naturally, without compulsion and pressure from any influential factors. The characters Romeo and Juliet die fighting for their infatuation that Shakespeare attempts to label as love. Neither character has an eloquent idea of what true love is; they are so inexperienced that they mistake their lust to be love. In the play, “The Most Excellent and Lamentable Tragedy of Romeo and Juliet,” Shakespeare expresses a romantic lust between the protagonists that fails to prove itself as true love because of struggles and conflicts that bring Romeo and Juliet together.
One may ask what love is, how do you define love? You can look up the word love in the dictionary and find ten or more different explanations. Most sociologists consider love to be learned through cultural experiences (Love). This would mean that however or if persons parents showed them love while growing up, that is how that individual would interpret love throughout their life. When the Puritans first came to America, their concept of love was less of a romantic passion and more of a deepening reciprocal of respect and affection (Seidman 16). During the Enlightenment (1714-1818), love was typically viewed as a rational and orderly experience that could be controlled by those who experienced it (Sternberg 69). Love was assumed to be a rational feeling made by rational people and thus could be controlled. This belief had a major alteration during the eighteenth and nineteenth century when people began to believe that love was uncontrollable and could happen without reason (Sternberg 70). This change in the perception of love being uncontrollable also shifted the conclusion that people were not as rational as first presumed. In the late twentieth century, love became more sexualized and erotic which became perceived as a crisis in sexual morality and marriage (Seidman 66). Love today is viewed as unobtainable by reason of Americans have unrealistic expectations of love, true love, love at first sight, and the idea that love conquers all (Love). As a result of these unrealistic views, Americans have moved back to the concept that love is controllable but not necessary for a “romantic” relationship (Sternberg 63). As presented, love and the interpretation of what love is has transformed dramatically over the past two hundred years ...
Love comes in many different forms and for many different reasons. Not many people can explain love or even their love for something or someone. It is simply a powerful state that comes over oneself and cannot be helped. Love makes people do many things. Some makes people act foolish when in love, others act as strongly as the force itself. True love is a cause that should be fought for until the death. Lysistrata and A Midsummer Night's Dream are two examples of very different love stories but yet both with love as a central theme. Because as with true love, when writing about love, there are simply no rules
Love at First Sight Is love at first sight real? “Scientists say we are genetically wired for the possibility of love at first sight, but why it happens to some people and not others is largely a matter of timing and self-assurance” (Bernstein 1). The timing and self-assurance for Claudio could not have been any more perfect. Once Claudio had set his eyes on Hero, he immediately fell in love. Claudio fell in love with Hero based on her beauty.
One of the things people tend to mistake for love is lust. What they do not notice is the love is the desire to be with someone emotionally and it takes time to develop. Meanwhile, lust is based on a person's physical features and it occurs after a short interaction. Romeo and Juliet is a good example of lust being the truth behind of love at first sight. For instance, when describing Rosaline Romeo said, "she is rich in beauty, only poor That when she dies, with beauty, dies her store" (1.1.209-210) making her seem like she was the most beautiful girl and how it is a pity she refuses to bless a child with it.
True love is real. It is always real because it feels real. True love is experiential and embodied. In “Princess Bride,” the story of true love takes us on a journey to a fantastic Ireland and its incredible landscapes, such as Cliffs of Moher. The main protagonists, Westley and Buttercup, are truly in love with each other, and nothing can take them apart. Their lives took an unexpected turn, and they had to be separated from each other. Buttercup thought that her beloved Westley had died. That is why she had decided to marry Prince Humperdinck. Yet, she was not in love with the Prince. Buttercup had clearly understood that her love for Westley was the only real love of her life. During their life quests for their love and, ultimately,
Some people get the word love mixed up with lust. People do this because they tend to forget that when in love, sex is never a necessity but an accessory to the feeling. Lust and love have so many differences it is considered ridiculous. Some people say that they love someone just to get the physical action that is so commonly wanted but never really needed. Lust is something that is completely physical, while love is the complete opposite. Love is a feeling so euphoric that everything, but at the same time nothing m...
There are many different kinds of love, as well as many different feelings associated with being in love. How we express these feeling, as well as the behavior love evokes when felt towards a person is how to recognize the good and bad sides of love. Love is an emotion that a person feels inside, and one that is so overwhelming sometimes we feel as though we may burst, and this is a good side of love. However, some types of love can hurt. Expressions of love, when displayed in a negative way, then become a bad side of love.
We, as a society, have become a loveless, sex crazed group of people with no concern for any emotion or attachment in our lives. So does this mean that true love does not exist? No. This only shows that achieving the deepest of feelings takes work that our fast-food eating, TV watching generation is not prepared to handle. I believe that true love does exist, but has merely been pushed aside by convenience, superficiality, and apathy.
True love is when you are comfortable with the person you love, and can’t seem to stop think about them, and are willing to give up everything you have for them, that’s the way Romeo and Juliet feel for each other. Romeo and Juliet both give up their family names, and commit suicide so they can be together forever. Friar Lawrence also truly loves Romeo and therefore he continues to warn him about his hasty love decisions and agrees to marry him to Juliet. True love does exist in the play Romeo and Juliet by the well-known writer William Shakespeare and is demonstrated by the characters Romeo, Juliet and Friar Lawrence.
Love is everywhere. Anthropologists studied romantic love in societies and found evidence of it in 170 societies. In fact, they have not found a society that didn’t have romantic love. Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and human behavior researcher, relates romantic love to somebody camping in your head. Lisa Kudrow, as Phoebe from Friends, relates love to “a work of art.” While poet Ralph Waldo Emerson relates love to a hunter. Whichever spectrum you fall on or between, love effects all of us in life altering ways. In fact, according to a twitter survey that 891 people participated in, when asked if love affects them more behaviorally, emotionally, physically, or psychologically; 48% chose emotionally. Meaning that 427/891 people are