Some messages and beliefs we unconsciously take in as kids are life-giving, while others wound. Most of us unknowingly surrender our lives to the messages that most perforate our beauty”. (Crone & Stable, 2016, pg. 33) In reading these words, I reflected on how for the first twenty-one years of my life I fixated on wound messages from my childhood and the negative effect these messages had on my self-concept, friendships, education, and relationship with God (Smith, C. In Class Hand Out, January 29, 2018). As a child people would tell you, “ you will be just like your mother, an illiterate welfare teen mother with no father for your kids.” Or, “shut-up you don’t know what you’re talking about, your just stupid." And “are you sure, your such …show more content…
Building Blocks of Communication. January 22, 2018). As a leader in my church community, I’ve experienced this illusion of communication taking place (Smith, Cheryl. Building Blocks of Communication. January 22, 2018). Before attending this interpersonal communication course, I blamed others for I thought the problem was a lack of listening on their part. However, during the last five weeks, I concluded my communication skills need improvement. Aspects of verbal communication which need improvement include, developing my language skills, so the messages I send are clear and sensitive, keeping in mind the subgroups I work with and the potential language differences (Galvin, 1999). Additionally, speaking more clearly is also an aspect which I need to improve and can improve by expanding my vocabulary, speaking appropriately, avoiding jargon, slang and using language that is specific, concrete and precise as well as statements that are dated and indexed (Galvin, 1999). Facial expressions, vocal behavior, and working towards my voice, face and my body supporting my words are areas of nonverbal communication that need improvement (Galvin, 1999). As my family and mentor have provided feedback on how I verbally communicate a message, but my nonverbal communication does not support my words. Gaining this insight helped me understand why my son …show more content…
Galvin, (1999) also reports, if one of the steps to listening is missing, listening has not occurred and there are no shortcuts to active listening (p.61). In addition to reading Galvin’s _______________ I also interacted with a nonverbal immediacy scale and listening awareness inventory to provide insight on my communication skills (CHERYL SMITH, January 28, 2018). In my interaction with these assessments demonstrated I am below average on the nonverbal immediacy scale and need to work on my listening awareness (Cheryl Smith, January 28, 2018). Aside from my results my husband and sister completed the nonverbal immediacy scale and listening awareness inventory on my behalf. Their results we opposite to my findings, both my husband and sister rated me at the mean on the nonverbal immediacy scale and a good listener on the listening awareness inventory (Smith, C. Listening Awareness Inventory & Nonverbal Immediacy Scale. January 28, 2018). Comparing my results and family results of these assessments leads me to the believe I am critical of myself and although I have room for growth my communication skills are not as terrible as deemed. Nevertheless, there is always room for growth. Thus, I feel I need to continue to work on the responding element. While participating in Reflective listening during a class session, it was
In every society nonverbal communication is one of the most powerful tools that a person can use to interpret the message that is being delivered. Even though verbal communication is fairly straightforward, nonverbal communication allows others to sense the true emotions of the person that is expressing them. For example even though a person may say that they are not irritated, their usage of voice may display otherwise. Nonverbal communication not only reveals hidden messages, but it also complements, substitutes, and exaggerates verbal communication.
Most of us think that we listen well, but we don’t. Not really hearing what others are trying to say can get costly. When people don’t feel heard they tend to get irritated, confused, and pull away from each other. In the book, “Why Don’t We Listen Better?” Petersen describes in detail communication in five sections. Petersen’s communication consists of two people who connect on a gut level through a respectful talking and listening interaction. One person takes the role of the talker and his or her goal is to share his or her thoughts and feelings. The other person takes the role of the listener and clarifies what the talker says in a safe and understanding environment.
There are all different types of communication that people will use through out their life. The most important type of communication is interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication differs from other forms of communication in that there are few participants involved, the participants are in close proximity to each other, there are many sensory channels used, and feedback is immediate. Interpersonal communication is the information received from listening to what someone else is saying. Interpersonal communication always uses intonation, diction and enunciation to give meaning to information. Intonation, diction and enunciation sometimes give more meaning to what is being said than the actual words themselves. In the following paragraphs, I will explain to the reader the importance of interpersonal communication in business.
(2014) used the Listening Styles Profile-Revised (LSP-R). This scale was revised by Bodie, Worthington, and Gearhart in 2013 and is “…based on four factors: relational, analytical, task-oriented, and critical listening”. Relational listeners (RL) are responsive and considerate of others’ feelings. “RL captures listening as a way to establish and maintain interpersonal relationships” (Gearhart et al., 2014). Analytical listening (AL) is used to gather all of the information from the message being received before coming to a judgment (Gearhart et al., 2014).
In order to determine whether or not my listening style changes in various situations, I decided to perform an assessment of my conversations over the past ten days. The first evaluation I conducted occurred after volunteering at my child’s school, and yielded some rather interesting results. I reflected upon my conversations with the teachers, and settled on my listening style being more content-oriented; while my interaction with the children was almost completely people-oriented. I had predicted that my listening style would be more balanced between all of the age groups involved; however, I could not relay many of the details discussed with the children after my volunteering time ended. I am happy to say that I did retain most of the content of my conversations with the teachers, but had no recollection of an emotional impression with t...
The ability to listen effectively significantly impacts all relationships, be it professional, personal or social. The prevailing issue with effective listening, however, is two-fold, in not truly understanding the meaning of listening and not possessing the tools required to be an effective listener. The skill of listening, according to Dr. Robert Bolton (1979), extends beyond simply hearing sound as a physiological sensory process but instead requires and involves interpreting and understanding the sensory experience or what is being heard (p 32). It also is an active experience wherein the listener is fully engaged and has absorbed the information of the speaker while showing interest and providing feedback, all while demonstrating that they have heard and understand the message. It is a fair assertion that most people in varying relationships and environments listen in what is considered passive capacity, or only digest and process bits and pieces of the speaker’s message.
On a daily basis, we come in contact with individuals that we have to communicate with, wither it be for work purposes, educational purposes, or social practices. As active humans we cannot escape the idea of socializing or communication, therefor; we make it a daily routine who we communicate with, how we communicate with them, what we listen to and how we listen it. With this routine habits are formed, some are strengths but others are weaknesses that diminish the communication quality. It is extremely important for individuals to recognize these strengths and weakness within their communication routine. By recognizing their strengths, they are able to improve even further and use their ability to get them closer to goals they may have set for themselves. Recognizing their weaknesses is just as important if not more important.
Schmidt (2004) stated a nod of the head or a raised eye brow may be all that is asked of a listener. We need to be on the look out for implicit requests for more information that include honest feedback action to fulfill a need. One thing is for certain. The more precise we can be about what we want from another person the more likely we are to get what we want (pg2).
Interpersonal communication is one of the significant skills while communicating with other individuals. It normally covers an extensive area and includes both verbal and non-verbal communication. Body language and facial expression may affect the accurateness of the message transmission directly. Interpersonal communication skills normally ensure that the message is sent and received correctly without any alteration thus improving the communication efficiency. Learning diverse aspects of interpersonal communication has greatly aided me in better understanding of what it consists. I am capable of applying the knowledge gained from this course to my personal experiences. This paper reflects on my personal experience in learning interpersonal communication.
In our growing, diverse society it’s very important to have diverse communication skills. The reason for this is because it brings richness in our society. Effective communication helps us better understand a person or situation and enables us to resolve differences, build trust and respect, and create environments where creative ideas, problem solving, affection, and caring can flourish (Robinson, Lawrence, and Jeanne Segal). It helps our society flourish. Communication is the process of understanding information through the transmittal of words, actions, hidden messages, signals or thoughts. Communicating in a world of diversity may require more than just a transmittal of words. Communication sometimes require more than one process depending on who you are communicating to. Communicating in a world of diversity has many benefits. Communication is split into two parts which is listening and speaking. Speaking as well as listening goes hand in hand with each other. Speaking and listening is verbal and nonverbal. Listening is one of the most important aspects of effective communication (Robinson, Lawrence, and Jeanne Segal). It’s not always what is being said but rather what is being done. Non-verbal communication is a big part in communication also. Both the talker and listener are participating in non-verbal communication. Non-verbal communication is depicting the body language, body movement, gestures, postures, eye contact, or either one of the five senses. Developing the ability to understand and use nonverbal communication can help you connect with others, express what you really mean, navigate challenging situations, and build better relationships at home and work (Robinson, Lawrence, an...
In turn, having competent communicative abilities contributes to progression and maturation in many aspects of life, with education and employment being majorly affected facets. Upon entering this course this semester, I was unaware of my lack of important communication skills interpersonally, intrapersonally, and interprofessionally. Throughout my semester in this course, I have explored many different styles and skills used in communication. I have been able to recognize my strengths and weaknesses, and I have also been able to make noticeable and satisfying incremental improvements to enhance my communication. In this paper I will reflect on the knowledge I have gained throughout this semester that has allowed me to better my communication skills; I will do this by providing examples from my life. Furthermore, I will explore how I can continue to develop my commination skills in the future.
The presence, or absence, of skills that relate to communication with oneself (intrapersonal communication) are critical influencers of many other aspects of oneself (Beebe, 2015). In particular, one’s intrapersonal communication impresses on one’s intrapersonal communication: mutual communication between yourself and at least one other (Beebe, 2015). The relationship between these two types of communication is complex and worth exploring. Using examples from seminar and my own life, in this paper, I will analyze my own self-concept and perception, and relate my intrapersonal communication skills to their effects on my interpersonal communication skills. I
Interpersonal communication is very important in everyday life. It helps us build a relationship with another, also it helps us to satisfy our physical needs, identity needs, social needs and practical goals. Communication lets people exchange their feeling and information through verbal and non-verbal communication through social media or face to face communication. Communication can be effective and ineffective depend on the individual communication skills. The ways we communicate with another can be influenced by family, friends, significant other also within the culture and region where we stay. Each person has a different set of rule to communicate with another, so this is how miscommunication happen. There are some expectation and way
Frankly speaking, I'm not a strong listener, I have room for improvement. On the listening skills test, I fill out the questionnaire according to my personal situation. I acknowledge that I still have room improvement in listening skills. The results reflect that I seldom interrupt others or otherwise disrupt the flow of a conversation suppose I make it a point to be patient. I always unwilling to interrupt others when I'm interacting with others. As far as I'm concerned, this is respect for others, in the meantime, it also improves the listening effectiveness. To my surprise, the results of questionnaire are accurate, the results clearly reflect my weakness and strengthen in listening skills. So that I can clearly know how to improve my listening
Communication is one of the most important factors in our lives. It dictates the relationships formed with the individuals in personal and professional lives. Effective communication provides a foundation for trust and respect to grow. It also helps better understand a person and the context of the conversation. Individuals often believe that their communication skills are much better than what they actually are. Communication appears effortless; however, much of what two people discuss gets misunderstood, thus leading to conflicts and distress. To communicate effectively, one must understand the emotion behind the information being said. Knowing how to communicate effectively can improve relationships one has at home, work and in social affairs. Understanding communication skills such as; listening, non-verbal communication and managing stress can help better the relationships one has with others.