The Influences of Self-Monitoring on Dating Behavior: A Randomized Trial Some people believe that the world around us shapes us into the people we are today. Others will say that it is our characteristics and how we act in social situations that determine the type of person we are and what kind of relationships we will form with others. Research indicates this attribute as self-monitoring. There are two types of self-monitors that a person can be classified as. A high self-monitor is someone who will blend into social situations, change their behavior from situation to situation, give more nonverbal cues to show interest, and are more likely to consider attractiveness when choosing a potential partner (Leone & Hawkins, 2006). Whereas a low …show more content…
Participants filled out a Self-Monitoring Scale (Snyder & Gangestad, 1986) and based on the measurements, the participants were classified as either high self-monitors or low self-monitors. Next, a questionnaire was given about number of exclusive partners over the past year. The participants were then separated into groups based on their responses to the questionnaire. Results showed that high self-monitors tend to be in multiple relationships for a shorter duration. Low self-monitors tend to be in single relationships for longer amounts of time (Snyder & Simpson, 1984). During Investigation 4, the participants completed the Self-Monitoring Scale and also the Social Networks Questionnaire which ranked answers on a 7-point intimacy scale (Snyder & Simpson, 1984). Results were as predicted, low-self monitors indicated more intimacy in their relationships than high self-monitors. This correlates with Investigation 3, if low self-monitors are more likely to be in long-term relationships, it makes sense that they will be in relationships that contain more intimacy. It was found that high self-monitors have shorter term relationships which means their relationships will be less intimate than low …show more content…
First, Synder and Simpson hypothesized that out of the people who had been in multiple relationships over the past year, high self-monitors were more likely to have dated a larger number of partner than low self-monitors, and out of the people who had been in a single relationship in the past year, low self-monitors were more likely to have dated their partner for a longer duration than a high self-monitor. Second, Norris and Zweigenhaft speculated that high self-monitors tend to be involved in less committed relationships which leads to less trust, where low self-monitors tend to be in more committed relationships which consists of more trust. Third, Leone and Hall went a step further and hypothesized that more high self-monitoring spouses should be dissatisfied with their marital partners and divorce short occur more frequently for high self-monitors than low self-monitors. In our study of social monitoring, I predicted that students who score higher on the Self-Monitoring Scale are in shorter relationships because they value shared interests on the Social Networks Questionnaire whereas students who score low on the Self-Monitoring Scale are in longer relationships because they care about shared values on the Social Networks Questionnaire. We tested our hypothesis using the Self-Monitoring
Bonnie and Clyde, Adam and Eve, Beyonce and Jay-Z – these are six individuals, but perhaps more conspicuously, they conjure up an image of three couples, each better recognized as a unit than is any individual member of the dyad alone. Indeed, when individuals become romantically involved, they often morph into a single entity in the eyes of others; for example, celebrities Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie earned themselves the single moniker of “Brangelina” when they started dating, exemplifying this phenomenon of thinking about romantic couples as a unit rather than just as separate individuals. Yet, despite rife anecdotal evidence such as these compound couple nicknames, psychological theory and research have paid relatively little attention
In the movie Mean Girls Cady Heron is the perfect example of a high self -monitor who has low self-esteem, in the beginning of the movie she was the new girl at school who just want to have friends and wanted to fit in and be liked. She says, “I know skipping class is wrong, but Janis said we were friends, and I was in no position to pass up on friends” (Mean Girls). When Damian and Janis lied about where her class was and taking her out to the field, making her miss the first day of class. She was so eager to please and be accepted that she skipped class instead of speaking up against them and asking them to take her to her class. High self- monitoring is a concept that shows how much people monitor their self- presentations, people who are high self- monitors change the way they act to fit in with certain groups of people.
The practice of online dating has become an increasingly popular and acceptable method of dating in modern society and looking at this social behavior from the perspective of a functionalist and a symbolic interactionist would involve very different focuses.
In this paper I will be discussing two theories that my classmates and myself have learned about during this semester. The main objective is to explain, compare and contrast the theories using the information that we have learned inside of our text books. The two theories that I have chosen to use are the social bonding theory and the self-control theory. I chose these theories because these were the two that I was most interested in during my time of study.
(http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl). In the past I struggled with low self-esteem. Now I have grown to be happy with where I am in life with what I have. I may not have a lot of friends, but I have a few real close ones that are more like family to me. I have a wonderful church family that I know will be there for me no matter what. I may not have all the material items that I would like to have but nevertheless I consider my self-blessed. The investment model survey looks at relationship functioning with commitment, satisfaction, quality of alternatives, and investments. This part focuses on your relationship with your significant other. The results from this section are missing from my survey results because I am not in a
For centuries now, we have been taught by society that being monogamous is the socially accepted norm. In fact, having more than one marital or sexual partner in many cultures is considered to be taboo. Yet that leaves many people wondering how that tradition was even constructed and whether or not we should continue to live in a monogamous manner. In this paper, we are going to examine if being monogamous is truly a part of human nature and whether or not we are meant to be with only one marital or sexual partner throughout the course of our lives. Now more so than ever, society is moving in a direction that challenges traditional ways of life and many people are no longer following this socially constructed norm. In fact, monogamy has become a very popular, controversial topic that is continuously being addressed by the media and it has people second-guessing if remaining monogamous fits their ideal lifestyle. This is an especially important topic for our generation, due to the fact that we are currently at the stage in our lives where we set goals for ourselves that will pave the roads of our futures. Deciding whether or not to be monogamous is just as important as picking career paths and it holds just as much significance in the way it affects the rest of our lives. This is a problem in relational communication because whether we decide to be monogamous or non-monogamous, our decision will ultimately affect the way we interact with others and the way we approach intimate relationships. With today’s society slowly moving against monogamy, it’s time to decide if limiting ourselves to one marital and sexual partner is really in our nature, or if it’s just a tradition of the past that no longer holds the social significance that ...
Do you ever wonder why people do what they do? Does it surprise you that your friends or your siblings react so differently to the same situation? Some people tend to be friendly and open-minded. Some prefer to keep to themselves. Some are very careful in putting things together while some care less about how things are arranged. In a typical social setting, people’s different attitudes can be easily observed. While some people are busy making new friends, others seem to be the center of attraction and playing a leading role. Somewhere in the corner, someone is just on his or her own, observing what is happening while some don’t seem to be interested in anything happening. There are different people in the world who have personalities that make them unique. Since the days of Ancient Greece to the present day, it has been confirmed that there are four different temperaments: sanguine type, phlegmatic type, choleric type and melancholic type.
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Dainton and Gross (2008) specifically discuss the repercussions that negative behaviors such as jealousy induction may have on relationship maintenance. For instance utilizing negative maintenance behaviors such as jealousy to react to a relationship is negatively associated with relationship satisfaction. This research is tied in with the idea of social support and how individual respond to their partners. Researchers agree that jealousy in relationships can have a negative impact, yet also enhance romantic feelings and satisfaction based on how jealousy is initially communicated (Dainton & Gross, 2008; Yoshimura, 2004). “An essential idea behind this study is that the ways in which jealous individuals communicate their jealousy influence how the target communicatively responds. The results showed that targets of jealousy expressions most strongly respond in the style of the initial expression” (Yoshimura, 2004, p. 95). The way jealousy is expressed initially based on attitude and mood can affect the response of the partner and at shaping and guiding the relat...
Self-concept can be described as “who we are” in our own mind’s eye. It is the broadest recognition of self, deriving from all the knowledge and information we have about ourselves. It refers to what we “know” about ourselves; our strengths, weakness, attributes and qualities. These can be emotional, physical, psychological, intellectual, to name a few. It is the sum total of all the knowledge we have about ourselves innately as well as from the responses others have to us (Aron, Paris, Aron, 1995). Thus relationships in which we experience new activities, thoughts and beliefs and where we receive feedback can broaden our self-concept. People who have the ability to broaden their self-concept tend to have greater self-esteem and can resolve problems more easily (Aron et al.,
Special, W.P., & Li-Barber, K.T. (2012). Self-disclosure and student satisfaction with Facebook. Computers in Human Behavior, 28(2), 624-630.
Students who moderately use social networking applications spend a good amount of time on these applications and are still able to manage time for sleeping, practicing good eating habits, homework, and studying.... ... middle of paper ... ... Although this research will focus on grade point averages of students, it will also determine if social networking has effects on other aspects of the college life such as sleeping patterns, health, and awareness.
Over all, those who saw their relationship as an investment instead of as a loss were better off and more likely to make it work. In addition, meaning and motivation predicted staying together more than a desire to be committed. However, even knowing this, 12 out of 14 GCRs stayed together and only 28 out of 55 LDRs stayed together. After one year, 45% of GCRs were still together and only 26% of LDRs stayed together.
English actress Francesca Annis said, “However successful you are, there is no substitute for a close relationship. We all need them.” Close relationships are vital to the well-being of all humans and include friendships and romantic relationships (Miller, 2015). According to Intimate Relationships, the difference between casual relationships and intimate, or close, relationships are evident in seven specific ways: knowledge, interdependence, caring, trust, responsiveness, mutuality, and commitment. Although all seven of these components are not needed for an intimate relationship, the more qualities a relationship has, the stronger and longer the relationship will last (Miller, 2015). Several of these characteristics are present in my relationship
Trait approach covers the big five personality traits: extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and openness to experience. These five traits have been identified as the most identifiable personality traits, even across cultures and societies. According to McCrae, Costa, and Busch’s (1986) study on personality system comprehensiveness, the big five personality model included the five traits most identified with by individuals asked to describe themselves and others. I found this segment of the class especially intriguing as it helped me not only learn so much about myself, but also take a deeper look into the personality of my family, peers, and even strangers. I am also more conscious of how I self-monitor my personality traits. For example, I am very much so an introverted person but at times I try to be extroverted based off the environment. In highly social environments, I consciously smile and try to talk to people because I want to be perceived in a favorable light, not actually because I feel the need to be sociable. In other words, I don’t want to be perceived as odd. I believe I developed this form of self-monitoring because when I am introverted at social events people will constantly ask me if I’m ok since I’m quiet, which makes me uncomfortable as they make me the focus. Being the center of attention makes me anxious, and therefore to prevent that I have developed being a fake-extrovert to avoid it. This exemplified how I apply self-monitoring to my everyday life. Trait approach gave me insight into how to identify vastly accepted personality traits, as well as, how each of these traits can be influenced and