The Importance Of Social Composure

When finding yourself in a group having a culture and standard that are unacceptable to you, then you should either alter your belief or persuade group members to alter their standards. Alternatively, you can always have the freedom to seek out for another new set, whose standards reflect or live up to your own.

Simply put, apply sound judgments in coming up decisions on when you should conform to a group’s values and standards, as well as when you should go by or advance with your own standards… even at the expense of disapproval, or disliked.

Social Composure: Sense of Self and the Want of Being Liked

Social composure denotes to a relaxed and calm disposition of a communicator, who does not experience any communication issues and anxieties

Their behaviors reflect precisely their own standards, values, and beliefs. Consequentially, they are sure of their selves and carry a very confident mien, both in public and in private.

On the contrary, people who have an unrealistic self-concept are unprepared towards setting goals for personal development, lest revising their self-concept. Thus, it is always significant to acknowledge first, ‘What is,’ prior to considering, ‘What can be.’

Else, everything within you is just a world of make-believe— how you think, feel, and act in public does not truly reflect your inner self. Your unrealistic self-concept can be either idealized or self-derogatory. However, whether you have a pretentious image or low opinion about yourself, both can be detrimental to your social composure.

Therefore, believe in your real self and never be the person whom you are not. Always be careful as to whom you pretend yourself to be; eventually, you might really forget who you are!

Building a realistic self-concept necessitates thoughtful and conscious considerations about ‘What is.’ Definitely, you will establish rapport and interact with the real you by evaluating honestly your strengths and weaknesses, making clear your values and beliefs, and discovering or recognizing your likes and

The following are the specific approaches and conceptual terms of interpersonal self-disclosure:

 The Transparent Self – denotes making yourself transparent to others via your communication (i.e., relating to others things about yourself that help them see your uniqueness as an individual

 Self-Description vs. Self-Disclosure – Self-description refers to communicating socially that discloses layers of your public disposition, while self-disclosure associates communicating socially that reveals more confidential, sensitive, and private information.

 Revelation, Confession, and Self-Disclosure Distinctions:

Revelation – unintentional communication of revealing information about yourself to others

Confession -- coerced or forced communication of revealing information about yourself to others

Self-disclosure -- voluntary communication of revealing information about yourself to others

The Johari Window