The Importance Of Complaining Essay

766 Words2 Pages

No one wants a situation to not work out in their favor. It is much more enjoyable when situations are compatible with what you want and how you want. Though this is what people want, other people may not have the same idea. In order to achieve what you want, you complain. Complaining effectively is crucial to make situations work out to your best interest.

Before you complain, the most important step is knowing what you want to achieve. Never ignite an argument without knowing for certain the circumstances that you either agree or disagree with, and what you think needs to be changed. Going into an argument unprepared lessens the chances for success, and the complaint will not be as convincing. Knowing what you want to achieve will show …show more content…

With knowing what you want to achieve comes the next component. Do not get mad, get even. Complaining has its ups and downs through the process. Your opponent might say something that offends you, or upsets you, before or even while you are complaining. Getting angry can result in complaining without thinking through what you want to say in advance. An argument between two angry people is less likely to contain logical reasoning, and an agreement will not be reached as easy. If you complain with the mindset of getting even, you will think more critically, and have a better chance of achieving your goal.

Now the vocal steps come into play. Threaten your opponent, not in a hostile way, but this is the time to bring out any blackmail you may have on the person. For example, if your dad will not let you go to your friend's house, threaten him by saying that you will tell mom about the time he had gambled and lost the money he was going to use to buy her an anniversary present. Threats are effective in getting the upper hand when complaining, and provides a solid pillow to fall back on if your complaint falls …show more content…

By not making eye contact, it makes the opponent feel as if they are superior to you, and have the ability to talk you down. Eye contact is a simple tactic that show opponents that you are serious about your opposition, and demand their respect. If the opponent respects and takes you seriously, they are more likely to take your complaint seriously.

Another skill to take into account while complaining is word choice. Being able to talk to people in a convincing manner greatly increases your chances of having a successful complaint. To do this, it is very important to know who you are talking to. Will they get offended easily? Will they be able to understand big words? You need to base the content of your complaint off what you know about the person whom you are complaining to. Knowing what they will understand and what they will not understand can be a true turning point on the success of the

Open Document