Sometimes it is easier to have emotional avoidance to problems in your life rather than accepting what is there. It is painless to close off a situation that is bothering you than coming in contact with it, providing a temporary relief that avoidance can supply. Steering away from negative emotions can give you short term gain at a price of long term pain. During these times it is necessary to accept the conflicts in which are upsetting you to live an amicable life. Having acceptance can affect positively by bringing peace in your life within yourself and others. Learning to have acceptance can be one of the most difficult aspects of your life often leaving people averse to do it. It may be a complicated process, but the ability to accept things can impact you greatly by creating a …show more content…
more positive attitude within yourself. When you let go of things that caused you emotional pain it can lift a heavy weight off your shoulders benefiting you with a calm peace of mind. Disregarding the negative can leave more space for the positive. “Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” (George Orwell) Often times conflicts emerge that you cannot change or reverse forcing you to deal with the outcome of trying to make things better. For instance, being raised into a family of short parents I was granted the dreadful characteristic of being small. I never liked my height and hoped every year I would grow as tall as my joints could possibly extend. It wasn’t until I began high school when I gradually accepted my height, realizing that there were people much shorter than I was. It was difficult to accept the fact that even my twelve year old cousins started looking down to me. It is not possible to alter everything we do not like, so as a solution we have to change ourselves to accept the things that bother us. “When we can no longer change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves.” (Viktur Frankl) Once you master the ability to accept issues that are impossible to adjust you are left being less worried and stressed. You will be happier and calm when you accept the things you can’t change rather than constantly fighting to change them. When a situation occurs there are two ways to view the issue. You can choose to accept the things that happen, see the positive, and create an untroubled state of mind. Or you can fight against it and be miserable. Acceptance is key to converting temporary happiness into enduring happiness. It is a way to help you move forward from feeling happy to actually being happy. Acceptance does not necessarily mean we are happy that things are the way they are, but instead it is simply the peace we have with the situation. It means we are not using an enormous amount of energy wishing things were different. When you argue with reality you will lose ten out of ten times. It is in our best interest to accept reality for what it is. Accepting a situation can make life much more relaxed since you are not draining energy trying to figure things out constantly. Acceptance is a part of life and allows those who take part in it to continue with their lives and make them stronger mentally and emotionally.
People who have faced hard times in the past are better equipped for the hard times they may have to endure in the future. Acceptance allows people to continue with their lives without having to forget about the past. In the book Looking for Alaska, Miles Halter is faced with the harsh difficulty of accepting his first loves death. Throughout the book he is challenged with the task of trying to stomach the reality of her actually being gone. ”She’s not dead. She’s alive somewhere…she’s not dead, she’s just hiding.” (Green 140) Just like most of us, Miles goes through the harsh task of acceptance. He does not want her to be gone, but she is and he needed to believe it. Towards the end of the book Miles goes through what we all have to; accepting the past. “There were so many of us who would have to live with things done and things left undone.” (Green 218) When a person accepts the difficult aspects of their life, they will gain a sense of
fortitude. To have acceptance is to fully be in touch with reality. It is a state of mind to know that some things cannot come back or be changed. Acceptance is an empowering ability that can heal difficult times and replace it with the better. When you let acceptance into your life it can affect it by endorsing happiness and positivity. You will be more relaxed and peaceful with the world around you rather than being miserable for the things that come into your life. When you learn to have acceptance you are benefiting in ways that avoidance can’t provide.
Taking things personally can be a challenge for many people. When we take things personally, we are giving people more power over us than what they deserve. Taking things personally has also been an important issue that Don Miguel Ruiz has discussed in his book The Four Agreements. He explains his book that we must learn not to take things personally or we will always be faced with needless suffering. Taking things personally is difficult for people to overcome because we feel hurt, insulted, and angry because of someone, we gain a certain degree of emotional detachment from them period. On the hand, if we learn to use emotional detachment in a positive way, we can take minor and unimportant not to seriously. By doing this, we can help ourselves become less angry and feel happy. By explaining how taking things personally can become a problem and by showing how it has become a problem in my life, we can then began to discuss ways to change so that we can solve this problem.
It suffocates the very idea of growth and focuses on maintaining a fixed mindset. “A growth mindset does not require you to improve on everything around you - having a growth mindset means that you love learning, taking on challenges, sticking to them and feeling the satisfaction and thrill of improving.” (France). This is where indifference becomes the end because people no longer want to improve and genuinely make a change. Instead, individuals choose to passively stand by. I have struggled to find the line between moving on in life and tossing my issues aside for as long as I can remember. The difference lies when I let myself be emotional to heal and when I shut down to numb my problems. However, choosing to not feel emotion and failing to deal with the real issue at hand starts a dangerous cycle of apathy that can only be broken when the real issue eventually resurfaces. Continual denial of my problems has never helped me grow. Instead, it was a powerful force of destruction. This cycle of apathy is just one example of how indifference is the friend of the enemy and why indifference is always the
Alaskan culture is full of a variance of characteristics. The Alaskan people have a deep sense of respect, pride and honor. This is as a result of the need and ability to adapt to an ever changing environment and still find a way to thrive. The Alaskan people are a strong representation of the American spirit of perseverance. The research done in this paper allowed me to view the Alaskan Native in an entirely different manner. My intent with this paper is to inform the reader on Alaskan culture, geographical breakdown, beliefs, as well as highlight the advancements of the Alaskan way of life throughout the years.
First off, going with the "I don't care" approach is not a good way in handling the situation. If one gets used to this approach, it may affect the development of emotional instincts and become habitual. This means, one may lose the ability to care. Another misconception regarding the coping process relates to letting our instinctive reptilian brain take over. This part of the brain senses danger and becomes an offensive and defensive responses in actions. If one lets their survival side take over whenever there was a problem, anger and impulse would rule over whenever we feel hurt. The third misconception on coping is completely forgetting how to deal with situations with our thinking mechanism. If one completely relies on instinctive responses, one would never learn how to express these emotions into words. They would also not be able to learn from experience for future
Being accepted is an human tendency and we crave each other 's approval. In the scholarly article,"Being Accepted For Who We Are: Evidence That Social Validation Of The Intrinsic Self Reduces General Defensiveness", Schimel associates human’s low self-esteem with being rejected by society. The feeling of rejection leads to depression, and then ultimately suicide (36). Rejection is never taken lightly especially when it deals with something we have no control of. Even then, people are constantly pointing out each other’s differences making them feel self-conscious and wanting to change who they are. Race is not something we can change with medicine, surgery, or other remedies; we are born into our race it defines us. Learning to accept other can save a life and bring society closer to ending the feeling of
Other coping styles to acknowledge are optimism versus pessimism, where optimism is positively related to coping strategies that enhances adaptation to changed circumstances and overall psychological well-being. Studies showed that the psychosocial adjustment of optimistic individuals are higher (Miller, Manne, Taylor, Keates and Dougherty, 1996). Individual who resort to repression uses avoidance as a coping strategy in an effort to not have to deal with the threat (Krohne, 1996). When an individual exercise self-restraint or cognitive restraint as a coping mechanism, they and place themselves in control of the threat. This coping strategy also show a high correlation with psychosocial adaptation (Manne et al,
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Researchers such as Hayes and Strosahl (2005) defines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) as an empirically based intervention technique from the cognitive behavior model of psychotherapy that employs mindfulness and acceptance methods mixed in various ways. Grounded within the practical concept of functional contextualism and based on the comprehensive idea of language and cognition, ACT is different from the normal or traditional cognitive behavioral therapy. The differences are manifested in the paradigm of instead of teaching people to control their emotions, ACT teaches them to acknowledge, accept and embrace the emotions and or feelings (Hayes, Louma, Bond, Masuda, & Lillis, 2006). Primarily, western traditions functions under the assumption of “healthy normality” which believes that humans are naturally psychologically healthy; however ACT contends that the “so-called” normal human mind is volatile and destructive. The nucleus concept of ACT is that psychological based suffering is caused by experimental averting, cognitive mess, and psychological inflexibility that lead to malfunctions in taking necessary behavioral steps in agreement with core values (Hayes et al, 2006).
In life, people will always have something to say about you in everything one does in life, either negative or positive, but it’s the moment when you let what is said upon you affect the way you live your life, that when its becomes a problem. I for myself have been victim of so many people saying things about me and letting get into my head, but I had the courage to overcome a lot of obstacles like that. I have struggled with a lot of obstacles in my life some got the better of me while I have been able to overcome most of them. I am writing this essay to give an example of an obstacle which I struggled with for a very long time and I nearly took the best of me, but with time I was able to overcome it.
	The Discipline section of M. Scott Peck’s The Road Less Traveled first deals with life’s difficulties. He makes it clear that we all have problems and pain but we have to deal with it to get by and to make life less difficult. "Life is difficult... Once we truly know that life is difficult--once we truly understand and accept it--then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters."(p.15)
No one has a perfect life; everyone has conflicts that they must face sooner or later. The ways in which people deal with these personal conflicts can differ as much as the people themselves. Some insist on ignoring the problem for as long as possible, while others face up to the problem immediately to get it out of the way.
In Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate, authors Roger Fisher and David Shapiro demonstrate how to address emotions and turn disagreement into an opportunity for all parties’ mutual gain. They suggest we should "tune into the concern for the emotions of what others think, feel or do" (Fisher & Shapiro, 2005, p. 2). Recognizing other's emotions helps build relationships and expands our personal and professional affiliations. Too often we fail to recognize who will be impacted by our decisions and the importance to level anxiety caused by emotions. Emotions can divert rational judgment. By excluding others, we risk impinging upon their autonomy and therefore, wind up dealing with the consequences of anger or resentment (Fisher, 2005, p. 82).
People face conflicts every day of their lives. We all come across at least one incident in our lives that is challenging and we are baffled on what decision is to be made. Such conflicts may be an inner-conflict, a conflict between oneself and nature, a conflict between oneself and another person, oneself and God, or one and society. This paper will describe an incident in my life involving a conflict.
Mayer and Salovey (2001) maintained that emotions help prioritise, decide, anticipate and plan one’s actions. In order to effectively manage one’s emotions, one must first learn to identify and recognise them accurately. They should not neglect their emotions as this will reflect lack of self-awareness. For example, when someone lost their loved ones, they choose to be in a state of denial allowing themselves to be drowned in depression and sickness. They refused to get away from feeling negative and find solutions to overcome their emotions. These group of people face difficulties in recognising, identifying and managing their emotions.
People don't truly accept life for what it is until they've actually tasted adversity and went through those misfortunes and suffering. We are put through many hardships in life, and we learn to understand and deal with those issues along the way. We find that life isn't just about finding one's self, but about creating and learning from our experiences and background. Adversity shapes what we are and who we become as individuals. Yann Martel's Life of Pi shows us that adverse situations help shape a person's identity and play a significant role in one's lief by determining one's capabilities and potential, shaping one's beliefs and values, and defining the importance and meaning of one's self.