I Believe that parents have no rights to use spanking as a form of discipline on their children, because physical force should never be used on a developing child, and might lead to future physical or psychological damage to their kids. Spanking has been a topic of debate for parents throughout the age. It has been argued that spanking is a valid way to teach your child not to do something. Most people explained that they were disciplined that way. It is a method that is passed on from parent on to parent believing it is the best way to deal with inappropriate behavior.
While the other side of the argument believes there is other ways to stop inappropriate behavior. Such as explaining to the child why what they did was wrong and why they shouldn’t do it again. Parents should resort to using their voices rather than their hands for teaching children what is right or wrong. What lesson does spanking teach, when used on a small easily influenced child think of what the implication of spanking to mean to them. They might interpret the use of physically force as necessary to teach people. The idea that it is okay to hit other people if they are doing the right thing. It brings up the
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I can not think of any other time someone has relied on striking someone to teach them. Some people argue that child not be reasoned since they are young and they understand better through spanking. While others might say that it is perfectly fine because of religion, such as spanking being in the bible. I believe the better argument is why are we relying on such a old method of punishment. Things have changed alot since the day of the bible so why use an outdated and cruel form of a teaching children.Think of how the child would feel a person who is suppose to take care of them and give them love is now hurting them. They might question themselves and wonder what is wrong with
Proponents of spanking bans have a tendency to label spanking as corporal punishment. They then categorize it along with many abusive activities. Psychologist Kerby Alvy explains corporal punishment as, “pinching, pulling ears and hair, shaking, slapping, smacking, spanking, swatting, hitting, kicking, punching, paddling, using switches, hair brushes, belts and ironing cords, and having children kneel on gravel or ...
Spanking could also teach children that it's all right to hit, and that it's all right to be hit and that could have a negative long term effect on the children. I
Spanking doesn’t allow children to learn the reasons why to act appropriately. When parents use physical punishment, such as spanking, to discipline their children, they do so in order to improve their child’s behavior. According to a report composed by a lead researcher in the field of pediatrics, spanking does not teach children the reason for why they are being punished or why their behavior was wrong. Spanking teaches children to act in a desired way only because of fear of being punished. Being a victim of spanking, I only feared the idea of being spanked, and that is why I changed my behavior for the time being. I did not actually understand the reasoning for why I was being punished. Spanked children do not understand the positive and important reasons for acting properly.
The practice of spanking is commonly endorsed by most religions, including Christianity (“Corporal punishment deep rooted”). Spanking is an important aspect of a child’s social development and should not be considered an evil form of abuse. In her argument, Debra Saunders says that there is an obvious difference between beating a child and spanking a child, and parents know the boundary.
...ginning of humanity. It worked then, and it works now. Critics have decided to re-define spanking as abuse. They would like for everyone to believe the propaganda. The truth is, however that spanking has its benefits. A little pain has positive long term results. Parents can expect a well mannered respectful adult to be the result. Parents should decide if they want to spank their children; not society. One parent’s choice of discipline has no value over another’s. The key thing to remember when it comes to discipline is to discipline out of love for the child. Never spank a child while angry. Explain to the child why the spanking has to be given. Afterwards, show some affection. This way the child will feel loved and understand reconciliation (Dobson). The child will have no feelings of resentment. When parents follow these steps, discipline will never be abuse.
Did you know that over half of the population spanks their children? The idea of using spanking as a punishment has raised controversy among parents. Spanking is the use of an open hand to strike someone and many parents want it to become illegal. While spanking has some down sides, it should remain legal because making it illegal would be difficult to enforce, and there are already laws against child abuse.
The Controversy Behind Child Spanking Spanking a child is a controversial issue. On one side of the debate are people who believe spanking is a necessary component of parenting. On the contrary, there are people who think spanking a child is destructive.
First of all, spanking does not lead to violence. Our surrounding world and media do. "The average sixteen-year- old has watched 18,000 murders during his formative years, including a daily bombardment of stabbings, shootings, hangings, decapitations, and general dismemberment" (Meier 34). It seems unjust to blame parents who are trying to raise their children properly for today's violence. If a child touches a hot stove he does not become a more violent person because of it, he just learns not to do it again because he learned a valuable lesson from the pain (Meier 34).
In the second article, “Spanking Children: Evidence and Issues,” the history of the controversy starts with interpretation of the bible scripture Proverbs 23:13-14. This particular scripture states, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from death.” (Prov 13:24,KJV) Although it may seem self-explanatory, depending on what side of the spectrum a person is on whether its pro-corporal punishment, anti-corporal punishment, or conditional corporal punishment will determine how one feels about spanking children. Another example of spanking dating back to the scripture can be seen in the second article, “Spanking and Children’s Externalizing Behavior Across the First Decade of Life” This particular scripture states, "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes" (Prov 13:24, KJV). In both articles, it is seen that spanking has been passed down from one generation to the next, starting with the scripture. Furthermore, “Spanking and Children’s Externalizing Behavior Across the First Decade of Life:” claims spanking is important to the child’s development towards adolescent transition. There findings provided understanding towards family dynamics to help improve the transition
... also think that parents should have the punishments match the offenses and not have only one strategy of discipline. I am thankful for parents who know their limits when they are having a bad day and will find alternative methods of punishment so that they don’t become a statistic of abuse. I don’t agree that spanking is the only way you can get your child’s attention and teach them boundaries but you should have the right to use it if you feel necessary. In my opinion, one of the most effective alternative methods of punishment is to take away sports, cell phones, internet, and limit time with friends. I believe that most children want to please their parents and teachers but so many do not have good examples to follow in their lives and that is why so many think spanking is creating violent adults. I am for spanking your children in love when called for.
To commence, parents should avoid spanking their children because of the physiological consequences. Sufficient evidence exists in proving that spanking slows the cognitive development of children (Straus, 2011). Spanked children tend to do far worse on achievement tests than those whose parents used other forms of punishment (Straus, 2011). Because of the retardation in the cognitive development, spanked children must spend their entire lives catching up to their counterparts who did not receive such harsh punishment and cannot enjoy a quality childhood. Hitting children can cause back problems (Hunt, 2011). Shock waves travel up the spine and cause nerve damage (Hunt, 2011). If a parent disciplined his/her child out of love, it would not be with an expensive medical bill later on in life.
I personally do not advocate spanking. I could not imagine losing my temper to a point where I thought I needed to spank my child. While I do anticipate that having children will be a real test of patience, I do not expect that I will lose my patience so much that I will spank my children. I find spanking to be a real contradiction to what most parents tell their children. Most parents do not allow their children to hit, whether they are angry or not. Even when kids think another kid did something wrong, or bad, they are still not allowed to hit. If a parent tells a kid this, and then turns around and spanks the kid when they do something wrong, how will the kid ever learn that hitting is wrong? In my opinion, there has to be a better way to discipline children. I think that sending a child to a room where they cannot interact with anyone else, and then taking away a privilege would be a better way of handling discipline. Also, when I was a child, I can remember that when I was angry, my dad would come in to my room after I had time to cool down and talk to me about why I was angry. I can remember these as really fond times with my dad. It helped me identify why I was so angry, and most of the time it was at my mom for not letting me have my way. When I could identify why I was angry, my dad and I could come up with a solution to solve the problem. I think that rather than spanking, this is a good way to discipline children.
"Spanking doesn 't work, and it just makes kids mistrustful and aggressive. What we 're teaching them is fear rather than responsibility and problem-solving." said Kimberly Sirl, a clinical psychologist at St. Louis Children 's Hospital (Blythe). This is important because parents need to understand spanking doesn 't work and it results that the child becomes aggressive and mistrustful. Parents are trying to teach their child a lesson but instead making them fearful. Children will be aggressive and think violence is the answer to everything. The point of spanking is to teach the child what they did was wrong but kids don 't get that message when they get physically abused. It teaches them the wrong lesson and they think that it 's okay to spank kids so when they get older they will probably do the same thing. Corporal punishment of a child by a caregiver is legal in every state, but it crosses the line to abuse when a child is injured. Doctors and teachers are required to report to authorities any marks, bruises, cuts or other injuries inflicted on a child (Blythe). Anyone who is a caregiver of a child is legally allowed to hit the child. It only becomes an issue or problem when the child is left with bruises, marks, and injuries. If a doctor or teacher were to see any type of bruise on the child they are required to report it. There is spanking a
Smacking is good for children Smacking or hit children is not the right way to teach them how to correct their mistakes. Let me ask you a question: Do our children deserve to be hit or being slapped under any circumstances - even for issues concern their safety? "It is not fair!" Smacking, in most of the cases, is absolutely a type of unkindness, cruelty and humiliation, incurring in several, may be prolonged, mental health problems. Not to mention smacking or blaming in front of sight of other people.
A hierarchy should be present in the relationship between parents and their children. In my opinion, because I was raised without the need of spanking, my children would not be spanked. Though every child is different, I agree that physical punishment comes with negative psychological issues (Phillips, 2016). I would use spanking if only my child did something unacceptable, but spanking would be a once or thrice situation. I would use any other discipline tips before allowing myself to spank my child.