Serial Dating Vs Serial Dating

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Marriage is a lifelong commitment that people make when they are ready for the “next step” in their relationships. To me, marriage is a partnership between two people who have decided that they are accepting of each other’s real selves and not simply the idea of one another. In my culture, marriage is an accomplishment. My parents never married each other and so I feel as though once I’ve married and had children within my marriage, I’ll have done something my parents could be proud of me for. The idea of marriage is exciting for me. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with someone who loves me as much as I love them if not more. However, marriage is more than love. Do you continue a relationship with someone who refuses to assist …show more content…

A behavior that come with this attitude is serial dating. Serial dating can be seen as a woman being promiscuous. Yet, I believe that serial dating is simply a tool used to weed out those that aren’t “the one.” The “one” is someone that you’ve experienced the good life with and intend to live out the rest of your days living a good life with this one person, forsaking all others as Berry argues (Berry 115). When dating with the intentions of marriage, you will not necessarily stay with a person long if there is no foreseeable future. For others to live by this understanding, they would have an attitude that being in a relationship is the first step. They would approach dating as a series of lessons learned before finding someone that they could build a future filled with love and happiness with. The series of lessons would be what it is that someone would be accepting of and behaviors that are unacceptable. I feel as though dating is only the beginning and therefore, you should consider your relationship with a person and determine whether this person is “the one.” If they are, marriage is a future goal to aspire towards. If they are not, breaking up is always a good …show more content…

I am not one that believes in divorce and so I believe that it is alright to be selective when dating so that you get it right the first time. Although according to Fowers, “our collective expectations for a happy marriage are a myth […],” I believe that my expectations are reasonable in a sense that I hope to get married once and remain married. One behavior that may follow my attitude toward marriage is establishing a sense of self in the relationship. Yes, marriage makes a couple one. Yet, there are still two people involved (Cherlin 88). At this phase in my life, I consider myself more of an individualist than a relational. Therefore, I’d still want my wishes and desires to be considered and vice versa for the spouse I have chosen within the relationship. Another behavior that follows my attitude may include marital therapy of some sort. Johnson says that marital therapy not working is a myth. I agree. Once I see therapy as an option, I’d work diligently to make it a successful experience. If one were to understand marriage as I understand it, they would believe that there is only one end to marriage—death. Their actions would be aligned with my own—the actions to fight for a successful and fulfilling marriage and stand by the commitment that they made to another

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