According to google the definition of self-management is “the management of or by oneself; the taking of responsibility for one’s own behavior and well-being”. A simple and straightforward definition. After reading “Emotional Intelligence for Project Managers” by Anthony Mersino, it allowed me to get a deeper, more in-depth and true meaning to what Self-management is. So, exactly what do I now understand about self-management? Self- management isn’t just simply managing your emotions and behavior. It’s about managing, understanding, knowing, and controlling one’s emotions, behavior and self. Why is it so important to manage our emotions? Managing our emotions is the key to managing ourselves and living a better and happier life. Especially …show more content…
We use self-control when we eat an apple instead of Krispy Kreme donut, when we forgive instead of freaking out and when we pay attention instead of paying someone short shrift. self-control can prevent us from engaging in motivated behaviors. Self-control is a life skill that we all need to define, practice, use, and internalize. Self-control can help people feel good about themselves. It is up to us to use self-control. Self-control is an important part of our daily lives. Mesino gives a list of outcomes due to lack of self-control: Angry tiradres, door slamming, e-mail letter bomb, withdrawal, and isolation, holding grudges and getting even, criticsing, sarcasm, and inappropriate humor, and playing the victim. The one that stuck out to me the most where sarcasm and innaporpiate humor, door slamming, withdrawal and isolation, holding grudges. This is the only part of the book where I have to disagree to classify it as a way of “lacking self-control”. I for one seen and experience that type of behavior but I think everyone gets mad at some point, it's not always the best option to keep all that anger built up but if slamming a door, make a sarcastic joke, or just being alone for few helps someone cope with that anger that it is better than using verbal …show more content…
The way we think can affect the way we are feeling based on our thoughts. It is through distorted thinking that we set ourselves up for emotional breakdowns. I can recall plenty of times where I have thinked myself into a terrible mood which have left me vulnerable to an emotional breakdown.I have used the “ always and never” stinking thinking plenty of times. Saying “ I never have time to relax” or “I always have things to do “. I know see I use the words very often. When I use the terms “always” and “never” I don’t mean to “ choose to be the vicitime to circumstances and viewing life as beyond my control” says Mersino, I mean to emphasis my emotions. A way I can avoid using these words is be alert to the use of the words “always” and “never.” Rarely is it true that things are always or never a certain way. Instead of using always or never, I can look for and acknowledge the exceptions and replace the words with “sometimes” “rarely”. Mersino states it as “focusing only on the disagreeable things that happen. If we dwell on the negative, that becomes our reality”. The word negative itself gives me jitters, because I never find myself to be a negative person . The media constantly bombards the mind with a lot of information about disasters, catastrophes, wars and other unhappy events. This information sinks into the subconscious mind, and then, manifests as your habitual manner of thinking. Watch and hear the news, because you
It is not about controlling the emotion or an action, but controlling how the mind views it. As Brooks is elaborating on his view, he mentions something William James stated, “[T]he whole drama of voluntary life hinges on the amount of attention, slightly more or slightly less, which rival motor ideas might receive… Effort of attention is thus the essential phenomenon of the will” (131). Notice, James strong beliefs are focused on how much attention a person gives to his/her thoughts. If a person is angry, focusing only on the anger, the person is much more likely to punch a wall or maybe even punch a person, than if the person who focused on his/her breathing pattern to calm down. Brooks uses James’ thoughts to remind readers that self-control isn’t just about controlling an emotion or a certain behavior. It is about rewiring how the mind thinks and processes information. This ability to be able shift one’s thought to something else is a direct reflection on the determination one has. In summary, Brooks believes, although contrary to popular views, that self-control is about redirecting the attention of the brain to accomplish or avoid certain
Self-control has two parts, the part that is controlling and the one that is not. However, there are three parts of a soul according to Plato- the rational part, which is what reason tells us we should do, the appetitive part, which is what we want to do, and the spirited part, which is strong, tough and tenacious. When the spirited part of our soul is activated and fighting for justice, it just keeps going. However, we tend to have conflicts within ourselves and within these parts. The appetitive part is the biggest part because people tend to feed their appetites, becoming a slave to their desires. Because of this, reason becomes a slave to the appetites. Reason, however, according to Plato is the best part of people if they learn to not let the other parts of the soul meddle; otherwise reason becomes weaker and weaker. If we do the right thing, which is also the just thing, we will feed the best part of us. However, if you do the unjust thing, you feed your appetite or desires. For example, a drug addict becomes addicted to drugs because he continuously feeds the appetitive part of his soul. His reason diminishes and his spirited part is not longer, the appetitive part takes over completely. By doing this, you are sending your life into chaos and can never have your life harmonious because you will always want more. An
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“When you don’t manage your life well, you become angry and frustated as things dont go inteded, and our bad mood is a sign showing we were not able to resolve the conflict” (Bucay). One of the hardest things in life is to control yourself from your bad habits. Everyone has a flaw but the only thing that matters is how you deal with it. Tthe play Oedipus the King clearly demonstrates on if you do not control your doings, things will happen even if you wish they had not. People have control of their entire life until they do before they think.
Erik Erikson composed a theory of psychological development that was composed of eight stages. Erikson’s theory focuses on how personalities evolve throughout life as a result of the interaction between biologically based maturation and the demands of society. According to Erikson, “Each stage of human development presents its characteristic crises. Coping well with each crisis makes an individual better prepared to cope with the next.” (Zastrow & Kirst-Ashman, 2013, p. 314) According to Erikson’s eight stages of development, I have only been through six of the eight stages.
Insufficient Self-Control: The inability to tolerate any frustration in reaching your goals, as well as an inability to restrain expression of your impulses or feelings. When lack of self-control is extreme, addictive behaviour (substance abuse, eating disorders, gambling) may develop.
The development of the human brain is largely based on relationships acquired during the first few months of life. Traits that a child is born with differ from the ones that he or she gains from an outside environment. The types of things that effects the acquirement of these traits is the environment that the guardian provide, and the interaction between baby and guardian in that environment.
Self management causes us to focus more on how we are feeling and why we are feeling the way we are.
Performance management is a process that guarantees an organisation and all of its available resources are working collectively and effectively towards achieving the organisation’s mission or goal. Performance management affords an understanding of what drives an individuals, and even organisations, performance at all levels. An understanding of performance management allows for the identification and minimisation of unproductive areas of an organisation, as well as an ability to predict future performance. It is a powerful tool that can be used by managers at all levels of an organisation to help improve a company’s productivity.
Self-Analysis Essay In this semester, I learned a lot of writing skill in ENGL 1010. I had no confidence in writing since I was child. However, as I was practicing a lot of writing while listening to this class this semester, I seem to have gained confidence in writing. There are many problems with my writing.
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In the essay, self- control is “. . . the regulation of attention, emotion,and behavior when enduringly valued goals conflict with more immediately pleasurable temptations.’ The most serious problem with focusing so much on tenacity is becoming oblivious and not making use of resources available. Becoming oblivious prevents us from looking at the whole picture instead of just a section. Not making use of the resources is a serious problem because people are not taking what is being offered. The focus on tenacity affects the distribution of resources in the schools across the state by creating more resources and making them
Well I guess I’ll start off this paper by being outright honest. I have never done this type of self-assessment exercise. So I’ll start this paper off with what exactly this type of self-assessment is. These types of self-assessments are meant to help show the individual (me) where my strengths lie and also where my weaknesses are as well so that I may try and lean on my strengths while improving on my own shortcomings. Essentially the Johari Window four regions model that we learned about is a great tool for this assessment. The first region is also known as the open area, which essentially means that this is what is known by the person about him/herself and is also know by others. The second region is known as the blind area in which this is information unknown by the individual but is known by others. Which could be behaviors that an individual does but does not realize that they are doing them. The third window is known as the hidden area. This area is essentially information that only you know about yourself and others do not. The fourth area is known as the unknown area. It’s known as that because this is information that you and others do not know about you. It’s when you take a look at these four areas and see your strengths and/or weaknesses are at and if you allow yourself to become open to feedback you then can improve on your own shortcomings and become a better leader.
I can even change my ingrained negative thought patterns to be more positive ones by using more positive affirmations every day. Talking to someone about my thoughts, or even just writing them down in a journal or diary can also keep my mind free from so much negative and open to more positive to flow through. It is better to let go of the feelings or thoughts then to let them get bottled up and possibly cause me an overload or panic attack. I need to process them, and figure out why I
Personal Effectiveness is using all of our potential resources in order to achieve both work and life goals. It is when we use all our personal resources at our disposal-talent, skills, time in order to get what we want in life. In everyday life we put so much effort to get what we want to achieve in life. We spend a large amount of our time and energy. In this world many people are working towards achieving the same goal with different costs. This is because everyone has different personal effectiveness.