Emotional Intelligence For Project Managers By Anthony C. Mersino

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From your personal life to your work life, self-management plays an important role in how successful you’ll be. The self management chapter in the Emotional Intelligence for project managers by Anthony C. Mersino resonated with me. It made me realize that I may have issues with self-management, and It is something that I need to work on; especially when my main goal is to become a Project Manager. To manage a team of people and to get a certain project there’s a lot of things I would need to do. According to the chapter, I would need: self control, to acknowledge what triggers certain emotions, and how to reduce or take away those triggers. Self management causes us to focus more on how we are feeling and why we are feeling the way we are. …show more content…

The model had social awareness and self awareness separated in too two different step. Both steps work hand in hand when it comes to project management. If I can recognize my own faults and things that I am not succeeding in when it comes to how I handle my emotions; then I could completely understand where someone else is coming from. Being self aware should automatically make someone socially aware as well, in my opinion. After social awareness comes relationship management, which also works hand in hand. If a person is social aware then they should be able to handle business relationships accordingly. Social awareness and relationship management should be sub-parts of self - awareness. Other than my disagreement with those two minor details of the model, I believe that this is what makes someone a good project manger. It also made me aware that there are several things within this model that I do not completely have under control. Social awareness is a major thing that I realized I needed to work on. Personal feelings do not belong in a work place. As a project manager, if I would have to keep my emotions under check, then so does my team. This may come off as me not being empathetic, and I am completely fine with that. I would not want someone on my team who brings their emotional baggage to work, especially when we are working on big projects. I do not necessarily mean that we should not …show more content…

I did not even realize what some of my triggers was until Mersino put it right in front of my face. It caused me to look back at certain situations and realize that there are certain triggers to my emotional distress.A lot of the emotional break downs that I have had were due to the fact that I misunderstood where another person may have been coming from. Some of the emotional triggers that were mentioned that resonated with me were: moods and attitudes of others, pre-thinking, dwelling , and perceived criticisms. I have to agree that these lists of things are what triggers me and I feel that if many people seen the list they would probably notice a lot of their triggers too. The chapter went into further detail about each triggers and why they might happened. A light bulb went off in my mind where I thought of almost every situation that might have been caused by each situation. A lot of the times if someone has a bad attitude, it is like a domino affect. One persons mood can change everyone else mood. If every one is working in a bad and the quality of the project will most like not be up to standards. Pre- thinking as well can be horrible, there are moments where my negative thing is the reason that a certain situation turns out bad. I would not want to be a Project Manager, and also have a pessimistic attitude

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