Research Paper On Cinderella Fallacy

How did I come to love him? Why did I stop? When I was young, I fanaticized of the life I would grow to live. I would be a princess with prince charming sweeping me off my feet. Together he and I would ride off horse back to a magnificent castle, where we would live happily ever after. The fantasies were flawless. I grew to realize this was just a fantasy and that in itself was flawed. In society, there is training for young girls to romanticize relationships. Known as the Cinderella fallacy, is the ideology girls are dependent on men and through that dependence women need saving. This fallacy has created a norm in society, conditioning girls to believe that men will take away any uncertainty and provide them with stability, suggesting to

He would sweep me off my feet to our own bungalow home, our castle. I would live my days out being a homemaker, and mother. He would take care of our children and be the breadwinner. I thought this would be our happily ever after. I had a belief there was a perfect someone for me to find within the world. That once he was found our love (emotional attachment) would be strong enough to keep us always happy. Our love would be so strong we would be able to survive, and thrive in society. As I grew up I wondered if I would ever meet this man, where he would come from, and how long would I have to wait for him. Did it happen for me? Initially I believed it did, when I fell in love for the first time. My dreams of being happy and appreciated felt like they were becoming true just as I had expected when I thought about meeting “the one”. Young and naïve I was oblivious to how individuals have different expectations of what how a relationship should look. That these expectations are influenced by each of our upbringings and become showcased in our own relationship. I was oblivious that there could be other types of love than that of the happily ever after type I imagined. Through this course, I gained an understanding and