Reflection About Marriage

Marriage is a unification between two people who share their love for each other. It is said to bring joy, happiness, and satisfaction to one’s life. I really never believed in the idea of marriage, and reading and discussing more about marriage, I see why. Over the years, the idea of marriage has been tarnished by the hands of who force women into marriages, or teach girls that they must aspire to get married. That their lives are completed once they have a secured man by their side. Marriage is something that is supposed to be sacred between two who love each other; not some mere game that can be played with. When girls are growing up, they are surrounded by the idea that their main focus is to aspire to marriage. That they need to have

The day where she wears all white and walks down the aisle to see her lovely husband. However, many seem to forget the idea of why the woman must wear white. The significant of white is to show that the woman is pure and kept her virginity until marriage. Purity can be defined as freedom of adulteration or contamination. So when a woman breaks her purity, she ultimately breaking her purity. There are even girls being taught at a young age to promise to their fathers that they are going to keep their purity. “Purity ball for abstinence..” is a video that shows these young girls pledging their purity to their father and god. Just another way a man can control a woman, and they’re many things wrong with this. The age of these girls are quite young, for example, a twelve year old shouldn’t have to know about any of this. She’s traumatize now because what if five years down the road she kisses a guy, she broke that purity and let her father and “god” down. Another reason why this is ridiculous is there really isn’t a big push for young christian guys to remain abstinent, but rather a huge push for girls to pledge their abstinence. Young boys have the freedom to do as they want while young girls have to make sure their purity is in tact. This complete double standard is outrageous. It’s like the girl 's job to remain abstinent, while the boys get to do whatever they want. Just another example on

A day where she can finally have her fairy tale wedding; a day that is dedicated to her. The expectations however take away the fun from a wedding which results in many complications before that day. In the article, “Bridal Hunger Games,” by Linda Lee shows how brides are willing to go to great lengths just to get the ideal body shape for their wedding dress. Instead of using the body that they have, they work ten times harder just to get that ideal body. In another reading called, “Brideland,” by Naomi Wolf, demonstrates how this day is expected by everyone to be the greatest and best day of their lives. Bridal magazines are everywhere to constantly remind women that they 're supposed to always remember that marriage is going to be the greatest thing to ever happen to them. One thing that I noticed was the reading discuss how the man plays a role in planning the wedding, that is because he normally doesn’t. It’s normally the woman coming down to wedding planning because again, that is the best day of her