Are we having sex now or what? Greta Christina eloquently puts into words something I know in theory, but can be hard to understand in practice in heterosexual relationships. In Are we having sex now or what? Christina details her record keeping of how many people she had sex with, and what she counted as sex. She talks about the limiting misconception of sex only being coitus, and other acts not “counting.” Christina writes of how when she started having sex with women her outdated system of what was sex and what was not sex was completely destroyed. By limiting sex to “penis in vagina,” Christina was discounting some of her favorite sexual experiances, and including ones she did not particularly enjoy. This article made me think about what I and the people around me count as sex. It can be hard in heterosexual relationships to get past the idea that coitus is the culmination and essence of sex. Even when hetrosexual partners understand that there are other things they enjoy just as much if not more, there often is an expectation that everything else is a disappointment if it does not lead up to coitus. I have read similar (but shorter) things, and heard these ideas multiple times via Dan Savage and his many forms of media. However, Christina makes the idea seem more real and available. She reminded me of an important part of my sexual philosophy: sex is mutual pleasure, not particular acts and measurements. Put me in coach: Sex lessons for adults This article by Diana Spechler surprised me. For all that the Human Sexuality is what I vainly looked for in Sex ED and sex books as a teen, a sex coach would be taking that idea of practical sexual education even farther. The idea of a sex coach is something my friends and I have joki... ... middle of paper ... ...o believe in active listening, and now all the arguments I have had with boyfriends, parents, and peers make more sense: people do not like being told how they are doing things wrong. That is a slight misrepresentation, Gottman talked about issues being solved through being polite and gentle. So there are ways to tell someone that they have done something wrong without hurting their feelings. I would like to see more examples of how this is done. Gottman’s research has greatly piqued my interest. I watched as he showed examples of stonewalling and other issues in relationships, and saw my own past failures and those of the people in my life and around me. I wish that everyone could see this video and understand it; I feel that working towards treating everyone the way Gottman says successful spouses treat each other would lead to a gentler and more pleasant society.
“…sex attains meaning in social relations, which implies that we can only make appropriate choices around sexuality by understanding its social, cultueral and political context.” (Quote: 9293 jeffrey weeks)
In today’s heterosexual and patriarchal society sex and sexual desires revolve around men, and Hoagland sets out seven patterns showing how this is the case. Sex is thought of as a “powerful and uncontrollable urge” and male sexuality therefore is a basic component to male health, sexual acts show male conquest and domination, sexual freedom gives men total access to and over women, rape is, by this logic, natural and women who resist a man’s advances are “‘frigid’”, sex involves losing control and sexual desire, when described as erotic, “involves a death wish (eros)”. The bottom line is that in today’s heterosexual and patriarchal society sex is all about men having a natural power over women; sex involves a total loss of control which creates a split between reason and emotion since being in control is a matter of reason controlling emotions, “we tend to believe that to be safe we must be rational and in control but to...
This brings up Greta Christina’s article, “Are We Having Sex Now or What?” (Christina 2014) the author questions what really counts as sex as her sexual partners sexes changed. Friend A thought similarly to her, thinking that just penile-vaginal sex counted as the “real thing.” Although Friend A didn’t have female partners to have this ideology, she didn’t regard as other forms of sex, such as oral, orgasm inducing and electronic sex as sex. This delves into the common theme and into the thesis of how the idea of sex is individual as well as structural in the inkling that society and cultural norms, starting from the inner mechanisms of say one’s family and then branching out as to how others perceive these norms is how the ideology of sexuality is born. As a straight CIS woman of Hispanic decent, Friend A understood how others perceived her but also had a perception of herself because she doesn’t have to think about other forms of sex since she is content in just one form. It’s a blissful unawareness of
12). What is ok for one to do is not acceptable for another to do although they are equal. This standard is upheld by media on almost every outlet. This can range from women showing off their sexuality to the men being praised for sleeping around or having lots of women around him in one setting. An outside source goes on to state “Under the rubric of the sexual double standard, highly sexually active men are praised or rewarded with high status, whereas highly sexually active women are derogated or suffer a damaged reputation” (Marks, 2008, Pg. 84). In the society we live in a man can have a many sexual partners as he pleases and studies actually show that men do report having more sexual partners than women (Chapter 12). Not only is it glorified and encouraged but there are some countries that practice polygyny which is when a man has more than one wife making it acceptable in various cultures. There are instances where a woman has multiple husbands as well and this is referred to polyandry. A woman’s sexuality is always glorified and placed on a peddle stool in some cases. Men love to admire the female body like to cat call when they see something they like. However, if and when a woman acts in the sexual manner that men glorify them to be in, then the woman is looked at
Milstein, Susan A. Taking Sides Clashing Views in Human Sexuality. Ed. William J. Taverner and Ryan W. McKee. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2009. Print.
Upon further research, it came to my attention that only 24 of the 50 states require sex education. Sex has always been a touchy subject for man to discuses, especially in an educational environment. Due to my lack of knowledge of the subject, talking about sex makes me feel vulnerable, although I know it shouldn’t. Thankfully, I have gained a new appreciation to the educational element involved with sex, through this course and the Roger hock text
Sexual education and sex in general is a taboo subject. A number of people, both in the past and recently, have suggested that sex education programs should be taught elsewhere besides schools, like at home. Sadly, parents a...
Cece's partial deafness does not interfere with her ability to create relationships with others. Cece has the power/capability to expand/deepen her relationships with friends and/or family. Not only that but, Cece has the capability to expand the number of relationships she is intertwined in as well. Overall, Cece's medical case doesn't really make her any different from the kids in her grade and in general. Meaning she can be just a normal person (animal) as well.
Sex education in public schools has been a controversial issue in the United States for over a decade. With the HIV and teen pregnancy crises growing, sex education is needed.
For years, people’s definition of ‘sex’ and ‘virginity’ have changed continuously with the adaptation of new cultures, ideas, and identities. In the nineteenth century, virginity was sign of purity and innocence, as sex before marriage was seen as a sin. If he / she had sex before they were married, they were deemed unfit and ‘dirty’ in society. But this idea changed in the 1900’s, when people gained more sexual freedom. Sex was no longer limited, as both men and women began to have sexual relationships before they were married. Men now saw their virginity as a negative feature and sought to lose it early, while women still saw their virginity as something to be value and were not so eager to lose it early on in life. Compared to the past, the definition of ‘sex’ and ‘virginity’ today have become more
According to Carpenter, the definitions of virginity loss and sex are “ambiguous” and with the exception of coitus, people from both sexualities disagree about which sexual activities can result in virginity loss and what activities really are sex (Carpenter, 2001). In terms, Carpenter really goes against Berger and Wegner’s conclusion about defining virginity loss. In “The Ideology of Virginity,” they state that “the ideal of female chastity (including premarital sexuality) is an aspect of male property rights . . .
Sexual remarks can be seen and heard everywhere in today’s society. Music, television, movies, and magazines are resources that can easily corrupt and be discovered by children through a push of a button. A child mind and body is consistently developing every day. Abstinence-only programs tell students to not have sex, but their body becomes curious as it develops. There are many people we object to giving directive sex education to young children because it can simply corrupt the young minds and are not the key to preventing sex between young adults. Family and Youth Concern director, Robert Whelan, states that people make claims of the benefits of comprehensive sex education, but the main determinant are family background and structure (Cornell, 2003). Comprehensive sex education programs are needed in school curriculum because it helps young adults mature appropriately through all the exposure. The study done by Kirby in Whitehead’s (1994) article states, “Once patterns of sexual intercourse and usage of contraception are established, they may be difficult to change.” Henceforth, it is important to educate young adults through the comprehensive sex education program at school. In Tobin’s (2001) excerpt, he states that children already began having sexual urges at a young age. As Freud has shown in his theories, adolescents must complete different stages throughout their childhood to avoid any fixation. Instead of repressing these sexual urges, the Nursery School Education (1939); by Wheeler and Earl; suggest that active curiosity to sex should be met with honesty. Any sexual fixation shown in the adult life can be traced back to the repression of the child’s curiosity (Tobin, 2001). Moreover, children can easily be scarred and fearful of their curiosity. The Nursery School Guide (1949) states that children who are yelled at for soiling or masturbating deem
So many topics were covered throughout this semester but this being a sex crimes class, majority of the class dealt with sex at least the negative aspects of what occurs with it. Sex is everywhere these days, even if you wanted to escape it there is no where you can go to get away from it. Whether it’s a sexual act, phrase, or action, sex has consumed most of our society and has been put in a highly negative way where people are ashamed to talk about. As our class has agreed upon on saying that we all believe that everyone is sexually unhappy. I do agree with this, but I just want to put it out there that as a virgin I believe that I am actually unaware of how this feeling of unhappiness arises or feels for those people that are sexually unhappy
...e Sex Classes: Were They a Success…” Christian Science Monitor. 31 Aug. 2012: n.p. SIRS Issues Researcher. Web. 24 Jan. 2014.
First, sex education gives the children general knowledge about the sexual side of life, such as the differences between boys and girls and puberty. Teachers must clearly and intelligibly ...