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Pleasing family or society can be a complex argument, it ties into factors of being loyal to family but also doing what is best for oneself. Moral aspects also tie in, clouding peoples judgement not by “What’s best for me in the long run?” more so by “What will keep my family happy?” The most logical steps from my point of view is pleasing society, however, many object -- but not for the correct reasons. This essay will outline three major points that tie into this argument; the importance of pleasing oneself, the effects of parental beliefs, and the effects of pleasing society versus the effects of pleasing family.

The importance of pleasing oneself is first and foremost the most important thing in life. If a person isn’t happy with the position they are in currently, then they will never fully enjoy their job, meaning they will not excel in their career/life. To advance in life, one must appeal to his/her general wants and desires, if they don’t -- then they’re simply going to do an average job at best, and average isn’t going to fully benefit society. Take for example a doctor, who loves their field of work -- and enjoys going into work daily; when they go to work, they are going to be advancing and learning more techniques daily, and they will accomplish great feats in their line of work, because they love what they do. Let’s then go to a lawyer, who hates their job, they aren’t going to excel -- they are going to do the ‘average’ parts of their work, and fulfill the necessities; and doing the necessary things aren’t going to get a person noticed above others; the lawyer who wins every case, loves their career, and goes in with passion is the one who will continue to advance. The main reason this is brought into this essay is...

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...oday is actually people wanting to please parents more, hence the failed values of parents are passed down generation to generation.

Overall, pleasing society is much more important in life. Society is what gives us our essential needs, and society is what will truly make someone happy in the long run. Parents will contribute to happiness, but they aren’t going to make someone happy overall. The leading cause of drug abuse and other things are most likely parents, following the link there was probably a ‘harsh’ parents who tried to force their egotistical values on their child, which led to a family set up for failure for generations. The bottom line is, if more people tried to please society our society overall would be a much better place -- if people continue to aim to please their parents, society will continue to deteriorate with the old beliefs from the past.

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