Personal Narrative: Working With Foster Parents And Foster Children

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As I have work with foster parents and foster kids, I have learned that many children have to adopt the new ways of their foster parents. One of the foster parents I work with does not believed in Halloween and does not allow their foster children to dress as anything or even take them to trick or treating. Two of the older children who are with this family were really upset that they were not able to celebrate Halloween, and were telling everyone around them how their foster parents did not believe in Halloween. I was not sure how to approached to this situation with the children. I did try to explain to them how they should respect other people beliefs, and how important it is. I did talk to the foster parents about how the children were feeling about the situation. …show more content…

At the same time, I felt like I did not have any control over the situation and I was not able to fix it. The children were not able to dress up. My frustration was that I did not consider a big deal for the kids to at least dress up for school, but I had to control over it. For that one day I did when home thinking how I could help them get what they wanted. As the book states, “And yet when it comes for ourselves while caring for other and out planet, we often choose to believe that, somehow, we are different. Somehow our capacities are greater. (pg. 123)” I did stop working on myself. They thought I was going to help them because of the title a held in front of them. They considered me the person that could help them, but I was not. I would consider this secondary trauma because I was taking my job to my house, and even that I wanted to help them I was not able to do

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