Overcoming Ridicule: The Three-Stage Approach

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Subtle ridicule is certainly something that I’ve seen happen to people around me, and how these people deal with it is precisely how I believe it should be dealt with. My classmate—let’s call him “Fintan”—used to get playfully picked on by his fellow “friends”, mostly in a joking matter, but, if Fintan took it the wrong way, the jokes could have hurt a lot. How did he get along with these snide comments? There were three main stages that I had identified, firstly, acceptance. Fintan understood that in teasing, stereotyping, or insults, the ones that hurt the most are the ones with a bit of truth in them. For example, “You’re fat” was a common joke-insult back in grade 6. Fintan was a studious student, and he had little to no time for exercising, or any other activity besides homework, studying, eating, and sleeping. He had managed to realize that that was the truth behind the swipe, and this realisation shone out in his latter stages. The next stage was purely a mental process, where I imagine Fintan isolated the blip of truth that his perpetrator(s) brought out, then replaced the negative connotation with one that he could improve himself with. Continuing off the aforementioned example, Fintan repeated the truth to himself, and realised that he had …show more content…

Of course, at the situation at hand, Fintan still had to deal with the insulter by saying something back, so he took the truth, which was that he wasn’t exactly in shape, then made a few jokes at his own expense, such as “I swear I’ll sit on you”, and so on. When he got the crowd laughing with him, Fintan took the hurt away from the joke to begin with, and laughed it off. It didn’t hurt him, or anyone, and left everyone mildly amused, just the way the joke was supposed to go, which is why Fintan’s approach is one of the best ways to deal with subtle ridicule that I know

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