In 2006, at the age of 41, my father was laid off by his machinist company. With my mother, brother, and I to support, we were forced to empty out my father’s retirement savings just to get by. Luckily, he later found another machinist job, but was sadly forced to quit in 2012 due to chronic back pain. This left my father to be put on disability at the young age of 47. Even this was not enough to get by, for my mother’s job as a medical assistant did not make a sufficient enough income either. My family was devastated. We were left to borrow money from relatives and friends, which most is still being paid back today. Luckily, in October 2015, my father won his disability claim, which has helped my family pay back our debts and support my father …show more content…
Aside from the financial troubles my family has faced with my father's disability, we have also been pushed down emotionally as my father is not the man he used to be. As a young child, my father would take my brother and I for walks through the woods as we bonded and learned about the surrounding wilderness. Today, I am lucky if my father makes it outside. Because of his pain, my father lays down in bed all day, the only way that my father can find some relief. This thus leads to many days where I may not even see my father, let alone spend time with him. If I am lucky, my father will be feeling good enough that we can spend some time together, but he is never in a happy mood. The severe pain my father has been in has left him being a very negative and sad man. Even when my father smiles, I know that it is only a mask. Because of all of the medication my father has taken to attempt to reduce his pain and the overall sadness the pain has put him in, my father has fallen into depression. In the rare occasions that my father is feeling good, he can still only stay in the house. Due to the pain of driving or being in a car, my father rarely leaves the
BM is a 63-year-old women born in St. Joseph Missouri. She sustained a right cerebrovascular accident 3 years ago responsible for her left hemiplegia. Since her stroke BM has not been able to independently live on her own, work or care for herself. Due to her health condition she is completely wheelchair bound and is dependent on the caregivers at the assisted living facility where she resides. BM feels that she has lost her independence since her stroke and it has greatly impacted her ability to
Being diagnosed with a chronic illness is a life-altering event. During this time, life is not only difficult for the patient, but also for their loved ones. Families must learn to cope together and to work out the best options for the patient and the rest of the family. Although it may not be fair at times, things may need to be centered on or around the patient no matter what the circumstance. (Abbott, 2003) Sacrifices may have to be made during difficult times. Many factors are involved when dealing with chronic illnesses. Coping with chronic illnesses alter many different emotions for the patients and the loved ones. Many changes occur that are very different and difficult to get used to. (Abbott, 2003) It is not easy for someone to sympathize with you when they haven’t been in the situation themselves. No matter how many books they read or people they talk to, they cannot come close to understanding.
Father, computer server engineer, alcoholic, and felon. My dad, Jason Wayne DeHate, has influenced my life, not only genetically, but he has also improved my character and creativity throughout the years. Beginning at age two, I was cultured with profanity spit from rappers such as Eminem. While my mother was at work we had multiple videotaped “jam sessions” and coloring time that allowed for the foundation of friendship we have today. The jam sessions consisting of me mumbling and stumbling in front of the television, as he was “raising the roof” from his lazyboy. Since then, he has taught me how to rollerblade, change wiper blades, and play my favorite sport, tennis. Along with influencing my leisure activities and the music I enjoy, his prominent personality allows me to grow as a person. Being the only male figure in my immediate family, I
My People with Disabilities Single Story Narrative In 6th grade, I remembered seeing the ambulance outside the windows of my elementary school. I was in the classroom when there was a rush of EMTs entering the building. Students all started to run towards the door, including me, but were told to get back to our seats. Throughout the day, I was wondering who might have gotten hurt while praying it wasn't my sister or brother.
When a young man has to take over his family because his father walk away, all he needs is the support. Encouragement is the key to take over this difficult task. He eventually will learn how to deal with it and use that as an inspiration to keep moving forward. Amanda: I’ve had to put up a solitary battle all these years. But you’re my right hand bower! Don’t fall down, don’t fall! (Williams 939). These are the right words that will motivate anyone. This reminds me of my mom; when she told me that my dad was laid off from his job, six years ago. It was on winter time, when agriculture slows down, my mom at home with no job and my dad too. I was the only one working, with a low income check of six hundred every two weeks. There was stress all over the house. My dad use to get up at five am, and wouldn’t come home until six or seven pm, just looking for a job. There was days that I wouldn’t even see them just because I was working a lot of over time. It was a really difficult time for all of us but I remember the most important of all, we were together. One day my mother woke me up, she was sitting on my bed, she told me that she was so thankful for having a daughter like me, and that she really appreciated my help, that it was not my responsibility but I was taking care of like if it was mine. Due to the age of my dad, it was difficult for him to find a job, which was heart breaking for me. My mom and my dad were the motivation that I needed
In my personal opinion, for a family to get through a members illness, they have to communicate. Communication is something the Alper family rarely made an effort to try. If you communicate with your family members, you will surely be able to get through your tough time.
My life would have to change drastically if I had any kind of disability. I live in a house with my parents and siblings, and I commute to university by driving my car. Even though I live with people, I am used to being independent throughout my day. For example, I wake up on my own usually around 10 am and get ready for my day the same way on the weekdays. First, I go to the restroom and wash my face and brush my teeth and then I pick out the outfit I want to wear that day and then put on a tiny bit of makeup. Finally, I go downstairs to the kitchen, since my house is three levels with my room being on the top level, and prepare myself a bowl of cereal and a cup of coffee. I do all this with little to no interaction with my mom, who is usually
When I was in the first grade, every week the students did reading board where they sat in the hall outside the class and the teacher told us to read as many words as possible. This reading board created great anxiety and resentment toward my classmates proper spelling and word usage. When I misspoke, or used a word incorrectly, the teacher placed me in a lower reading level than my peers. I was upset because, my friend kept moving up and I was still stuck in first grade reading level. I learned that I had a learning disability, which would be the greatest challenge in my life.
Imagine having to wake up each day wondering if that day will be the last time you see or speak to your father. Individuals should really find a way to recognize that nothing in life is guaranteed and that they should live every day like it could be there last. This is the story of my father’s battle with cancer and the toll it took on himself and everyone close to him. My father was very young when he was first diagnosed with cancer. Lately, his current health situation is much different than what it was just a few months ago. Nobody was ready for what was about to happen to my dad, and I was not ready to take on so many new responsibilities at such an adolescent age. I quickly learned to look at life much differently than I had. Your roles change when you have a parent who is sick. You suddenly become the caregiver to them, not the other way around.
Years ago, my husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. We had known something was going on for a while, but we believed that maybe it was just something small that could be easily fixed. So, when we were sitting in the doctor's office and the doctor came in and told us that the MRI was the final confirmation of my husband having MS, we were both shocked. I've had a lot of bad news in my life, but that one was very hard. I felt guilty, sad, anxious, worried, and depressed, and, I couldn't pull myself out of it for weeks. Then I listened to Dissolve Worry & Anxiety from Hypnosis Live and I instantly felt better. It helped me calm down and shook something in my brain so I could get unstuck from the negative loop I was in.
My family has experienced financial need prior to my birth, unfortunately for my mother. She has been plagued with horrendous illnesses since she was born, beginning will allergies at birth. She was only two years old when she needed allergy shots to be administered. Not to mention, had undergone two bladder surgeries and infections would cause a 105 degree temperature. At age five, Junior Rheumatoid arthritis was diagnosed in her finger and she was sent to Scottish-Rite Hospital in Dallas.
One of the toughest things my dad has had to experience was being away from us for maybe up to a
Each day was, and still is, a hard, frustrating and stressful time. This incurable disease has had a dramatic effect over the years starting when I was in kindergarten. I remember when my mother started using a cane so she wouldn't fall when she walked. She could still work, drive, and go on outings with me, her only daughter. In the beginning I didn't know how to grasp it all but I gradually understood a little more each day.
In middle school I was diagnosed with a disability with the way I expressed myself through writing. Ever since, I have gained multiple values and learned several lessons about self confidence. I was taught to push past my limits, in order to be successful in reaching my goals along with my dreams. Today I am a senior in high school who was once thought to struggle, but was able to succeed beyond expectations. To some, a disability may seem like a setback from achieving goals, but to me I used it as a challenge for myself. I accepted myself for who I was and looked at my disability as a unique trait of mine. I was able to provide a message to others that anything you set your mind to is possible with dedication and hard work. It might take