Parental Alienation

Parental Alienation has had an enormous impact on my life. Being, separated from my daughters was the most dramatic event I have ever experienced. Preferably, I would be writing about the joyfulness of marriage and fatherhood. However, in this case it is not to be a happy conclusion, yet. For a time, there was nothing more pleasurable in my life. There is nothing, I can truly say that can compare to the emotions of becoming a father for the first time. Perhaps that is, why there is nothing that can compare to the pain of parental alienation. To have the greatest gifts you have ever received, taken away from you, it is too painful to imagine for those who have been lucky enough to ever, experience fatherhood.

Parental alienation comes about when one parent, most often the custodial parent of a divorced or separated couple, manipulates their child/children into believing that the other parent has rejected them. Which in turn the child/children are encouraged to reject the accused parent. In addition, alienation is often the systematic condemnation by one parent, by the other with the intent to alienate the child/children against the other parent. In most extremely sensitive cases, the child/children may rebuff the opportunity to see the rejected parent, who is most often, however not always the non-custodial parent. Generally, the child/children who wholly rebuff the rejected parent are preadolescent or adolescent; however, younger children may display many of the rebuffing behaviors toward that parent. In divorce proceedings, the purpose generally is to gain or in some cases to retain custody without the involvement of the non-custodial parent. Parental Alienation Syndrome is what occurs when the child/children are subject to t...

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...either blind to it or did not recognize it, because it is not, considered a disorder. The counselor was not any help and made things worse for me and my relationship with our daughters.

Works Cited

http://library.adoption.com/articles/alienation-and-alignment-of-children.html

http://www.fact.on.ca/Info/pas/stahl99.pdf

http://www.paawareness.org/what-is-pas.asp

http://family-law.lawyers.com/visitation-rights/Parental-Alienation-Syndrome.html

http://www.parental-alienation.info/publications/02-paralisyn.htm

http://www.rhfinc.org.au/docs/controversies.pdf

http://www.parentingafterdivorce.com/articles/alienation.html

Kelly, J.B., and Johnston, J.R. (2001). The alienated child: A reformulation of parental alienation syndrome. Family Court Review, 39(3), 249-266.

Johnston, J. "The alienated child: A new formulation." Family Court Review. 39 3, 2001. 249-267