I grew up in Vietnam where the tradition is very important. In my family, listening and respecting older people are always priorities. My parents always want me to speak Vietnamese at home with them because they do not want me to forget our language. My dad usually tells me that, “con sống trong nhà thì con phải nghe theo lời ba mẹ” which means I live under their proof, I have to follow their rules. If I still live with my parents, I will always have to listen to them. The traditions of the typical Vietnamese family are over protected and obedience no matter how old I am. One day, I ask them to let me hang out late with my friends on Saturday night and they ask me many questions as usual like “con đi mấy giờ về?” “Con đi với ai?” “Con đi đâu?” That mean what time I will be home? Who am I going with? Where am I going? I do not feel comfortable when they ask me a lot of questions like that so I respond them in English and they will pretend like they did not hear anything and wait until I answer them in Vietnamese. The reason why my parents always try to over protect me is to them this society is very dangerous. Back in Vietnam, most of the news we heard is about criminals. It’s like everywhere in the country. And right now, we are in the U.S. but in the working …show more content…
They keep holding me inside, over protected me so when I go out, I don’t have enough experience to deal with many situations when my friends are very good at it. As they hold me tight, it makes me so clumsy and I cannot adapt to the bad side of the society. Why don’t they just feel free to let me go out and explore the world instead of keeping holding me like right now? Why don’t they just speak English with me so we can get better? I don’t think times can change the tradition and what 's in their mind. And the reasons they do that because the tradition is significant and keep it is the right thing we should
In Tim O’Brien’s The Things They Carried, the readers follow the Alpha Company’s experiences during the Vietnam War through the telling’s of the main character and narrator, Tim. At the beginning of the story, Tim describes the things that each character carries, also revealing certain aspects of the characters as can be interpreted by the audience. The book delineates what kind of person each character is throughout the chapters. As the novel progresses, the characters’ personalities change due to certain events of the war. The novel shows that due to these experiences during the Vietnam War, there is always a turning point for each soldier, especially as shown with Bob “Rat” Kiley and Azar. With this turning point also comes the loss of innocence for these soldiers. O’Brien covers certain stages of grief and self-blame associated with these events in these stories as well in order to articulate just how those involved felt so that the reader can imagine what the effects of these events would be like for them had they been a part of it.
Robert S. McNamara's book, In Retrospect, tells the story of one man's journey throughout the trials and tribulations of what seems to be the United States utmost fatality; the Vietnam War. McNamara's personal encounters gives an inside perspective never before heard of, and exposes the truth behind the administration.
Something which many may find interesting about our group is the lack is set rules. Our culture is more about upholding tradition than following written rules. We learn the proper behavior through example from our elders. It is second nature to me not to get involved with alcohol or allow outsiders into our villages most sacred of areas. I want to become a member of the Civil Branch of our government and by lowering the level of my social behavior I would severely limit my chances of gaining a government position when I become older. All the power in our culture is in the hands of the older males which serve in government and that is exactly the place where I want to be when I come of the proper age.
The Vietnam War was a traumatic experience for everyone that fought on the ground. American soldiers were up close and personal with the Viet Cong (enemy) which made them live in constant fear for their lives. They never knew how they would die or when they would take their last breath, and this thought was always in the back of their minds. The Vietnam War was very brutal, and the amount of death from both sides was enormous. Tim O’Brien’s story “The Things They Carried” is an accurate description of the Vietnam War. He paints a good, yet brief, description of what the war was like for the American soldiers who fought on the front lines.
Hmong parents feared that their children would forget and abandon the values of the culture and traditions that has been in the Hmong communities for many generations (Lee et al., 2009). Therefore, Hmong parents became stricter on their children as a way to cope with their worries (Lee et al., 2009; Supple & Small, 2006). Hmong parental control over their children came in forms of one-way communication from the parent to the children, controlling their children’s behavior, monitoring their children’s activities, restricting their children’s freedom, verbal warnings, and physical punishment (Lee & Green, 2008; Pang, 1997; A. Supple et al., 2010; A. Supple & Small, 2006; Xiong et al., 2005). Although Hmong parents saw this as a way to protect their children and preserve their culture values and traditional practices, Hmong students perceived authoritarian parenting as being presumptuous (Supple et al., 2010). Hmong students found it difficult to understand the desire for parental control and the value for wanting to retain the Hmong culture since they are now living in the United States (Supple et al., 2010).
Just like the durian, my Vietnamese culture repulsed me as a young child. I always felt that there was something shameful in being Vietnamese. Consequently, I did not allow myself to accept the beauty of my culture. I instead looked up to Americans. I wanted to be American. My feelings, however, changed when I entered high school. There, I met Vietnamese students who had extraordinary pride in their heritage. Observing them at a distance, I re-evaluated my opinions. I opened my life to Vietnamese culture and happily discovered myself embracing it. `
My parents like all parents are faced with raising their children with culturally suitable morals and ethics that will not only prepare them for adulthood but also molds them into the person they are today. For my brother and I, we were taught from young where my parents, grandparents, and other ancestors were from. Even though I never went back to the country my parents or grandparents were born in I was able to gain a sense of my ethnic self. Whether it was taking my brother and me to events those in the Guyanese culture celebrated or showed us picture to keep the culture alive. I believe something simply as cooking traditional cuisines that originated from their country my parents did to show us this is what we ate. My dad hung up flags, shared stories of life growing up in the
Around that time I was introduced to a Vietnamese community that helped me become less of who I was before and more of a stronger person than I was before. I started to become proud of who I was which led to me welcoming myself to all aspects of my culture by being immersed in music and books. In the summer of 2014, I went to Vietnam and it was overwhelming to experience the joy, pain, and struggle that my mother and extended family had gone through. Subsequently, my culture has become an advantage because it gave life to a lost soul like me; something can depend on for the rest of my
Family structure is the only source to stop the children from becoming assimilated and acculturated. Parents expect children to maintain the original culture and traditional customs, in order to maintain their identities. Taking advantage of the little time to be together in the evening, or at night, Vietnamese parents try to motivate and sometimes to discipline their children, but the more they discipline, the more they face, because the law in this country does not permit parents to physically hurt their children.
All parents in the world understand well that the children need to be educated in proper way and as soon as possible, especially in childhood and school age. Parents are the first and the most important teachers for children beside the teachers in school. As we known, the behavior and attitude of children in future is a result of education from their parents. I had a friendly talking with some foreigner parents in past, and I have found some main different points of the way to educate the children between the Vietnamese parents and Foreigner parents.
The Vietnam flag is all red with a five-pointed star in the middle. The red symbolizes blood and revolution. The five pointed star means the five elements of populace, as in, peasants, workers, intellectuals, traders, and soldiers. Geography Vietnam is located in southern eastern Asia. It borders The Gulf of Thailand, Gulf of Tonkin, and South China Sea.
The Ho Chi Minh Trail played a very significant role in Vietnam War and helped the North Vietnam with the war against South Vietnam. The construction of trails started when North Vietnam wanted paths to travel to South Vietnam. United States tried many ways to block and destroy the trail to stop the travel of supplies from North to South. Ho Chi Minh trail was very dangerous since it went through jungles and mountains. The trail was used to transport supplies from North by foot until roads were improved for transportation. Vietnam government is transforming the trail to highway to help the poor. The Ho Chi Minh Trail was made up of dangerous series of paths used by South Vietnam to link supply bases in North Vietnam.
The norm that I have always lived by is to never speak English in front of non-English speakers. My family doesn’t disfavor
Vietnam was a struggle which, in all honesty, the United States should never have been involved in. North Vietnam was battling for ownership of South Vietnam, so that they would be a unified communist nation. To prevent the domino effect and the further spread of communism, the U.S. held on to the Truman Doctrine and stood behind the South Vietnamese leader, Diem.
My cousin was treated as a cruel person in my big family’s thinking due to his immoral behavior. My grandfather educated his parents and him for an hour because he called and reacted with older cousin as impolite. In Vietnamese culture, the vocative is very significant. It is highly appreciated and respected in a community. These social values are conducted from generation to generation. Parents always have to teach their children how to behave with others when they were little kids because society would appreciate our family education by their action. Although a modern life has changed our life style a lot compared with the old days, the discipline of each family is still indispensable.