Discipline can be a very controversial topic that can raise many questions. According to Margaret Mead and Rhoda Metraux in “Discipline—To What End?” “In a society in which many people are socially mobile and may live as adults in a social or cultural environment very different from the one in which they grew up, old forms of discipline may be wholly unsuited to new situations.” What they mean is that the discipline parents used on their children may not be the same discipline that those children should use on their own kids. In many situations, I agree that the discipline used today by parents is different from how they were disciplined in certain situations. But on the other hand, I also believe that some techniques are very similar, if not the same. Whenever I disobeyed the rules as a little kid my grandparents usually did the disciplining. If I were to call another kid a name or talk back to my mom I would get a spank on the bottom and put in the corner. I can still recall multiple times that I stood in the corner with my nose pressed up against the wall not moving or saying a single word. As I got older my mother did more and more of the disciplining herself. I found myself sitting in …show more content…
time out instead of standing in a corner. In another instance, I would get a lecture on how what I did was wrong instead of getting a spank on the bottom, which merely became unheard of and frowned upon. I believe the new techniques of discipline can be characterized as less severe and not as harsh. Controversially, whenever I behaved in a fashion that was unacceptable, it seemed as if the discipline my grandparents chose became more serious.
Such as, grounding me or taking one of my favorite items away for a certain period of time. I feel like this type of discipline has carried on throughout my life. My mother would ground me for weeks at a time, depending on the severity of my behavior, or I wouldn’t be able to watch T.V. for multiple days. As I got older it seemed like this form of discipline was more suitable for my age. I was too old to sit in a time out so instead my phone would be taken away. In these instances it occurs that the form of discipline are almost the same. I believe the old form of discipline was more than suitable to be used in these new
situations. Spanking your child or sitting in time out are both forms of discipline. One form, being spanked, was used many years ago. Another form, putting your child in time out, is a technique many use today. These two different forms portray the idea that some old ways of discipline are not suitable for today’s new situations. However, there are some situations in which the old form of discipline is suitable. Grounding your child or taking privileges away from him or her have continuously been used by parents. Old forms of discipline have slowly vanished but a few techniques still exist and are used to this day.
Throughout the decades, parenting has evolved resulting in altered child rearing experiences for adults. It has changed from the 1920s, when children had to work no matter where they lived, to now where you can't discipline your kid and society decides what is right. Punishing your child became customary over time, but today physical punishment is highly frowned upon. Looking into each of the decades since 1920, family life has been focused on the child and influenced by community expectations.
The idea of physical punishment has been visible throughout our nation’s history. The 30’s, 40’, 50’s all encouraged the use of strong physical discipline towards children, it wasn’t until the 60’s and 70’s that this idea became taboo. “Many of us in the room had been smacked, whipped, or beaten as children...
Based on the parenting style definitions, both my mother and my father use the authoritative style of parenting. My parents have high expectations for both my brother and I for our future as well as to follow their rules. My brother, Tristan, and sometimes I debate with my parents, sometimes it may be about their rules and to justify why we may have disobeyed their rules. My parents encourage our independence giving us trust that we can handle keeping our grades up, keeping up with our chores, and taking care of expensive items they buy for us; thus we must show our maturity to our parents and follow their guide lines. They have limits of freedom though because we are still adolescences going through life. Whenever
Since April 2nd of 2004, Washington State has stated in bold lettering what disciplinary practices are forbidden. Under WAC law title 388 chapter 148 section 0470, spanking a child with your hand, open or closed fist; or spanking a child with an object if forbidden in the state of Washington. Under this same Law, it is also unlawful to place a child in a cold shower, use derogatory terms on the child, and interfere with the child’s needs of the restroom, along with common sense harsh methods. I wish I would have known about this law when I was a kid because my mom did the three things I mentioned above. I remember peeing in a bottle because my mom wouldn’t let me out of my room, I am thankful I didn’t have to go number two. Back on track now, the WAC law title 388 chapter 148 section 0465 filed on the 28th of August 2001 sets basic guidelines for disciplining a child, same title, and same chapter but a different section. Section 0465 states that: “you are responsible for disciplining children in your care and that responsibility may not be delegated to a child.” so no more telling the older child to watch the younger child when you’re not there. Section 0465 also says the “discipline must be fair, reasonable….must be designed to help the child under your care to develop i...
My parents, my father specifically, believed that children should obey their elders without question and without hesitation. This outlook on parenting stems from their cultural background as Vietnamese immigrants. In my culture, family is structured with a patriarchic hierarchy with obedience being the most important trait in children. If obedience was not given then physical repercussions is sure to follow. When I was young, I remember being spanked often with a fly swatter. Rationale is often not given with instructions. In fact, if I were to ask for a reason behind a demand, it was seen as arguing with them and defiance. Not only do they lack rationale but also they somewhat lack warmth and involvement. They often are unaware of my problems in life or school. I learned not to go to them to talk about my troubles because they fail to provide me with the comfort that I needed. Due to this reason, they are uninvolved in a good portion of my life. However, they do provide physical affection when the occasion calls for it. This parenting method that my parents employ is one that emphasizes obedience, control and respect for elders and authority. They raised me without emotional warmth and used physical punishments. According to the Baumrind Theor...
This transition was especially evident in schools as prior to the 1970’s it was commonplace to be punished with a spanking or a paddle in school to correct behavior. In the last thirty to forty years this type of punishment has ended and schools are using different forms of
An individual’s discipline strategies can have a big impact on the type of relationship one has with their child. The various approaches to discipline can even influence a child’s mood and temperament in adulthood.
In today’s era, there are so many things that can interfere with how a parent is able to discipline their child. Discipline is a very thin line that can be surpassed without even knowing the harm that was done. There are many different ways a child can be disciplined such as by talking to them, taking away their favorite things, not allowing them free time, time outs, and sometimes even spanking. As children, everyone has experienced some type of discipline depending on the way parents decided to raise their children. Depending on what culture children were raised in can take part on the way parents decided to discipline their children. Parents have different beliefs on how their child should be disciplined. As parents, many are faced with
As a young child, I knew my mother as strict and consistent. The house was orderly. Rules were clear and expected to be followed. Of course, I was compelled to always test this side of my mother--I can’t tell you how many hours I spent sitting on a chair in the corner of the kitchen, staring at our yellow tile!! Even then, my mother did not believe in spankings and corporal punishment as such, but she did use the occasional “wap” on the arm or behind when she felt it was necessary. If you watch the old family movies, you will see me in many scenes pouting and rubbing my arm (Testing those limits again!!).
Each parent is different; they all have different ways in parenting and disciplining their children. One’s own parenting style is usually derived from the way one was raised or the society one lives in. Parenting styles include authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive, and it is very important to know which style one falls in because it can have an effect on how one’s child grows up to be and develops. Authoritative parenting would be the better parenting style because it is in the middle of the parenting styles; it is not at the extreme ends of the spectrum. It can be very beneficial to parents to understand that how one raises their children can give them a foundation for good development for years to come.
Because the beliefs, education and cultures of people vary so much, along with the age of the child, methods of child discipline vary widely. The topic of child discipline involves a wide range of fields such as parenting, behavioural analysis, developmental psychology, social work and various religious perspectives. Advances in the understanding of parenting have provided a background of theoretical understanding and practical understanding of the effectiveness of parenting methods.
Parenthood is a huge factor in any child’s life, If you were to ask me, a parent decides who we are without either the child or the adult knowing it. The parent’s role also requires discipline, and this is where things get rough in parenting, as so I’ve been told. When the child is disciplined enough and in the right way, they are willing to pass this wisdom on to their children in the future. But when a child is discipl...
It is up to the parents to decide how they want to discipline their child. Major influences on how to discipline a child come from the media, friends, elders, and even books. Most parents choose their method of discipline based on how they were raised as a child. In most cases, it all depends on the ethnicity and culture you were born into. According to Child Rearing Practices in Different Cultures, some cultures believe that the father should be the sole disciplinarian, others believe that the role should be shared equally between the mother and father (Everydaylife.com).
One of the most critical aspects of raising a child is the way they are disciplined. Disciplining a child starts early in their life and how it is done sets an example for them of how to respond to undesirable behaviors. Everyone’s parenting style differs, but the majority fall into four major categories: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Neglectful, and Indulgent. Electing a parenting style is hard and in most cases, the chosen or natural parenting style is based on the effects of the parenting style the parent experienced when they were young.
Some parents believe that disciplining your child is pointless but in all reality it actually is beneficial. Every parent, no matter what ethnic background or religion, has disciplined their child for a certain reason. Reason being that the parent expects more and desires a successful life for their child. The way parents discipline their children, proven by statistics from several prestigious universities, appear similar to the way they were treated as a child. Hence, why if a parent came from an abusive childhood, some tend to use abusive discipline options. Regardless of the background of the parents, they all seem to have a common goal of wanting their children to be more successful in life, not having to struggle to like the parent had to in order to provide for their child. While some parents believe that disciplining a child is pointless, it is actually beneficial because if a child is not disciplined, no matter what discipline technique may have been used, then they believe that whatever they are doing, whether it be stealing