As we grow up, our identity starts to structure. From reading “Bros Before Hos” by Michael Kimmel and “You’re Pretty When You’re Drunk” by Karen Zaclckas, and from watching the move “Bros Before Hos”, the T.V show Friends we learn the aspects in life that help impact and structure someone’s identity. Gender, society and friends have a lot of influence in creating our identity
Gender has a lot of impact in shaping someone’s identify. In the short story, “Bros before Hos”, Michael Kimmel gives us examples on how the male gender impacts identity. For example men don't should not show their emotions in public like women does because men's gender is not equal to women. This shows us how gender plays a very important role in creating
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our identity. To create a good identity males should follow "The Guy Code". On the other hand, Karen Zaclckas tells us in her shourt essay “You’re Pretty When I'm Drunk”, that women are more sensetive then men.
Karen Zaclckas shows us example one how the female gender impact in shaping someone’s identify. For example each human being needs someone to be with, and a woman needs the man to stand by her side always, which shows how women impact men's identity.
Women are just like man they drink and get waseted. This shows us how female gender plays am important role in shaping our identity.
The gender's life can be affected by what is around them. For example in the shourt essay "TheBreakfast Club" the little man John Bender was treated badly from his father. John's socail life was bad because of the way he was treated which led him to do drugs and act crazy and be very rude to his teachers in high school. The teenagers can be affected by their way of acting in the public. in the essay "you're pretty when I'm drunk" Karen explain how women get along with men easily when they're drunk. Alcohol affect men and women because it shows how crazy the person can be.
last of all, friends play a major role of affecting others identity. In the “Bros Before Hos” all the five uses marijuana just because John told them to do so. Teens they have to watch their actions and to be carful of who to trust. If John is a good friend he shouldn't have gavin them the
weed. In conclusion, there are a lot of things around us that help in structuring our identity. Gender, society and friends are the main factors in structuring someone’s identity. From reading both articles, “Bros Before Hos” by Michael Kimmel and “You’re Pretty When You’re Drunk” by Karen Zaclckas we learn how gender and society plays a huge role in creating people’s identity. Also, from watching the move Breakfast Club and the T.V show Friends it shows how society and friends impact someone’s identity.
Aaron Devor’s essay “Becoming Members of Society: Learning the Social Meanings of Gender” describes how despite popular belief, gender and sex are not directly related and how social norms affect individual’s choice of gender. Devor‘s main argument is that gender is not determined by genitalia, but instead by the individual's own choices. Michael Kimmel’s essay “Masculinity as Homophobia” claims that gender equality is a positive thing for males and that social norms force men to act a certain way. Kimmel’s main argument is that men are always having to protect their masculinity in order to prevent themselves from appearing weak. Both authors present compelling arguments for both gender equality and for how social norms influence individuals’ gender choice. However, the two authors approach the same topic in different ways. Kimmel takes a more laid-back approach to the topic by using simple words and a conversational tone that relates to the casual gender sociologist. Devor writes a more sophisticated essay using complex terms and a more formal tone that relates to the serious sociologist that research gender studies.
During this stage, Erikson believes that the individual’s successful identity formation relies on social, cognitive and physical maturation (Pittman, Keiley, Kerpelman, & Vaughn, 2011). The individual tries out different roles for who they see in themselves and who they portray to others, eventually committing to their own personal role and occupational choice. Pittman et al. (2011) describe the identity formation as “consisting of decisions, investments, and commitments tied to current and future roles, goals, and relationships.” Additional considerations for identity formation include the context of the culture which is available to the adolescent during this time. After successful resolution of this stage during adolescence, individuals will typically progress into Erikson’s Intimacy versus Isolation stage during young
Society has taught its people that men are supposed to have certain and different characteristics than women and vice versa. What is difficult to understand is why society split the uncomplicated human characteristics in to two categories. Jensen brings up two important questions in this text pertaining to the separation of characteristics, “What makes these distinctly masculine characteristics? Are they not simply human characteristics?” These questions are really important to discuss because whether an individual is male or female they are still a human and all humans have access to the same set of characteristics. Males and females can express masculinity and they can both express emotions because they are each human. Jensen’s main point about characteristics is that any characteristic can apply to males or females because characteristics are not sex based, they are human
The clusters of social definitions used to identify persons by gender are collectively known as “femininity” and “masculinity.” Masculine characteristics are used to identify persons as males, while feminine ones are used as signifiers for femaleness. People use femininity or masculinity to claim and communicate their membership in their assigned, or chosen, sex or gender. Others recognize our sex or gender more on the basis of these characteristics than on the basis of sex characteristics, which are usually largely covered by clothing in daily life.
Fresh from the womb we enter the world as tiny, blank slates with an eagerness to learn and blossom. Oblivious to the dark influences of culture, pre-adult life is filled with a misconception about freedom of choice. The most primitive and predominant concept that suppresses this idea of free choice involve sex and gender; specifically, the correlation between internal and external sex anatomy with gender identity. Meaning, those with male organs possess masculine identities, which involve personality traits, behavior, etcetera, and the opposite for females. Manipulating individuals to adopt and conform to gender identities, and those respective roles, has a damaging, life-long, effect on their development and reflection of self through prolonged suppression. This essay will attempt to exploit the problems associated with forced gender conformity through an exploration of personal experiences.
This article was written to bring attention to the way men and women act because of how they were thought to think of themselves. Shaw and Lee explain how biology determines what sex a person is but a persons cultures determines how that person should act according to their gender(Shaw, Lee 124). The article brings up the point that, “a persons gender is something that a person performs daily, it is what we do rather than what we have” (Shaw, Lee 126). They ...
A person’s identity is what makes one human. There is so much history when it comes to one’s identity. People do not realize the importance of identity. Women have struggled with many issues regarding their identity. People have made assumptions towards a women’s identity. Stories have been told about women ability therefore, it affects how society views women. There are multiple ways to tell someone’s story, however people are misjudging the stories being told. Language and stories affects women’s identity and ability to succeed because of negative stereotypes.
Men are physically stronger while women are more emotionally aware, people acknowledge the differences between the sexes, but who can say that one is better than the other? They balance each other out. The short essay “ Becoming Members of Society: Learning the Social Meanings of Gender”, by Aaron H. Devor, depicts how gender identity begins at a very young age, Children grow to understand which specific gender grouping they belong to. Society plays a big role in the definitions of masculinity and femininity since children will pick up on the values of the settings around them. Because Masculine and feminine characteristics are usually believed to be opposites of each other, while females were trying to reach equality by showing they can do anything a man does, they gave males the biggest compliment of mimicking. The other essay “ Bros Before Hos: the guy code” by Michael Kimmel, Michael explains the problematic of social constructions of Masculinity and the unconscious behavior men tend to follow. The behavior is called the “Guy Code”, which has been instilled into them by family, peers, and the media from a very young age. The purpose is to relate this code to why young men act and feel
Clive Thompson’s article “He and She: What’s the Real Difference?” poses the controversial question that various millennials have been debating for years: “What the heck is gender, anyway?” (365). For a large number of people, gender exists as a social divide solely based on whether an individual is anatomically and biologically male or female; nevertheless, there are those who argue that gender involves more than what anatomy and biology offer. Regardless of the perspective, gender affects how one behaves both privately and publicly, appears in social and private settings, communicates with others, and above all, uses language for literary purposes. Thompson’s writing observes the experiment of Bar-Ilan University’s professor, Moshe Koppel.
Throughout today’s society, almost every aspect of someone’s day is based whether or not he or she fits into the “norm” that has been created. Specifically, masculine and feminine norms have a great impact that force people to question “am I a true man or woman?” After doing substantial research on the basis of masculine or feminine norms, it is clear that society focuses on the males being the dominant figures. If males are not fulfilling the masculine role, and females aren’t playing their role, then their gender identity becomes foggy, according to their personal judgment, as well as society’s.
MASCULINITY. In this article Watzlawik (2009) examines what elements go into gender constructs and what factors cause masculinity and femininity within ourselves. Thought the article three definitions are explored and examined for pros and cons. The first definition implies “A feminine woman is one who is, and strives to be, attractive to men, and a masculine man is one who is attractive
As a child grows and conforms to the world around them, they go through various stages, one of the most important and detrimental stages in childhood development is gender identity. The development of the meaning of a child’s gender and gender can form the whole future of that child’s identity as a person. This decision, whether accidental or genetic, can affect that child’s lifestyle views and social interactions for the rest of their lives. Ranging from making friends in school all the way to intimate relationships later on in life, gender identity can become an important aspect to ones future endeavors. It is always said that boys and girls are complete opposites as they grow.
From the youngest age I can remember, everything I had seen in the media, altered my perception on gender - what it was, what it meant, and what society saw as fit. Gender has often been confused with having to do with biology, when in fact, gender is a social construct. In today’s society, gender has mixed up the construction of masculinity and femininity. This plays an important role in many individuals lives because they define themselves through gender over other identities such as sexual, ethnic, or social class. Identity is shaped by everyday communications, such as what we see through the media, therefore as society continues to evolve, so does the way we perceive identities and select our own.
Masculinity and femininity are two terms, which have been interpreted differently throughout history. Both the males and the females have responsibilities and duties but these duties differ based on one’s gender. Gender has played a prodigious role in the economy, politics, and the society. Everyone starts making interpretations of the strengths and weaknesses based on one’s gender. These interpretations are not always based on his or her ability but is usually based on his or her gender. Males tend to be judged as extremely strong and unfashionable in terms of appearance. Whereas, females are judged as expensive and very fashionable. Males and females both differ in their abilities and their enjoyments. Fashion, entertainment, and strength are three topics, which are used to define masculinity and femininity in the 21st century.
Gender is an important aspect of our social life; it comprises of power relations, the division of labour, symbolic forms and emotional relations (Connel, 2000).