Rudeness: The Decline in Civility or a Sign of the Times? Remember your mother telling you that life was not fair? That a person who may, in fact, be less deserving than another is rewarded or recognized for something that should not have been theirs in the first place, but for us to learn how to deal with it; cautioning our behaviors before spanking our bottoms if we did not react adequately. As children, we were being taught manners and to be courteous to others. Therefore, herein lies the problem, people have gotten so wrapped up in their lives that they have forgotten they are not the only thing that inhibits this earth, forgetting that people have feelings, needs and wants outside of their own. As stated by Alex Packer, “many people …show more content…
It is terrifying how people can treat others with such blatant disregard. Consequently, as long as they don’t bother an individual personally, they go about their business like nothing ever happened. According to historian John Kasson, “We’re less concerned today with the whole realm of public behavior; we’re primarily concerned with minimizing the intrusion of others upon us as we make our way through urban space.”(Sanoff). Since rudeness is dealt with every day, we have in fact become numb to it, not by choice per say, but more so because we have to. The outcome of approaching the behavior is more often than not, more devastating than just leaving the situation alone altogether. Christina Porath of the Harvard Business Review states, “I’ve found that more than 85% of people who chose to avoid or confront perpetrators were unsatisfied with how the situation ended or how they handled it, and those who attempted confrontation were no more satisfied than those who didn’t respond,” (Porath). One should stop and think before reacting yet, as people speak they tend to lose the ability to control their tongue due to high levels of …show more content…
The lack of ethics behind this is mind blowing, how could one be so thoughtless that whatever pops into their brain flows out of their mouth. Angla Mollard with the Northern Territory News may very well be on to something with this statement: “If we’re going to prevent a global epidemic of incivility then we either need a new generation of Nelson Mandelas, or we must formulate an effective vaccine.” (Mollard). Rude behaviors and verbal abuse to others is a growing epidemic that needs to be quarantined. The unjust treatment can be seen throughout society. With that said, the old motto, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is a call to be decent and considerate.”(Shepherd). This message needs to be returned to our minds simply to be more considerate of others and
Dan Greenburg explains in, “Sound and Fury”, how a simple kind words can avoid “a minor act of provocation” (464). In today’s society, people tend to overlook what they say and how they say it to avoid any dramatic event. People have a tendency to put their pride before thinking, which causes theatric event as explain when Dan Greenburg mention, “we carry around a lot of free-floating anger” (463). Holding in anger cause people to overreact an action that could have been handle in different kind of situation. A person should put their emotion a side and think about what kind of consequences their actions can bring. Today, people are always getting in fights in bars or school footballs game which shatters other people’s fun. It makes people
Dianne Hales wrote in the article a quote by Sybil Evans “since we’re always running, we’re tense and low on patience. And the less patience, we have, the less we monitor what we say to people and how we treat them.” Dianne Hales wrote that dangerous eruptions of mad angry in any city on earth. Dianne Hales wrote that the recent period of significant output within a population by productivity increases, sales increases, wage increases and rising demand may cause people to go crazy and not act their selves and people are living 24/7/365. The quote means, today people have so many things to do in a 24 day that they are tense and because of that they are low on patience. Low on patience can make people eager and just desire to get things done and that can contribute to being rude to other people. I concur with this statement from Dianne Hales and Sybil Evans. I do feel people are low on patience and that people can become rude to other people. I once seen a guy low on patience and got rude someone. For example, I was in line on iPhone 6 plus launch day at a local Apple shop and there were hundreds of people in line. They were waiting for the line to move and get the new iPhone. There was a guy behind me and he looked like he was getting eager and he started to yell across the room to move. He was fidgeting and started to push me forward. Lucky for me a security guard discovered him and grabbed him out of the long
Society is not a realm in which all of the rules are listed on paper; people naturally abide them due to their countless experiences. The results of these incidents or the incident as a whole sometimes transform itself into an unspoken code that people are assumed to know by heart. For example, humans are treated differently - usually with more respect and higher expectations (such as CEOs or famous actors and actresses) - when they are in a very high position or level in an industry. No matter how much or little they do, they are frequently noticed more by the media than anyone else. But how about those who live in their normal lives trying to bring home the bread and milk for their families? Or those who do a substantial amount of service and deeds for their communities and companies? Ty...
This article describes how rudeness and incivility causes great damage to everyone in the workplace even if it was only intended at a certain person. One professor at the McDonough School of Business at Georgetown University states, “Incivility is almost like trapping people inside a fog.” (Gurchiek, 2015, para. 4) In this quote, incivility is explained as something employees are all affected from and are not able to get away from. Moreover, many surveys are presented throughout the article to show how people either lose or quit their jobs because of the rude treatment that they experience in the workplace. Because of those survey results, many experts believe that rude behaviors in the workplace will begin to worsen in the coming years. However, steps to establish an atmosphere of respect and consideration for colleagues are presented at the end of the article to assist with changing that prediction.
someone else did. In our society I believe we want to treat everyone the same
Diane Cole in her peace Don't Just Stand There, starts by telling a story where an anti-Semitic joke was said by a co-worker in her office which left her very offended and shocked to the point that she could only do nothing about it. The normal assumption in these cases of racial insults that it is pointless to try to change the insulter's behavior. Speaking up might effectively change someone's attitude, however, it would only make the case worse if the respond came aggressive. Instead of saying an aggressive respond, not reacting at all would be better because it would shock the...
Each day at school encountering rudeness is common especially from students but also from the faculty. Walking through the busy hallways of the school is where encountering rudeness is the most likely to occur and probably will. While walking through the busy hallways on my way from the lunchroom keeping a good look out ahead for the blockade of kids that tend to stop right in the middle of the hall to socialize slowing down the flow of the student body is a good idea so I will have less of a hassle in getting around them. Maybe just one of these times the kids will get it through their heads and move to one side or the other to keep the flow of students steady. Yet this does not happen and this will continue on a regular basis during the school day.
In the today’s diverse society, people’s differences influence their roles in the community. Such traits like virtues, religion, culture, socioeconomic status, and gender contribute to societal variance. Although societal expectations alienate some from the community, people should accept others in the best interest of society; however, society must “draw the line” where tolerance condones physical harm upon innocent bystanders.
Four hundred twenty-five participants were recruited to participate in an online survey to determine the effects of counterfactual thinking. In order to test its impact, we conducted a study to see if the participant responses would change depending on what type of scenario we provided them with. In this study the participants’ where given one of two versions of a story in which a couple ends up dead. a taxi driver was rude to a couple and the other in which he was not. The results from these studies showed that male participants reported more blame than female participants. However, there was a significant main effect in rudeness between both conditions (driver rude and the neutral). We also found that male participants reported less “if
Many people do nothing to help those suffering in society. Some people continue leading their happy, privileged lives without any care about the less privileged, while others simply pity them and walk away, claiming that there is nothing they can do.
All throughout Elementary school teachers and parents would say, “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you”, but in a way they were wrong. My father married my step-mother who had two children around my age. The oldest was a very normal kid, but the second was autistic. Despite his autism, he was a very sweet kid and when it came to the subject of animals he was a genius, however this made no difference to his peers. He would be referred to as “retard” or other hurtful names behind his back. His brother, himself, and myself all went to the same school and his brother and I would have to deal with these immature students. They would pick on him constantly, but the saddest part is he could never tell that they were picking on him; in his mind he thought that was how everyone played. I would have to talk to these students, but they never understood the problem, “he can’t tell” or “he’s having fun” they would say. In no way does that make it right. Just because someone can’t tell that you are picking on them or doesn’t hear you say the hurtful comments, shouldn’t allow you to disrespect them.
I believe that people should treat others with the respect they deserve and treat them as equals. I was a well respected middle class individual. I had a beautiful wife and two exquisite daughters named Margot and Anne. Then all of this was taken from me.
There are several people in today’s society that are two-faced. Interpersonally most of the society is judgmental and resentful. On the other hand, people are sweeter on the outside (Brown 16). We make it easier and comfortable to dislike something or someone because we hold them accountable. We need to learn to analyze the situation and not only assume; in other words, don’t judge a book by its cover. In one of my college classes there was a woman that would always be late to class. There were several occasions that the instructor would extend the assignment deadline just because her assignment were not completed. Some student would get irritated and talked about her behind her back. However, they did not know that she was a victim of abuse by her own husband and was affected emotionally and physically. The other students did not have any compassion for the women. It was easier for them to assume and talk about her instead of taking the time to ask her if anything was
As a child growing up, I was taught to be well mannered at home and everywhere I go. I was taught to say please and thank you, yes ma’am, and to hold the door open for individuals. In todays society, more and more people are forgetting their manners and are becoming offensively impolite. Whenever I go to a store to shop or even just to go out in public to burn some time, I never forget to take my manners with me. As I'm out and about, I've noticed the rudeness of individuals and some take
When I receive a rude waiter or waitress I can be very outspoken. I do not think that I should pay for a service that is not satisfactory. I can be even more outspoken when I am expressing my opinion to a server and I do not see any improvement. Receiving a rude server can ruin my entire experience and cause me to never go back.