High School Cliques

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Friends can make or break your middle and high school social life. In sixth through twelfth grade it’s all about who you are friends with, then after that no one actually cares. Honestly I’m not in any specific “clique” that hangs out all the time, that would probably explain all my hours of time Netflix. A nine year old me wanted to be in those cliques, go to all the raging parties, and have perfect grades, yet I just couldn’t do it. I did go to one “popular” party, it was a pity invite since we were in the same math, at the same table, and she was talking to her friends about it. Basically, my life is much different than the expectation. Think of me as one of the one’s who jumps around, and can be friends with practically anyone, but as the great Aristotle once said,”A friend to all is a friend to none”. …show more content…

Obvious cliques formed and I of all people have chosen to avoid it, most of my time is spent on my phone or in sports leaving little time for outside people. The lunchroom at the beginning of the year is horrible, I had many acquaintances in many groups yet no place where I fit in. Walking into the lunchroom every weekday was painful, look to the left, look to the right, there is no where to sit. “Long table with cool people or short table with lame people?” was a constant thought. Eventually I find a middle ground and settle in with a group of girls and stayed there for the rest of the

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