Good Parenting Isn T A Bad Thing Summary

When it comes to parenting, people have so many ideas about what not to do, what to do, what’s wrong, and what’s right. People often think rewarding and praising children when they do something good is a great thing to do and these praises motivates the child. In Jim Taylor’s article he writes about praising a child for doing something good isn’t a bad thing, but how you praise them is important. He argues that the use of the phrase “good job!” and other ordinary phrases like this doesn’t actually commend the child for doing something good, but that the phrase is quite harmful to a growing child. In the article he argues his point of view of how a child should be praised and uses research and other professors to back up his claim. In the article

As Taylor states his opinions through the essay he gives results done by researchers and direct quotes from these researchers on this idea. For example, Taylor states “Children develop a sense of competence by seeing the consequences of their actions, not by being told about the consequences of their actions”. Right after Taylor makes this statement, he brings up the research done at Columbia University that showed that kids were more involved with learning and attempting activities better after they were praised for this effort rather than being praised for their outcome. If a child is told good job just for an outcome and not the actual job they’ll be more driven by the desire to do it perfectly again than to just try and what happens when don’t feel as if they did right the second time? Lisa Firestone states in her article, “A recent Stanford Study of toddlers showed that praising effort, not talent, leader to greater motivation and more positive attitudes toward the challenges down the road.” She also states this could lead to feelings of entitlement, feelings of inadequacy, a life with disappointment, and loss of interest in