The second family that I interviewed was the Lyles family. Both Bro. Scotty, the father, and Mrs. Yolanda, the mother, participated in the interview and three of their children were in the room. Bro. Scotty was born and raised in Alba, Texas on the very same tree farm that he owns and operates today; he is also a deacon at our church. However, Mrs. Yolanda was born and raised in Guatemala. As a child she was raised Catholic, and is part of a large and growing family. She is one of eight children. Their family as well as anybody else in that culture celebrated their daughter’s 15th birthday with a Quinceañera which marked the transition from childhood to young womanhood. This was traditionally the first time the girls would wear make-up, nice …show more content…
jewelry, high heels, etc. For the celebration the daughter would also wear a formal ball gown; this event was a major celebration almost equivalent to a wedding. The holidays that are celebrated in Guatemala are generally celebrated longer and much differently than here in America. For example, Easter was celebrated the whole week with parades and festivals. Memorial Day, known there as Día de los Muertos (the Day of the Dead), is celebrated as a day to remember the ones who have passed. She said that many families, not hers, would attend mass on that Sunday and then take a basket to the cemetery and have a picnic as a form of remembrance. Growing up her family did not have a respect for time, she said “In Guatemala, no one gets anywhere on time” they could be 20 minutes to 2 hours later than what was said, and it was not unusual. Mrs. Yolanda made the statement that in Guatemala you do not have the freedom of speech so truly having your own political views is not easily done. Because of that politics was not really an important factor for her. In Guatemala education is extremely important. A degree is a necessity in order to make any amount of livable income. Without one you truly would not be able to support yourself, much less a family. Mrs. Yolanda came to America as an exchange student during her senior year of high school; this is when she met Bro. Scotty. While in America she accepted Christ as her Savior and began to strive for a godly life. After she graduated she moved back to Guatemala, this is when Bro. Scotty “chased her down”, as she said. He went to Guatemala and got her to move back to America, and they married when she was 19 years old. The Lyles Family has ten children ranging in age from 35- to 13-years-old, and so far they have nine grandchildren ranging from 15-years to 10-months-old. When I asked them what characteristics they wanted their children to possess they said the most important was for them to have a Godly character; putting God first and trusting in Him. Mrs. Yolanda home-schools the children, the three oldest girls were public schooled up until high-school when it was time for the boys to start school; that is when she made the decision to homeschool them all. Family has a strong bond to them. They all stay close. For example, two of their children and their families live on the other side of the farm, and two other children and their families live no more than 8 miles away. The only child that lives more than that lives in Tyler with his wife and two children as he goes to school, but is home every weekend for church and to help on the farm. The rest of their children still live with them. Every chance they get they have family gatherings inviting any and everyone else for meals, to play games, or to have some sort of celebration. It is also very common for them to take family vacations; including all children, children-in-law, grandchildren, and Bro. Scotty’s mother who lives in the house maybe thirty feet from theirs. With the exception of their family holding a different religious meaning for many holidays, they celebrate holidays similarly to how she did as a child (without the duration of the event). Christmas is one that I was able to experience this past year and I found it similar to our New Year’s celebration. Everyone comes to their home and stays up chatting, playing games, and eating until midnight, and then they all go outside and welcome Christmas Day with fireworks and cheers! Celebrating Christ’s birth! When I asked them about their parenting style they both agreed that they had the Authoritative style, in which two of their children quickly chimed in one jokingly saying they are definitely Authoritarians and the other saying “No, they are Permissive with you” talking to the youngest daughter (19 years old). From knowing this family for close to 9 year now I have come to the conclusion that they were definitely more strict with the first three girls than with the last six children (There is a ten year gap between child number three and child number four). One of the questions was “Do you allow your children to negotiate?” Mrs. Yolanda kind of chuckled and said “In a way we talk it over….Well Scotty NO, but with me yes…” we all sort of laughed at that one. I would agree with them on having an Authoritative parenting style. The third family that I interviewed was the Ley/Centeno Family. Both parents were born in Mexico City, Mexico but from different regions. Xochitl, the mother, is the oldest of four children. She was raised in a single parent household until she was around nine years old. Her father was never really in the picture. Her mother moved the family (at the time only having three children) to America when Xochitl was three, and the last child was born here in America. When she was around nine years old her mother remarried, and he is who they all consider their dad. On a very rare occasion have I ever heard her talk about her birth father. Growing up her mother was the head of the household even after remarrying. As children they were expected to obey without having to be told twice and would have consequences for disobeying. “She would just snatch us up and spank us if she knew we were thinking about it…” she was trying to explain her mother’s quickness to correct them. Family has always been extremely important to them. Much of her mother’s family has also moved here to East Texas and they all live within several blocks of each other. When asked of a tradition or event that she takes pride in she easily stated that every Sunday the family gathers at her Abuelita’s house (her grandmother) for lunch and stays pretty much all day playing games and conversing. In Mexico they practiced Catholicism but once they moved here they rarely attended mass. She said that after her mother remarried they began to attend church at our church, which is a Baptist church. That was when she became saved and they have been members ever since. Her mother views education as a vital part of growing up and always believed that teachers deserved respect, but within reason. If Xochitl or her siblings ever had issues with a teacher they were to bring it to their mother’s attention and she would be the one to approach the conflict. The children did not have the ground to cause conflicts with any adult. The father, Javier, lived in Mexico until he was 17 years-old. He also lived with a single mother. Growing up in Mexico is extremely different from America. They have laws and police in Mexico, but they can easily be bought to get basically whatever they wish. The rules are not enforced well at all. One example they gave was that in Mexico they have a legal drinking age but if a minor was to try to purchase alcohol all they had to say was “it’s for my dad” and they would let them pay for it and take off. That’s crazy! There are two major events that occurred in their families growing up that were considered, in a way, a rite of passage. The first practice was infant baptism, the pouring of water on an infant’s head – signifying that the family will raise the child in faith. The second was a Quinceañera, becoming a woman. At this time the Ley/Centeno family have one child, she is only five months old, but do plan to have more.
I think she said three or four at the most. Xochitl and Javier are not yet married but are engaged and planning on getting married around the time that Yaretzy (their daughter) can walk and be a part of the wedding. When it came to the parenting style questions most of them were answered as she was being raised and then how she plans to approach the situations with their children. She was raised to be respectful to her elders and to always be honest, and she said that she plans to keep those two characteristics when raising Yaretzy. Family will continue to be one of the most important things as they raise their children, as well as a love for their culture. Her mother would usually punish them through spankings, but she said that she would like to try using time outs or loss of privileges before resorting to spankings. One thing I found quite funny in her answers was with the question that asked “If your child were to start crying for something in the store what would you do?” she said that her mother would never give in and on most occasions would lean down to them and with this big smile on her face whispers in their ear how much trouble they would be in once they get home. She said that to anybody else walking by it looked like there was nothing wrong, just having a
conversation. Xochitl stated that her mother would have definitely fit the Authoritarian parenting style and that Javier’s would be the Permissive parenting style. She said that she hopes and will strive to fit the Authoritative parenting style as she raises her children. From knowing her personally and from the answers that she gave in her interview I do believe that she will most likely fit in the Authoritative style of being warm and loving but having boundaries for their children.
Julia Alvarez in her book, Once Upon a Quinceañera, explores the quince tradition from cultural, historical and personal angles. Herein, she seeks to clarify some of the myths and ideas that surround this tradition from the notion that quinceañeras are from old Aztec traditions to the idea that this rite has been passed down from one Latino generation to another. She discovers that most contemporary quinces are firsts for many families and are different from those of the past. Consequently, the tradition depicts a group that is experiencing transformation who seek to establish their roots in a past that is somehow bleak. Many have often described the US has a melting pot of cultures. Therefore, Americans from different cultures find themselves amalgamating their values with those of the American society, thus affecting the overall culture of their communities. In Once Upon a Quinceañera, the author demonstrate and applies the cultural myth of melting pot.
The way person leads a group of people or an organization is key to a successful business or outreach. There are many styles and techniques for a leader to implement. Christian leaders are no exception; some might say being a leader in a church organization can be a more scrutinizing position than other leaders. Since, a church leader has expectations on how they should act or conduct themselves because of the Christian faith. This paper will discuss an interview with a person in leadership brother Larry and will give an account of his leadership approach. Furthermore, what strengths and weaknesses are prevalent according to authors Kouzes and Posner and the model they have in their book, Christian Reflections on The Leadership Challenge.
Kaakinen, Gedaly-Duff, Coehlo & Hanson, (2010) report family is the biggest resource for managing care of individuals with chronic illness; family members are the main caregivers and provide necessary continuity of care. Therefore, it is important for health care providers to develop models of care based on an understanding what families are going through (Eggenberger, Meiers, Krumwiede, Bliesmer, & Earle, 2011). The family I chose to interview is in the middle of a transition in family dynamics. I used the family as a system approach as well as a structure-function theoretical framework to the effects of the changes in dynamic function. Additionally, the combinations of genogram, ecomap, adaptations of the Friedman Family Assessment model as well as Wright & Leahey’s 15 minute family interview were utilized.
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A family assessment is a process for gathering and organizing information in ways that can help a family prevent and or solve problems. The goal is to obtain a full understanding and unbiased view of the strengths and problems. A good assessment is about relationship building, engaging families in an exploration of their strengths, values and goals to build mutual trust and respect. Then when problems do arise, this relationship can be the foundation of open communication allowing the doors to open for identification of additional supports needed to reduce or eliminate the factors causing harm.
In a Mexican family men are usually known to be the man of the house which meant providing for the “whole” family, my grandfather Bernabe Mendoza-Perez was a strong and hardworking man that put his family first before him. When I interviewed my grandfather he hesitated for a bit because he didn’t think that his life story would be that interesting, but as we progressed with the interview I realized that he had a rough childhood which made him the man he is today. Some things that I asked during the interview was his childhood, religion, different kinds of occupations, how he immigrated, some difficult times he faced and the occupations he does in the present.
Imagine flying a plane while still attending high school. This is something Anthony enjoys doing in his free time. I have known Anthony Bellotti since elementary school, but Anthony and I were never close, until we interviewed each other. While interviewing Anthony I learned even more than I already knew about his family, school life, and his hobbies.
I interviewed my mom who has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a seizure disorder, and fibromyalgia; therefore, she struggled to be fully physically, mentally, and emotionally present while my sister Hannah and I were growing up. That definitely influenced how she parented us: she did the best she could, but her parenting style has fluctuated a lot over the years. To keep this from being too lengthy I will focus on her parenting style with my sister now, which is mainly permissive. For example, on several occasions Mom has decided to homeschool Hannah because she was doing poorly in school. Each time she attempts to do this, she buys all the books, works with Hannah for a couple days, Hannah decides she doesn’t want to do her work that
I have decided to interview my beloved grandmother, Fiza Gilbert for my special assignment. My grandmother is currently 79 years of age. She will turn eighty in September, and I had the pleasure of talking to her about aging and how it has impacted her life. As the interview went on, we laughed and shared memories of when she took care of me twenty years ago till today. Although my grandmother was a very strong woman with much love and support, I have also seen her struggle with every day habits as she ages.
The different aspects or contexts of your life, such as your family, friends, and school, influence who you are, and help shape your identity. Typically, your family impacts the way you think, the way you feel, and how you interact or treat people. This is because your parents, or other extended family members, teach you right from wrong, and set rules and expectations for you. Your family also influences your beliefs, ethics, values, and morals, due to the culture and traditions you grow up around. The other people you surround yourself with, such as friends, have a huge impact on your personality, interests and behavior. Most likely, you will start to act and like the same things as your friends. It’s human nature to imitate what we see.The
Have you ever heard of a family crest? If you have not, a family crest is a list of symbols that represent you or your family. There is a variety of different crests out there and if you can believe it or not, you probably have one. These are very symbolic to your family heritage and beliefs. Three symbols that represent my family crest is a cross, a red-tailed hawk, and a bow and arrow.
The Families Comes First: An Initiative to Create Healthy Families and Homes will be created to help reach the Divisions goal of helping families reach their full human potential. For simplicity, Families Come First is hereinafter known as FCF. Children and families deserve to live in safe and clean homes. They also deserve to have the resources to take care of themselves and children. The FCF initiative will provide families with a family support worker, known hereinafter as FSW. FCF will also provide a care package to each family that contains essential home care and hygiene items so that they can reach their full human potential.
Have you ever had something happen in your life it made you so happy you still remember? I do. I remember the day my mother made a surprise party for me. She knew that turning fifteen in a Latina's world meant so much. My mother couldn’t afford to do me a Quinceañera- the celebration of a girl's fifteenth birthday in parts of Latin America . It is celebrated differently from any other birthday, as it marks the change from adolescent to young womanhood.A Quinceañera is a celebration in which a girl turns fifteen which in the Spanish speaking countries it is a recognition of her journey from adolescent to young womanhood. It starts out with a religious ceremony. Afterwards comes the reception which is held at home or at a banquet hall. The celebration includes food, music, choreographed dances or waltz (performed by the quinceañera and her court). A court is made up of fourteen people ( seven young girls and seven young men) plus the quinceañera making it fifteen. She wears a ball gown. Normally the gown’s color is chosen to be white or pink but in last few years it has changed as more trends come out. Some dresses are now chosen to be blue, purple, yellow, orange, red, and even black. As I was growing up I started hearing about girls turning fifteen getting ready to plan their parties and inviting people to their quinces. They would say they would get a DJ or a Mexican/ Guatemalan group to come sing at their party.
She said that she was raised like any ordinary American family was except that she has two dads. She talked about how they were both really good dads and loved her a lot and would do anything for her if she asked. She said growing up that they were definitely over protective because of how people are today and that they did not want her to get teased for having two dads. But she said that is not preventable because that’s just how people are today unfortunately. She said she got teased a lot in middle school for having two dads and she said that was really hard because she didn’t know any different and she thought that it was normal and she also told them that you don’t get to choose your parents and I loved that she said that because that is so true! She talked a lot about how when they all go out in public and her dads hold hands or show any type of affection even if it is little that all people do is stare at
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