I believe that both Kate and Andy, in their own way, followed Everett Worthington’s REACH model of forgiveness. They recalled the hurt, empathized with Conor, gave him the gift or forgiveness, were committed to that forgiveness, and held on to that forgiveness, to the point that they were his strongest advocates for a lighter sentence. They forgave quickly and easily, not out of concern for their health or out of guilt, but out of their spirituality and need for internal peace. They did not want to be victims and they did not want their daughter to be just a statistic. “Everything I feel, I can feel because we forgave Conor,” Kate said. “Because we could forgive, people can say her name. People can think about my daughter, and they don’t
The rape wasn’t the only thing she pain that changed her. When she was younger, she was trying to become popular so she changes herself completely, leaving a sour note with a lot of people. Also, when the whole smoking situation was put all on her, the thought that a “Kate” would come and take her beloved Luke away from her. If I was in her shoes I wouldn't have done the same thing she did, instead I would help other people who went through the same thing. I would start an organization that helped people with their struggles instead of trying to be in competition with people that are most likely thinking the same thing I am.
Well known transcendentalist and writer, Ralph Waldo Emerson, in his poem The Apology, describes his unapologetic nature towards the people misunderstanding his passion and beliefs, as well as his feelings toward the existence of a God. Emerson was born on May 25th, 1803. Ralph Waldo Emerson graduated from Harvard University in 1821. He became a transcendentalist in 1823, these beliefs being what inspired most of his works. Emerson became a licensed and ordained minister by the year 1829. Emerson married Ellen Tucker in 1829 as well. When she died of tuberculosis in 1831, he fell into a state of depression. Her death, added to his own recent crisis of faith, caused him to resign from the church. In 1833 he began to lecture
Many people show empathy for humans like homeless people or ill family members or even just someone in a bad state. These people you can say show responsibility towards those events that are unpredictable in life. There are many people that show this, many people that explain this, and even many people that cause those emotions. These people don’t feel the same things we feel, these people see society in different eyes, in different ways, and in other words in different perspectives. They feel that they cannot forgive people for events that caused them anger, depression, or even made them feel like if they weren't worth anything.
—Forgiveness is a suite of prosocial motivational changes that happened after a person has incurred a transgression (McCullogh). McCullogh also asserts the forgiveness process includes empathy for the transgressor, generous attributions and appraisals regarding the transgression and transgressor, and rumination abalout the transgression where agreeableness takes a serious place in the person who needs to forgive someone. Andre was impressed by his father’s work, the emotion developed in Andre’s mind have given up revenge and resentment thought to his father. When Andre’s father had an accident that made his legs crushed and had to sit on a wheelchair for the rest of his life; Andre immediately felt how vulnerable people are. He cherished the relationship with his father, in fact after the accident Andre started to cherish everyone besides him. The accident was a trigger to a prosocial motivational change to Andre and his father’s relationship. “But deliver us from evil. Amen” (Dubus, 387). Andre prayed on his father’s funeral. Forgiveness needs something to trigger; Andre understand pop’s condition and forgave him. Andre knew that his father has done the best he could, and he was happy and grateful that he had a father. Moreover, Andre’s life was full of sports, the healing process was impacted by
In the book of Apology, Socrates was mistakenly accused, and the accusation went as follows: "Socrates is an evil-doer who corrupts the youth, and who does not believe in the gods whom the city believes in, but in other new divinities"(Plato 9). During the trial, he denied all the accusations. He denied the would-be corruption of the youth and disclaimed his alleged disbelief in the gods of the Athenian state. However, he was still put in prison unjustly because the elaw had been incorrectly applied. Crito was a book after Apology. It was a dialogue from the main characters Socrates and his friend Crito. The main theme of the book of Crito is about whether Socrates should break the law and escape from execution, or stay and accept his death
Forgiveness and Marriage in Much Ado about Nothing, All's Well That Ends Well, and Measure for Measure
Forgiving someone is a way to release us from the pain they have brought us. Justice can just be
The essay "Forgiveness," written by June Callwood, explores the concept of forgiving and how it influences people's lives for the better. Her work describes many components of forgiveness, such as how difficult it can be to come to terms with, why it is such a crucial part of humanity, and how it affects all people. Her essay aims to prove that forgiveness is the key to living peacefully and explains specific examples of people who have encountered extremely difficult situations in their lives- all of whom found it within themselves to forgive. To clearly portray this message in her writing, Callwood uses several strategies. She includes fear inducing statistics, makes many references to famous events and leaders, and uses a serious convincing tone, all of which are very effective.
How much strength would it take to forgive someone who hurt your family? Does the feeling of judgment come to mind instead of forgiveness? The Shack highlights important concepts of God and true happiness. There is the acknowledgment of true strength in people and the true meaning of judgment. Then there is the most outstretched point in the novel of forgiveness. These three strong points of the novel help to structure the hidden meaning. Some would say that forgiving yourself would be the easiest, but is it really? Throughout the three top concepts of strength, judgment, and forgiveness the value of God’s love and the actions of our everyday lives come into play.
Forgivenessis a way of smoothing social relationships and maintaining one’s welfare. Personality types have a strong relationship with the degree of forgiveness. It is expected that a person who has this particular personality type will also have his own level of forgiveness depending on how a person thinks and how to deal
Forgiving and Forgetting “You might forgive, but forgetting is not always possible.” There are many different responses to this statement, and different people hold different opinions, both for and against it. I agree with the statement, because Christians are taught that “to sin is human, to forgive is divine”, proving that it is difficult even to forgive, never mind forget. An argument in favour of the statement is, as human beings, we do not possess the capability to completely wipe out memories from our minds, no matter how hard we may try.
Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense. It is also the discarding of negative emotions, such as revenge, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. In this study, the researcher explored how justification and apologies have to be phrased and framed to render them acceptable to the victims.
Forgiveness is the act of releasing an offender of any wrong or hurt they may have caused you whether they deserve it or not. It is a decision to let go of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group of people. When we choose to forgive, we’re wiping the slate clean, cancelling a debt, or as I love to say, “Letting it go.” In the Bible, the Greek word for forgiveness literally means to “let it go.” This concept, “forgiveness,” is easier said than done. Majority of people find it very difficult to let go of offenses and hurts caused by others. I really do believe that most people desire to let it go, but we lack the knowledge of how to do it. As believers, we are instructed by God maintain an attitude of forgiveness.
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For this assignment I decided to pick a top strength to further embrace and a lower strength to work on making better. My second highest ranking on the assessment and the strength I chose to further embrace was kindness and generosity. This character strength is characterized as being kind to others and happy to do favors for anyone even if you don’t know them well. The second strength I chose to focus on was my absolute bottom strength: Forgiveness and Mercy. This is characterized as not holding a grudge or seeking revenge but rather letting the feud settle and forgiveness and mercy overcome you. The week I spent working on these strengths had many ups and downs but I feel as though they ultimately came to a successful conclusion and a place where I can continue to grow from.