Essay About Philophobia

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Philophobia: fear of love or falling in love. Feelings you get when you’ve been hurt over and over again by multiple people or even someone you truly loved. A feeling you think you will never overcome, no matter how much you grow. For me this was something new, falling for a damaged individual was never in my plan. When I first met my “forever” I was only 13, and here it is 6 years later and “forever” will never exist again. We met as friends, and I never wanted more because our friendship was so rare. It was something I never felt before, and hoped to never feel again. Surprisingly, I decided to take a chance… in hopes that it will be worth it. However, I found out it may have been the worst decision I’ve ever made. When building a relationship, a connection, association, or involvement can be very smooth in the beginning but when the problems come along, you begin to question everything. Now that’s where everything took things for the worst.
I remember everything like the event was played over and over, or maybe I was just that damaged. He was so sweet and so kind, which made me more venerable by the day. He wrote the most …show more content…

The one person I finally gave my all to, hurt me in the worst way possible. After being stuck in my room and depressed for about a week, I decided it was time to pick myself up and get it together. After that day I vowed never to let anyone hurt me that bad again, but in reality it madeit took a big toll on my future. Now i’m 19 years old, I do not have patients when it comes to anything let alone anybody. My resentment for him falls upon someone else, someone who doesn’t deserve it. It is now the hardest thing to simply to give someone the time of day. I still cannot see why I allow the grief to fall back on people who is not him, but I will always have a barrier up when it comes to my feelings. I will always have Philophobia, the fear of love or falling in

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