Dis/located Identities: Swinging and Contemporary Sexual Space
A committed relationship without monogamy sounds like a contradiction in terms to those raised in America, or most any country at this point in history. The nature of commitment suggests that it requires a single partner and the promise to remain faithful to that person. Swingers choose a slightly different route and yet it is one that can involve more trust and openness than monogamous relationships offer. Swingers [1] are couples who choose to have not only a committed relationship but to also explore, as couple, recreational sex with other individuals and couples. At the heart of a strong swinging relationship is not sex at all; rather, there is the openness, trust, and communication necessary to both talk openly about desires and fantasies and to act on them within the bounds of commitment. “To swingers, physical acts of sexual pleasure with someone you respect, just for pleasure, and making love to one’s lifetime partner are two distinctly different things” (Thomas 20).
This form of sexuality is clearly outside the norm of heterosexual behavior, especially that of married or committed adults. But is it a legitimate sexual identity? Does the swinging community deserve recognition in the same terms as other minority sexual identities?
Like any other form of sexual expression, swinging takes on a handful of common variants. Soft swinging is a newer form and refers “a desire for sexual activities such as watching, being watched, mutual masturbation, and possibly oral sex but without changing partners for full sexual intercourse” (Thomas 20). Closed swinging is a more commonly recognized form of swinging where couples swing in different rooms – this is where the slightly derogatory term ‘wife swapping’ probably originated. Open swinging is where two couples will swing in the same room. Couples who prefer open swinging tend to enjoy watching their partner with another person, participating somehow while their partner is having sex with another person, or the women are bisexual and wish to enjoy each other while the men watch. Group swinging is basically equivalent to an orgy, although group swinging as a term is preferred. “A lot of swingers who enjoy this type of swinging find that it satisfies their tastes for exhibitionism and voyeurism at the same time. Some people have fantasies of finding out how many lovers they can satisfy in one evening…” (Thomas 20).
In every walk of life, people seek refuge from the judgmental perception of their contemporaries. Thus, many people live in secrecy. For them, secrecy is an absolute necessity in dodging undesired scrutiny and maintaining normalcy in public. When it comes to gender and the expression of it, lines are often blurred. While some hide, others brazenly parade their sexuality in public and their alternative perspectives on gender roles. In “The Bowery as Haven and Spectacle” from Gay New York, by George Chauncey, explores the emergence of the Bowery “fairy” bars, and how they became a sanctuary for the queer and working-class of New York City. He discusses in great length the tension that arises between the middle-class and working-class, the bars as a spectacle and a place to be entertained, the solicitation of sex work, and the makings of gay culture in the bar scene. The lines of gender were blurred when men took up cross dressing and the mannerisms normally associated with women. On the other hand, Merril Mushroom, writer of "How to Engage in Courting Rituals 1950's Butch-Style in the Bar", complies a laundry list of rules for butch lesbians on methods of attracting other women. Here, females cross gender boundaries and take on masculine personas. With this said, both pieces show the development of alternative gender identities. However, this switch in gender roles seldom occur outside the bar scene. Despite the semi-public gender blurring, those who identify with this lifestyle still feel the need to express themselves in an environment most accommodating to their blatant disregard of gender norms. The aforementioned pieces answer questions in regards to why one must live in secrecy, and how this secrecy gives way to the developme...
New venues for leisure where men and women could meet and engage in unrestricted social interaction, brought a shift in the average American’s experience of courting and sexuali...
...s mocked for going against the book even though doing so earned him many victories (10 greatest 45+). Doc Edwards was the manager of Cleveland and he gave someone who was on a 39 game hitting streak a chance to beat them instead of intentionally walking him and it payed off they won, but he was criticized and later fired for this act. He later said “I don't care if it was Jesus Christ walking up to the plate, I still would have let him hit”. Coaches can be the best of all time but sometimes it pays off to follow the set rules and expectations.
Whereas the women considered themselves bi-curious. One of the beliefs of the swinger culture is female bisexuality is accepted over male bisexuality. Although swingers are considered to have a more liberal attitude towards sexuality, politically they fall into a moderate to conservative group. Swingers have above averages incomes and educations (Jenks, 1998). According to a 2010 study there are an estimated 2 to 15 million people who engage in the swinger’s lifestyle worldwide. However, it is hard to obtain accurate data being it is such a secretive culture. Many swingers keep this part of their life private from family, friends, and co-workers. Remarkably, couples viewed swinging as a marriage-friendly alternate to cheating, a way to explore sexually and remain, contradictory, faithful. Wives, specifically, do not feel like swinging is cheating when their husbands are present. This has led to an increased uptake of women swinging in an attempt to fulfill their sexual desires they long for in their monogamous relationship. In addition to the excitement of being sought after and admired by
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