Cultures differ from one another, leading to major differences in behaviors, traditions, and beliefs. The way people behave in a culture is usually reflected on what is morally accepted in that culture. Every child is brought up in a home where they are taught a set of moral rules, that will guide them to the right way to behave. Thus, when the child grows up, they will have a clear understanding of what is viewed as a right or wrong behavior. Moreover, traditions reflect on the identity of a culture, each culture has a unique way of expressing their traditions and beliefs to other cultures. In contrast, parents play a primary role in the way their children behave. This role is dependent on the parents understanding and beliefs as to what …show more content…
There have been debates as to how the differences between cultures reflect on the methods of parenting parents choose to approach. It is found that culture plays a leading role in the methods of parenting chosen by most parents. That is true because cultures have certain expectations from parents to achieve with their children. This matters because not all parents agree with those expectations, but they feel the need to deliver them. The way children are raised around the world is dependent on the beliefs and morals rules of their parents. The Chinese and Saudi cultures differ from one another in their approaches towards parenting. Parenting methods differ in the way of showing emotions with their children, approaches for building confidence, and the treatment of their children to them in the future. Chinese parents believe that successful parents are those who are emotionally shut off with their children, but Saudi parents believe that showing emotions is an important aspect of parenting. Expressing emotions towards a child is critical for positive personality building, and the child’s ease with expressing empathy towards others. Children need to feel that their parents care about how they feel and …show more content…
Saudi moms raise their children to be confident and able to make their own decisions. Moreover, they stress that the child does what they like and enjoys. Adversely, Chinese moms force the child to do what they see as successful, and believe in the saying "academic achievement reflects successful parenting”. Thus, they make sure that their children are getting the best grades along with extra activities, without putting much thought if their children enjoy it or not. This method affects the child's self-confidence in making their own decisions and problem-solving skills. Saudi parents put a lot of effort in respecting their children’s uniqueness in their personality, and they make sure that they follow what they truly love and find passion in. Therefore, they always support their children’s choices, decisions, and provide them with a positive supportive and caring environment. This has a positive impact on the child's confidence and ability to be independent. By contrast, Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children, therefore, they control their children's preferences, desires, and behavior. They also believe that the best way to prepare and protect a child from the upcoming future is by pushing them and to let them explore their capacities. This approach is successful in the child’s career
Today, you can observe someone and see how much of their cultural background influences them when deciding or they are acting on morals. Culture is made up of many aspects such as knowledge, beliefs, morals, law and habit. Culture is not an innate ability rather, it’s something people learned. In “Being Weird: How Culture Shapes the Mind” Ethan Watters explores a work of an anthropologist Joe Henrich, who uses a game called “ultimatum game” with small communities to tell whether they have the same universal human behavior. The way people learn their culture is through observing. Culture defines people’s world, it is how they should act, guide their behavior and perceptions throughout their lives.
They look at two infant groups, one in the United Kingdom and the other in India (Chintalapuri et al., 2013). What Chintalapuri et al. (2013) found in their study was that parental directives were higher across the board in India showing that while directives are present at the same age in both cultures that the prevalence of directives are what are different across cultures.
Chinese parenting is competent at times but there are other times where it is more suitable to follow other forms of parenting such as the Western style.These findings have important consequences for the broader domain of parent-child relationships. Whether it is Chinese parenting or Western parenting the relationship between family members is crucial. According to Amy Chua, Chinese parenting is more effective in helping the child attain a better future through the parents’ interests, while Western parenting style reflects mainly the interests of the child.
It is obvious that the methods adopted by Chinese women are highly effective due to the strictness of their nature and so, have led to positive reformation among children. I would suggest that Western mothers should adopt the method employed by Chua and other Chinese mothers to raise their children. A strict upbringing will have a positive consequence among children and that these children will further develop a good understanding of positive social behavior. As a result of a strict upbringing, majority of the Chinese children are well educated, but at the same time, social life is critical in as far as child development is concerned, therefore, creating a balance between the western and Chinese upbringing methods is imperative in order to enhance a positive child
Did you know, that some studies show that compared to “Western” parents, “Chinese” parents spend about 10 times as much time schooling their children in mathematics? Though many people have evaluated their parenting techniques, since the release of Amy Chua’s book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, I personally believe that we should portray the idea that there is no perfect parenting style.
...r that students’ thoughts and ideas about moral behavior may differ based on their cultural background.
Amy Chua (2011) names off three reasons that support her argument in why Chinese children are more successful. First, she mentions that Westerners worry too much on how their child will accept failure, whereas Chinese parents assume only strength in their child and nothing less. For example, if a Western child comes home with a B on a test, some parents will praise the child on their success and some may be upset, while a Chinese parent would convince their child they are “worthless” and “a disgrace.” The Western parents hope to spare their children’s feelings and to be careful not to make their child feel insecure or inadequate, while Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe their children can get them (Chua, 2011). Secondly, Chinese parents believe their chil...
Western parenting is a compelling illustration of not forcing children to get A’s, but letting the kids themselves figure out how to improve their grades as well as make adjustments from downs. Western parents are more likely to give more care and encouragement to their kids, even if the kids can’t meet their expectations. In the article “America’s Top Parent”, Kolbert claims that, “Americans have always been told to encourage their kids. This, the theory goes, will improve their self-esteem, and this, in turn, will help them learn. ”(1)
Lets start by understanding that cultures are a melting pot of people’s beliefs, language, behaviors, values, material objects, and norms. Norms are written and non-written “expectations of behavior” that govern a certain location, place, or culture (26). These norms also vary from culture to culture meaning what is a norm in the U.S may not be a norm in India. For example, a norm in America would be tipping a waiter after a meal. Another would be acknowledging someone as you walk past him or her, typically done at work or in a public place. In all, norms are folkways, mores, taboos, and written laws that are an established standard of one’s behavior.
Talib, M. B. A., Abdullah, R., & Mansor, M. (2011). Relationship between Parenting Style and Children’s Behavior Problems. Asian Social Science, 7(12), p195.
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
If a parent has a negative emotion and negative reactions to children’s expression of emotion, it will cause children to also have negative emotions and low social competence. It states, “children reared in families in which emotions, particularly negative emotions are not discussed freely may be deprived of information about emotions and their regulation and may conclude that emotions should not be expressed” (Eisenberg 255). Children will grow with a disadvantage in terms of their emotional and social competence. These kids will lack emotion because it was not discussed when they were younger and they will not know how to express how they truly feel since they were deprived. In the article “The Lifelong Impact of Childhood Experiences: A Population Health Perspective” it discusses that early childhood experiences have a powerful effect on one’s life. It also focuses on different statuses of the family as a child and that can also have an effect on how a parent is raising their child. It states “Across North America approximately 50 percent of single parent families live in poverty, more than twice as many as Western Europe”(Hertzman
In most families and communities mothers have considerate roles in cultural education as they are, according to Gardiner and Kosmitzki (2011), the “primary day-to-day teachers of cultures” (p. 99). Similarly, according to Kagitcibasi (1996), culture has a great influence of families and often dictates a mother 's expectations of her children. The skills and values that a mother will teach her children correlate to her cultural and religious beliefs. Nonetheless, culture is part of a greater system. In fact, Kagitcibasi (2006) explains that “parental beliefs are cultural constructions” (p. 28) and can be changed for the better or worse, depending on societal norms.
Amy Chua, who is a professor at the Yale Law School in the United States of America, wrote the interesting article ‘Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior’. The article evolves around the many concerns that Amy Chua has with the western way of raising children. According to Amy Chua, western parents should do as she herself, and most other Chinese parents do, and raise their kids with strict rules and tough consequences if the children were to defy these rules. Amy Chua succeeded in raising two successful kids herself; in the article, she tells us how she did it.
The parents alone decided how to raise the child, what the cultural norms are, what pressures to put on the child, and how they want to be when they grow up. For example, in China toddles are selected by state run sports schools. The parents of these children can decide to send their one and only child off to these sport training boarding schools, where they undergo years of grueling training. But to these parent this is the best way to raise their child, because they have a slim chance of bringing honor to their family and to China and can have more opportunities for a successful career (Taboo). As the earliest and most durable source of socialization, a child’s parents are the first people with whom he identifies, and they remain the strongest influence in his development. This overwhelming importance of parenting has led developmental psychologists to take an intense interest in parent/child interactions(George and Rajan, 99). A study of the relation between child inhibition and parenting styles(Canada vs. China) has shown that, child inhibition was associated with mothers ' positive attitudes toward the child, including acceptance, lack of punitiveness, and encouragement of achievement among Chinese participants and with punishment and overprotectiveness among Canadian participants. In another study done by Sonia George and Amar Rajan, thirteen variables (factors) were identified as factors of child-rearing, which constituted how parents bring up their children. The factors include acceptance, punishment, protectiveness, responsibility, responsiveness, reward, understanding, non-critical, permissiveness, encouragement, rapport, emotional stability, and patience(George Rajan 101). To generalize all thirteen, the variables include: acceptance/rejection, punishment/reward, and behavioral