“Emotional intelligence is the art of making peace with the entire emotional spectrum. It is not about suppressing your feelings. It is about conducting your feelings in a self- identifying way.” T.K Coleman a famous philosopher believes that emotions are versatile and that feelings should be identified and accepted which is the same idea of “Emotional Intelligence” an excerpt from “The World of Psychology” by Ellen Green Wood and Samuel Wood. This reading explains that emotional intelligence is said to be a self-knowledge which involves managing one’s emotions, self-motivation, and empathy. Emotional intelligence is essential to be successful in school, relationships and work.
People should have good management over their emotions. Every
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In this reading, Daniel Goleman a well known psychologist insists that the goal is balance and that every feeling has its own value and significance. He also says that people high in emotional intelligence have learned how to manage their moods and not let anger, boredom, or depression ruin their days. He says that if negative activities become a problem, people can set up activities that will keep their mind distracted. I totally agree with his idea of emotional management. I believe that if people split their problems or concerns and give each one its time they can live an easier life. Actually, it is interesting when Goleman said that to have better management we can activities because I think that really works . For instance, going out with friends, watching a movie, or doing anything for distraction. When people do these these kind of activities they feel happier and relaxed. Oscar Wilde, a famous novelist best known for his novel ‘The Picture of Dorian Grey” said “ I do not want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I …show more content…
Motivation is a strength that helps people to be persistent and not fail. When people is motivated and persistent on what they want, it is more likely that their goals will be achieved. Sometimes people get frustrated, but they should keep moving forward. Based on the reading, self-motivation is strength of self-control that enables a person to get moving and pursue worthy goals, persist at tasks even when feeling frustrated and resisting temptation to act on impulse, Not only that, also the ability to postpone immediate gratification and to be persistent in working towards greater future gain is most related to success. This part really caught my attention because I think this is true. When someone is persistent, small gratifications are good but not enough because there are better and greater ones. This is how people learn to get motivated to achieve bigger goals in life. I believe that when someone act with impulse they can still achieve goals but that people are called conformists, they are good with whatever they get. On the contrary, motivated people achieve long-term goals. In a “Ted Talk” video Joachim de Posada, best known as the co-author of the book “ Don’t eat the Marshmallow” which is a test where they give kids a marshmallow and tell them that if in fifteen minutes they get to resist from eating it, the will get another one afterwards. This test shows that the kids that did not eat the marshmallow are more
Emotional Intelligence, or EI, has no set definition, but it does have three popular models which are accepted by audiences. Goleman (1995) states that EI is a separate intelligence from IQ, which can be much more effective than IQ, and aid a person in all aspects of life. Goleman also states that EI is not able to be measured in a standardized testing format as IQ can be, but EI can be changed and molded to better the person 's abilities, unlike IQ. Goleman wrote his book based on Mayer and Salovey 's research on EI, but formed his definition into one different from the original research. Mayer and Salovey describe EI as a developmental trajectory of a mix of related cognitive abilities and performance which are difficult to change and mold. The third model was created by Bar-on, who believed that EI was a mechanism used to cope with one 's environment for positive results. Bar-on 's model used both personality and cognitive abilities to describe EI, instead of only congitive abilities as Mayer and Salovey, and
What is emotional intelligence? Paul Hong author of “Emotional intelligence Goleman’s four competencies” says that emotional intelligence can be described as the ability to recognize and manage your own and others’ emotions, including the capacity to self motivate and handle interpersonal relationships.The novel Brave New World took out the main component in a human set up so there is no way to create a special bond with other humans.
Emotional Intelligence, also known as ‘EI’, is defined as the ability to recognize, authoritize and evaluate emotions. The ability to control and express our own emotions is very important but so is our ability to understand, interpret and respond to the emotions of others. To be emotionally intelligent one must be able to perceive emotions, reason with emotions, understand emotions and manage emotions.
Emotional intelligence is the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions. (Ledlow & Coppola,
(Yoder-Wise, 2015, p. 7). Emotional intelligence involves managing the emotions of others while owning personal emotions. According to Skholer, “Researchers define emotional intelligence (EI) as the ability to recognize/monitor one’s own and other people’s emotions, to differentiate between different feelings, and to use emotional information to guide thinking, behavior, and performance.” (Skholer & Tziner, 2017).
He concluded that individuals who exhibit these skills are more successful than those that don’t. Emotions are universal – swing emotions (anxiety and anxiety can go both ways). People have to learn to convert fear and anxiety in to an energy to create a positive energy. It can encourage you or derail you. The emotional intelligence blueprint forces us to “take action” and develop our own emotional intelligence. He concedes that there are three common emotions that everyone feels on a daily basis: frustration, anxiety and enthusiasm (Weisinger, 2010 ). We all have the same emotions, but we express them differently. Applying emotional intelligence can include: observing your actions, being entuned to your intentions, and learning to relax. Managing anger includes realizing what is wrong and acknowledging that you are angry, in addition to asking yourself if you may have interpreted the other persons actions incorrectly and therefore may have over reacted. He also suggests that clarifying our feelings of doubt, in addition to coming to terms with the idea that there are going to be periods of uncertainty will help to alleviate anxiety (Weisinger, 2010 ). During periods of dejection/disappointment he suggests acknowledging your feelings and seeking a reliable support system that can help you reassess your goals. Weisinger suggests when feelings of fear begin to creep in people should acknowledge that they are experiencing the emotion and then evaluate the nature of the threat to determine if they are indeed scared or just overly concerned (Weisinger, 2010
The scope of emotional intelligence includes the verbal and nonverbal appraisal and expression of emotion, the regulation of emotion in the self and others, and the utilization of emotional content in problem solving. (pp. 433)
In looking at emotional intelligence, this is not a new concept. It can be traced back to Edward Thorndike study of social intelligence (Cartwright & Pappas, 2008). This type of intelligence is defined in “the ability to understand and manage people” along with taking this ability and applying it to oneself (Cartwright & Pappas, 2008, p. 152). The concept of emotions of how one deals with these internally and externally with others was discovered but it was difficult to measure (Bradberry & Su, 2006).
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, use, and understand emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, efficiently communicate, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and to defuse conflict. By harnessing emotional intelligence, we can modify our own behavior and our interaction with other people. By utilizing high emotional intelligence, we are able to recognize our won emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with others in a way that draws them nearer to you (Cherry, 2015).
In the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, the central thesis that he tries to point out is that emotional intelligence may be more important than I.Q. in determining a person’s well being and success in life. At first I didn’t know what Goleman was talking about when he said emotional intelligence, but after reading the book I have to say that I agree completely with Goleman. One reason for my acceptance of Goleman's theory is that academic intelligence has little to do with emotional life. To me, emotions can be just as intelligent as your I.Q. In this essay I hope to provide sufficient evidence to show why I agree with Goleman’s thesis on emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is basically the capability to distinguish, control and judge the emotions. According to the research, emotional intelligence can be learned and it can be enhanced but on other side it is claimed that emotional intelligence is inborn feature (Cherry, 2014).
Emotional Intelligence is this ability for yourself to recognize and understand emotions for yourself and those around you. This ability helps you manage your behavior and relationships to get a better perspective for others. We citizens all have emotions, we use it all the time. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social skills, and makes personal decisions that achieve great positive results. Of course we need to dig into the bottom of how it works, this ability is made up of four core skills that are made up with two primary sources: personal competence and social competence. How these two work is simple, personal competence is basically made up for your self-awareness and self-management skills (self-awareness is your ability to
According to Greenberg (1999), motivation is defined “as a process of arousing, directing and maintaining behavior towards a goal.” Where “directing” refers to the selection of a particular behavior; and ‘maintenance” refers to the inclination to behave with consistency in that manner until the desired outcome is met.
Applying these aspects of emotional intelligence has a significant enhancing effect on every aspect of life. It allows one to be self aware, improving the ability to process information about oneself accurately (Goleman, 2008). Emotional intelligence also affects management of mood in that it enhances one’s ability to manage emotions, create moods of positivity, and defuse bad moods. Emotional intelligence also comes in handy with regards to motivation of self. It increases an individual’s ability to overcome frustration, the ability to be persistent, ability to engage in tasks that are boring, but necessary, and to be involved in and cut out productive and non-productive actions respectively.
Emotional intelligence is where we control and manage our emotions to relieve stress and to empathize with others. EI will allow us to to see what others are going through with their emotions.