Using John Lee’s six styles of love and Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, I will discuss to separate relationships and how they relate to them. The two couples I chose to interview are from different generations, but both love their partner immensely. Throughout my interviews with the couples, I practiced active listening and got to know more about how their relationships worked. The first couple I interviewed was my cousin and her husband. They have been married for four years as of October, but they have been together for seven years. It was interesting to see how they interacted when there wasn’t a large amount of people around. The only time I was ever around them was during family reunions and in those situations, we do not talk …show more content…
It was interesting to interview them because I have been around them my whole life so I have been able to observe their behaviors for some time. My parents dated for two years before they decided to get married, but they have known each other for a while before that. My dad was friends with my mom’s brother, so they knew each other for a while. My dad says that he always thought my mom was beautiful, from the first time he saw her, even though she was a sophomore in high school and he was nine years older than her. Once one of them made the first move, they truly fell in …show more content…
When I asked to interview them, they were ecstatic to talk about their life together. My father definitely talked more than my mom, but when my mom had something to say, I noticed that my dad was actively listening to her. Seeing a couple communicate healthy is rare, but when it happens, it is amazing. They are able to joke with each other a lot, but they never go to bed mad at each other. My mom always makes sure to tell my dad that she loves him before he falls asleep. Their love for each other could never be questioned by people who know them. Using Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, it is easy to tell that my parents’ relationship exhibits consummate love. This kind of love combines intimacy, passion, and commitment, it is the type of relationship that children dream about having one day. They listen to each other, take care of one another, and most importantly, they love each other unconditionally. Talking with my parents is a great reminder of how healthy a relationship can be and that with hard work and determination, it can be
A History of Marriage by Stephanie Coontz speaks of the recent idealization of marriage based solely on love. Coontz doesn’t defame love, but touches on the many profound aspects that have created and bonded marriages through time. While love is still a large aspect Coontz wants us to see that a marriage needs more solid and less fickle aspects than just love. The first chapter begins with an exploration of love and marriage in many ancient and current cultures.
In the LGBT community, they develop intimate relationships in the same stages as heterosexual couples however they resolve conflicts more positively. Due to them being in a relationship with the same-sex partner, they approach roles in a relationship and marriage using egalitarianism. We all give and receive love differently. Knox & Schacht discuss the different types of loves styles a person’s desires from their relationships such as ludic, pragma, eros, mania, storge, and agape. These different love styles also express how lovers can understand and relate to one
Robert Nozick’s Love’s Bond is a clear summary of components, goals, challenges, and limitations of romantic love. Nozick gives a description of love as having your wellbeing linked with that of someone and something you love. I agree with ideas that Nozick has explained concerning the definition of love, but individuals have their meaning of love. Every individual has a remarkable thing that will bring happiness and contentment in their lives. While sometimes it is hard to practice unconditional love, couples should love unconditionally because it is a true love that is more than infatuation and overcomes minor character flaw.
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
Interpersonal relationships can take many forms and develop from multiple different factors. For example, Pat Solitano and Tiffany Maxwell, two characters from the movie Silver Linings Playbook, seem to have developed consummate love – a combination of all three factors in Sternberg’s triangle of love theory, which are passion, intimacy, and commitment (Aronson, p. 390-91). Their relationship developed over the course of the movie, starting from a little passion or physical attractiveness, growing into a somewhat dysfunctional form of an exchange relationship with hints of jealousy as well as self-disclosure, into the consummate love that is seen at the end of the movie. The two characters start to develop intimacy, passion, and commitment
Around the GCU campus, marriage and engagement is in the air. Men and women who have been together from a few months to a few years have made the decision to commit to each other for the rest of their life. In the Bible, there are four different Greek words that mean love: agape (Godly), eros (erotic), storge (family), and philia (friendship). In social psychology, there are three main types of love that combine to form different types of love. In Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, there are three main types of love: liking (intimacy alone), empty love (commitment alone), and infatuation (passion alone) (Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2013). When intimacy, commitment, and passion are combined, an experience known as consummate
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Love is a concept that has puzzled humanity for centuries. This attachment of one human being to another, not seen as intensely in other organisms, is something people just cannot wrap their heads around easily. So, in an effort to understand, people write their thoughts down. Stories of love, theories of love, memories of love; they all help us come closer to better knowing this emotional bond. One writer in particular, Sei Shōnagon, explains two types of lovers in her essay "A Lover’s Departure": the good and the bad.
For that, I interviewed my boss, Karen. I see her almost every work day but there were still many things I wanted to ask her about. I knew that she had been married to a man before she met her wife, and that she still had his last name even after separating and remarrying. I also knew that her father was a Methodist minister and performed her marriage ceremony back when he could’ve gotten in a lot of hot water for doing so. I knew that she was adopted, too. But the rest of her life, the in-between moments, were still a mystery to me. So, I really enjoyed that interview. As you can tell from the transcription, we laughed a lot and got along well. I think she felt comfortable and she told me later that she had enjoyed talking with me. I also came more prepared and with more questions. It was hard to do my initial research on my student interviewee because there wasn’t a lot of prior information that I could find about her. With Karen, I not only had my own prior information, but she is also easily found on the internet. A lot of that has to do with her age and the businesses she has been involved
I was raised by my mother and grandmother. They kept my head leveled and taught me that working hard leads to success. I loved them, and they were my role models. I grew up in a middle class family with strong women. I learned independence, and the strong will to never give up. It was the summer of 2005 when my mother re-married, and I was in the eighth grade. My mother was happy because she found the conclusion to her life: a husband. I was ecstatic because I finally had a daddy! My hopes, wishes, and dreams had come true. I felt that God answered my prayers. I loved having a father figure, although I had certain doubts. My uncertainty came from the way he looked at me. He looked at me the way men crave women. However, I concealed my unclear feelings because I did not want to ruin the current circumstances. Unfortunately, all of my suspicions were true.
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This theory involves three different dimensions which include passion, intimacy, and commitment. When combined in different ways, these dimensions show different kinds of love. The different forms of love discussed in our text are infatuation, affectionate love, fatuous love, and consummate love. In my own life I have only experienced a couple different forms of the love that Sternberg describes. The two forms that I know I have experienced are affectionate love and infatuation. Consummate love is a type of love that I have never experienced. I hope to one day reach consummate love with someone and spend the rest of my life with him. I realize that not everyone gets to experience that kind of love, but I’m hopeful
My first interview was with, Jennifer she is a married 29 year old, with one child. They have been married for five years. The relationship she is in seems to fall right into place with the five stages of interpersonal relationships that are in the book: Contact, involvement, intimacy, deterioration, and repair. The relationship seems to be built on a solid foundation of trust.
First of all, Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg, 1986) suggested that there are three components of love, including intimacy, passion and commitment,
"The great model of affection of love in human beings is the sentiment which subsists between parents and children." as time goes by, things change. What was popular, and normal, in the 70s has changed. The older generation always wonder what had gone wrong with the younger generation and the younger generation also wonder why parents can`t understand their needs. The don`t know how to deal with the differences between each others and that has lead to a gap between parents and children.