Coming Out as a Lesbian

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Lately it seems like everyone is "coming out" as lgbtq because it seems like the coolest thing to do. Kids at school don't understand that just a few years ago, coming out was horrible. In the past few years, so much has changed for the LGBTQ Community. Marriage is being legalized all over the place, and people are learning to speak out about their rights. Six years ago, my parents found out I was bisexual after they went through my computer. My mom screamed, cried, threw things, and questioned me relentlessly. She couldn't possibly understand what it was that I was going through. At school, I was bullied and pushed around because I was that "weird little lesbian". In a small school of just a little under 200, once one person knew something about you, everyone knew your secret. The world dropped out from underneath my feet. My friends that had once claimed to be my ‘best friends’ ignored me. P.E. and track became horrible whenever I had to enter a locker room. All of the girls would stare and whisper, refusing to change in front of me like I was some disgusting sexual predator. Finally, during my eighth grade year, a popular boy named Brennan came up to me one day after school. We sat down and talked for a while before he just grabbed my hand and said, "I'm gay." He immediately started crying as I sat there in shock until, after a few moments, I just pulled him over and hugged him. I understood exactly what he was feeling, and knew that just letting him cry would be enough to help. I couldn't believe someone had come to me. Me! Of all people! Hugging him and telling him that it was ok, just accepting him for who he was, made me feel so happy. There is no feeling in the world like helping someone through something that you can relate to. It made me feel like maybe I was able to do something, even if it was little, and it gave me the courage to begin to make a difference in my schools. After a few weeks, I noticed that quite a bit of my friends had started to talk to me again, with the new addition of Brennan. It seemed like after Brennan got the courage to come out of the closet, others were too. People I had never even talked to started talking to me for advice on how to come out, like I was some sort of seasoned veteran.

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