Com 1310 Week 1 Diversity Role Paper

Diversity Role Written Assignment

ADHD

Texas State University

COMM 1310: Fundamentals of Human Communication

Maria Jose Garcia

My name is Maria Jose Garcia I am currently 38 years old and was diagnosed with a common behavioral disorder known as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder since childhood.According to Doctor Hallowell(2009),…”is neurological condition that is usually genetically transmitted.It is characterized by distractions, impulsiveness and hyperactivity.’’ Life has been extremely difficult for me, being able to adapt to society’s expectations, but at the same time I was being criticized, emotionally unstable and feeling out of place through these traumatic years.

First of all, ADHD has been

in me and all I can think of is feeling out of place, not accepted, an surely desperate being in isolation and knowing that my thoughts drive me away from the most important people is unfair.The best part of this experience is that you get to have the blessing of knowing who will be there by your side through it all.In my marriage, it has been very hard to find a day where everything is just peaceful within me and the people that surround me on a daily basis. My husband and I were about to end our marriage, until he thought I needed help, and that’s when we both understood my condition. My Husband has been able to Adapt to me because he knows that it is not a flaw, not a curse, but a blessing. After many arguments, he helped me understand the importance of accepting myself the way I am. (Question 1)
Life in school is very difficult for me, it’s been a tradition since elementary I’ve been bullied because kids assume superiority would notice my hyperactivity, anxiety, and trouble of reading. Students in my class would think I would do it on purpose. I tend to feel like spots get smaller and I get bigger, the more that I climb a way out of this the higher the path becomes for me.After school, I visited my mother and father. My parents tend to be aggressive with me and tell me to control my way of speaking, actions and thoughts but if they only knew that it’s something uncontrollably impossible. There is not a day where I cry of frustration because I feel like the whole world is against me. When I get home from visiting my parents,my kids tend to be mad at me for not being able to be there for them or portray advice for their problems. If they only knew my love for them, they would understand that condition is not easy but they got tired of hearing that excuse for me so they just use it against me.
(Question 2)
Throughout my life, I have been moving jobs a good amount of times. It is not easy being surrounded with external distractions and noises which can take me to daydreaming.At the end of the day, it becomes risky for my adult life because I need to find a permanent workplace. I will try my hardest to go for a job where it is mostly quiet.Since it is very difficult for me to find a job I tend to have the problems I had in elementary of interruption and lack of commitment into my work. Job Discrimination is something that I’ve been having some trouble around while looking for jobs.Throughout the years ADHD became a problem.Mr.Harky(2015) says,…” I’d like to have a better understanding why this is happening, what we can do to make sure these people are getting the right treatments.’’Thankfully, I am taking treatment, which include medicine, therapy and with getting help from my husband truly will motivate me to keep going through this, I will still keep on looking and not give up. (Question 3)
Everyday in college, it is extremely hard to catch up with my professors, I currently am taking four classes, which is challenging for me.Being able to go through the slides and copy notes, going to the pace of my instructor is just very hard for me to understand any material. When I get home, I tend to ‘’review’’ the powerpoints and it’s impossible, because I get hyper and try to multitask by going to the kitchen and making food, then water the plants. I tend to receive low grades and I feel like I’m not moving, but pausing in my academic skills. (Question 4)
On a daily basis, I tend to get frustuated with people that are the closest to me.

I recently have had many distractions and the people that care for me, want me to be there for them. For example, my best friend Grace would tell me about how her mom does not want to talk to her because she didn’t go visit her. All I responded to Grace was, ‘’ so, I’m hungry’’ and Grace yells at me crying, ‘’ why can’t you be there for me when I need you the most aren’t you my friend!?.’’ What hurts me the most is that I get distracted easily and I have had situations where I forget what people ask me to do or just don’t respond at all. At the end of the day, all I feel is depression, people constantly are mad at me and I just forget why. (Question

5)
In Addition, I went grocery shopping, I saw my neighbors and they like to make fun of my condition both Clara and Duke will ask me what I did this morning, on purpose.

It is so sad not being able to respond to their question but all I do is say, ‘’Well I did many things’’, but instead they talk to one another and say, ‘’ how can she do it, it must be terrifying.’’ My neighbors straight up where assuming differences between me and them.All I can think of that response is that even if I have this condition it does not mean that I’m also human, I make mistakes like anyone, and will try to fix them like anyone else. (Question

6)
Lastly, one of the great powers that I have is being able to procrastinate in the face of anything. I surely tend to wash dishes, watch the TV and then just suddenly I like to read a book or even call my mom at that precise instant.Having ADHD makes your life way easier, people go around asking if you act certain way to get attention, and all I can say is this is the way God made me, and this is the way I will be. Suddenly, I like spending too much time focus on something, and suddenly when something catches my attention I can become paranoid. (Question 7)
In Conclusion, people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder often go through many situations which they are unable to handle.People that are diagnosed with this can result into having trouble socializing, stabilizing their self-esteem, controlling their thoughts/ideas, and focusing. I have been able to accept the way I am, and have been taking treatments to make my journey easier. Like my husband says, ‘’It’s not a bad life.’’
Having the opportunity to learn about this diagnosis I am able to understand the experience and the frustration people with ADHD.It is also a very unique state of mind, like Laura says (2015),”It’s a way to think the ways others don’t.’’ There is no space for criticizing and judging people ideas or way of expressing themselves. I now have an insight of how hard it must be for people that are going through this situation, everyone in the world is carrying their own problems on top of their shoulders, and all we can do is try to uplift their thoughts and be that helping hand and being able to be there for them.