The author of Coffee and Cigarettes seems to have been in a relationship in which she totally bound herself with someone, who did not exactly cheat her, but his chauvinistic, machismo actions prove harmful for her fragile and sensitive psyche. Out of the fear of ending up alone, she got into a relationship, whenever she got a chance and seems to have confused the physical attraction with long term commitment. She is bent upon the desire that her lover should meet her important unmet needs, but due to insufficient understanding, of the opposite sex’s psychology, this desire is not fulfilled. Every time, she steps into a relationship, without having a second thought, she fails to understand that, males easily compartmentalize sex and emotion
and have their own psyche. To them, the sentimental minds of women appear weird; Being a dedicated immature women, she needs and aspires to experience an emotional connection to her beloved persistently, yet all her over- emotionalism is unilateral. Although she is quite clear about her needs for his body lust, yet in an endeavor to gain it, she burns herself from inside out. Frustration as well as emotional imbalance seems to be the root cause of her deportment. It is not that her lover is unfaithful or there is any touch of infidelity, neither is there any rift in their relationship, it is just that, she easily gets hurt by his behavior, repeatedly. The author appears very quick witted in discerning the beauty of usage of appropriate words and phrases of the English language in an innovative, anomalous genre. The manner of presenting her sentiments is no doubt a gratifying experience for poetry lovers. This book is a must for every book shelf.
Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
...ng. She examines the issue of divorce and remarrying, using relationships as a tool for social climbing, she also examines the insecurities that arise when a man discovers that the definition he placed on the woman in his life isn’t as realistic as he would like to think. She subtly addresses the issue of man’s desire to own and define women they are in a relationship with, while trying to control any of her social interactions that could potentially threaten his sense of ownership.
After watching a girlfriend’s string of unsuccessful relationships, she agrees to write an article entitled “How To Lose A Guy In Ten Days’. At the encouragement of her strong-willed boss, she sets out to date a guy, do all of the things wrong that woman do to chase men away, and dump him after 10 days. At the end of her experimen...
ZZ Packer’s Drinking Coffee Elsewhere is a beautifully written short story about a college student named Dina. The story is told in a first person perspective and revolves around her personal struggles at Yale. In Drinking Coffee Elsewhere, Packer uses flashbacks and vivid imagery to show how Dina is not in tune with herself physically or emotionally. This results in her inability to cope with her life in the rich white world of Yale as an African American woman or how to cope with life when traumatic events happen.
Hemingway deals with the effects of war on the male desire for women in many of his novels and short stories, notably in his novel, The Sun Also Rises. In this novel, the main character Jake, is impotent because of an injury received in World War I. Jakes situation is reminiscent of our main character Krebs. Both characters have been damaged by World War I; the only difference is Jake’s issue is physical, while Krebs issue is mental. Krebs inwardly cannot handle female companionship. Although Krebs still enjoys watching girls from his porch and he “vaguely wanted a girl but did not want to have to work to get her” (167). Krebs found courting “not worth it” (168). The girls symbolize what World War I stripped from our main character, a desire that is natural for men, the desire for women.
young lovers, or is this his personal commentary on their union, harking to an inspirational writer
In the short story “The Cheater’s Guide to Love” by Junot Diaz, the author pinpoints on the Yunior’s life as a writer and college professor who is also struggling with his romantic relationships. The short story is filled with his experiences of using women for his beneficial needs and how it negatively affects him. It focuses on Yunior’s downfall through life after the destruction of his relationship with his fiance. The diction includes the narrator’s hateful consideration of women and a paradox of his own endeavors which prevent him from pursuing a meaningful relationship, but he grows to realize that he treats women awfully and his ex did the right thing by leaving him due to his untruthfulness.
Studying the Sun, The Moon, The Stars, by Junot Diaz, brought the realistic image of an intimate relationship in a way I never expected. The main character in the story Yunior says in the beginning, “I’m like everybody else: weak, full of mistakes, but basically good”, starts telling information on how his personality is. Yunior is not a bad guy even though he cheated on his girlfriend; these comments are retrospective because he makes them when the relationship between Magda ended. Diaz theme of personal responsibility and the way it sustains a relationship, which Yunior fails to accept the responsibility for his own actions, attributing his infidelity to “others” rather than to his selfish behavior.
In today’s heterosexual and patriarchal society sex and sexual desires revolve around men, and Hoagland sets out seven patterns showing how this is the case. Sex is thought of as a “powerful and uncontrollable urge” and male sexuality therefore is a basic component to male health, sexual acts show male conquest and domination, sexual freedom gives men total access to and over women, rape is, by this logic, natural and women who resist a man’s advances are “‘frigid’”, sex involves losing control and sexual desire, when described as erotic, “involves a death wish (eros)”. The bottom line is that in today’s heterosexual and patriarchal society sex is all about men having a natural power over women; sex involves a total loss of control which creates a split between reason and emotion since being in control is a matter of reason controlling emotions, “we tend to believe that to be safe we must be rational and in control but to...
As the time passed, it was clear to both of them that their relationship will not turn into a sexual one, but into something much more profound. He did not want it to be compromised by carnality. The urgent appetite they felt for each other could not be satisfied by mere adhesion to lust. They had to deal with their souls, hearts and minds, as well as their bodies.
Anton Chekhov and Ernest Hemingway both convey their ideas of love in their respective stories The Lady with the Pet Dog and Hills like White Elephants in different ways. However, their ideas are quite varying, and may be interpreted differently by each individual reader. In their own, unique way, both Chekhov and Hemingway evince what is; and what is not love. Upon proper contemplation, one may observe that Hemingway, although not stating explicitly what love is; the genius found in his story is that he gives a very robust example of what may be mistaken as love, although not being true love. On the other hand, Chekhov exposes love as a frame of mind that may only be achieved upon making the acquaintance of the “right person,” and not as an ideal that one may palpate at one instance, and at the another instance one may cease to feel; upon simple and conscious command of the brain. I agree with Hemingway’s view on love because it goes straight to the point of revealing some misconceptions of love.
...ng in their relationship, but cannot deny something that her newly awakened sexuality craves. It is her way of rebelling against society and fulfilling many suppressed wants and desires. It leaves her empty, however, as this passion did not come from love.
The definition of a relationship has changed so many times in the past decades. It has gone from a connection between two people to an obsession and almost a competition. In today’s world a relationship consists of major intimacy and closeness. There are some who believe that intimacy while dating is wrong. They form their own definition of a relationship into what they call a “godly relationship”. Those supporting that kind of a relationship condemn sexual closeness and monitor who their young people are allowed to date. There are two worlds of dating in our lives today; one with infatuation and the other with togetherness.
I will be focusing on the critiquing strategy of the feminism Eat Pray Love “One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia” (Elizabeth Gilbert 2006). In this essay we will closely examine love, lust, marriage and divorce. Many marriages are committed within love but in all honestly, most are made up of lust. Which leads us to asking ourselves, is there any certainty of the balance of love? Are we ever certain when it comes to seeking a life of solitude or companionship?
Coffee Health Benefits or Risks: Cardiology and Anthropology Perspectives. Introduction: Many people consume coffee at any time of the day all around the world. They come in many different forms, that could either be a benefit or a risk to a person’s health. How is it that coffee could hinder how people live?