The Support Of Family The human species is one of an adaptive species. Through constant trials, we as a people have adapted to the environment around us and triumphed over them. This adaptation is apparent in Elizabeth Acevedo’s novel, Clap When You Land. Yahaira, along with Camino and Mami, were resentful of each other at the start of the story. However, with the progression of the story, they learn to adapt and change their feelings for one another. Through their story we can learn that it is better to grow, leave home, and return, with each experience of Yahaira, Mami, and Camino proving this. It is better to grow, leave home, and return, which can be shown through the experiences of Yahaira. Yahaira loved Papi, and the discovery of his other daughter made her grow to hate the other family, as stated when Yahaira professes “I want to hate a dead woman, and her daughter who most likely hates me for making my father leave her in the first place.”(Acevedo 243). …show more content…
She grows to love her half-sister Camino and feels guilty for all the hate she held for Camino’s family, as Yahaira proclaims, “And then guilt washes over me. I am the one he left her for.” (Acevedo 325). In conclusion, Yahaira's journey from hating Camino to eventually loving and feeling guilty towards her, illustrates the importance of personal growth and leaving one's comfort zone. Through her experiences, it becomes evident that returning home after self-discovery can lead to a deeper understanding and appreciation of one's roots. Camino's experiences demonstrate the benefits of growing, leaving home, and eventually returning, as she learns and evolves through her journey. Like Yahaira, Camino also hated Yahaira after learning about her, as stated when Camino affirms “I think I hate this new
The author uses different points of view to create tension in the story. The mom acts in a way that neglects the daughters interests. This makes them both feel less connected and leaves the daughter feeling hopeless. In paragraph 9, “‘It’s strange actually. I wasn’t expecting it, but then at the last minute the funding came through.’ She folded her arms across her waist. ‘I’m going to Costa Rica to finish my research.” This made the narrator/daughter angry and flustered with her mom’s actions. She has trouble remaining connected with her parent because they both want different things which leaves on character feeling betrayed. “Opportunity? For me? Or for you?” (34). Both of their actions and responses create tension in this story. Their communication lacks and this results in pressure on both
The theme of, mother daughter relationships can be hard but are always worth it in the end, is portrayed by Amy Tan in this novel. This theme is universal, still relevant today, and will be relevant for forever. Relationships are really important, especially with your mom. “ A mother is best. A mother knows what is inside you”
Intergenerational conflicts are an undeniable facet of life. With every generation of society comes new experiences, new ideas, and many times new morals. It is the parent’s job go work around these differences to reach their children and ensure they receive the necessary lessons for life. Flannery O’Connor makes generous use of this idea in several of her works. Within each of the three short stories, we see a very strained relationship between a mother figure and their child. We quickly find that O’Conner sets up the first to be receive the brunt of our attention and to some extent loathing, but as we grow nearer to the work’s characteristic sudden and violent ending, we grow to see the finer details and what really makes these relations
The family's personal encounters with the destructive nature of the traditional family have forced them to think in modern ways so they will not follow the same destructive path that they've seen so many before them get lost on. In this new age struggle for happiness within the Kao family a cultural barrier is constructed between the modern youth and the traditional adults with Chueh-hsin teeter tottering on the edge, lost between them both. While the traditional family seems to be cracking and falling apart much like an iceberg in warm ocean waters, the bond between Chueh-min, Chueh-hui, Chin and their friends becomes as strong as the ocean itself.
... family traditions because they are innocent and fragile compared to men, therefore dramatizing the effects of the ‘inhuman’ traditions. A maternal bond is a very crucial component of one’s life; therefore by disrupting the usual aspect of one’s life, the authors are sending their message in a strong manner. Furthermore, the ending of both novels imply a necessity for social improvement in their societies as the protagonists have to detach themselves from their repressive mothers, who represent the authorities of the old generation with their overbearing attitudes, in order to pursue their own dreams, whether it is for education, career, or love. After the protagonists break away from their mothers, Tita chases her love for Pedro and Hang leaves the country, abandoning all the traditional traditions, to continue with her college education and occupation in Russia.
Technology weeds out the week families and leaves destruction in the eyes of the children who were exposed to family destruction. When a kid gets stuck in a bad family he acquires a different kind of family- not of blood relation but of respect and love relation, but the wounds are supposed to heal from previous experiences of a bad family, but if a ...
Chua and her daughter have a normal mother-daughter relationship. From trying to help Lulu practice by giving her tips (even though she may not be doing it correctly), to Lulu calling Chua “Mommy,” they have a normal, caring, mother-daughter relationship even though Lulu is annoyed with her mother in the excerpt. On the contrary, the mother daughter relationship between Tan and her mother is very bitter. In the excerpt, Tan uses her words like knives trying to cut her mother as deeply as possible. Tan is not the ideal, obedient daughter Tan’s mother imagined, but nevertheless, Tan’s mother attempts to force her to become the daughter she wants and causes a reaction that has a dark and negative outcome that hurts them both. These excerpts bring to light the differences and intricacies of mother-daughter relationships, both good and
All children need love to help them grow and flourish. If a child lacks the sense of a loving parent to child bond, it can result in them feeling unloved. Lily often times feels unloved as a result of her father's abusive and neglectful behavior towards her. Lily decides to run away with Rosaleen, who for much of Lily’s life, has been the one to care for her. Lily and Rosaleen find themselves at the home of the Boatwright sisters. Throughout her time staying with the Boatwrights, Lily is being greatly cared for by the sisters including May Boatwright, the youngest sister. Through May and Rosaleen’s actions, Lily comes to realize that there is love all around her. “And there they were. All these mothers.I have more mothers than any eight girls off the street. They are the moons shining over me,” (Kidd 302). Lily views these women as her mother figures because they show her that they love her. Having insight on how Lily perceives these women, it is clear that she is very grateful for how much love they provide her. Lily is appreciative towards May and Rosaleen, through their major and minor acts as Lily’s mother. They help to fill the place of a loving parent that she needs since her mother is not able to do so. May and Rosaleen give Lily the love she needs much like how Mother Teresa loves and cares for the poor children in developing nations who many times do not have a stable family life. “Mother Teresa’s ministry was centered on love. She cared for the poor’s physical needs, but her main focus was on loving them. Mother Teresa’s life exemplified the meaning of love and of giving. She encouraged all people to give not only tangible gifts such as money, food, and clothing but also the intangible gifts of ourselves, such as a smile or a caring ear.” Mother Teresa is a huge mother figure to thousands of children around the world who lack the love need. Therefore, through the actions of these minor
In an article about refugee children in Canada, the authors state “The community...play[s] a crucial role in assisting and supporting children to adjust and integrate into… society.” (Fantino & Colak). This quote demonstrates that with the community’s consistent support, refugees can have a sense of belonging in their new homes, which can be extremely important while trying to acclimate to society. In Inside Out and Back Again, Há says “She says it over and over like a chant, slowly. Slowly the screams that never stopped inside my head turned to a real whisper” (Lai 210) while describing the actions of Mrs. Washington, a neighbor and role model of Há’s. Mrs. Washington played an important part in Há becoming used to Alabama, clearly demonstrated when she helped Há calm down after she was bullied and disrespected by Pink Boy after school. Due to Mrs. Washington’s actions, Há could feel more supported during her struggle against the bully, and in turn she could feel like she was “Back Again” in her new environment. Há says in one of her poems that “Before school our cowboy shows up… he whispers to Mother and Brother Quang” (Lai 203). After being bullied, her family’s sponsor finally gives her support by trying to fight back against Pink Boy. Though this action doesn’t help Há at the the time, it helps Há feel like she is supported during her adjustment. This support, in addition to the support given by Mrs. Washington, results in Há feeling like she belongs, which helps her make it through her difficult journey of adjusting to Western society. The more support evacuees receive from their host communities, the easier life becomes for them and the more comfortable they become, which results in positive adjustment to their new
And by the end of the novel the mother is in complete control of the family, while the father is withdrawn from the family and stuck in thought. This family structure shift helps the Joad’s overcome the trials of moving west. Traditional family members also shift, families are no longer determined by biological means, but instead families are made through fellowship and kinship. This allows families to grow and become more supportive of each other.
In the book of the Joy Luck Club, written by Amy Tan. We can see there are many conflicts between mothers and daughters base on culture shock, generation, and misunderstanding, but we still can feel that there is finally rooted in deep love. The culture shock can build a great wall in their relationship due to different values. Also, generation can create a problem between parents and children. Children who born in different generation received different information and education, which will result in misunderstanding with their parents. In this article, I will give three examples to describes three conflicts between mothers and daughters, such as culture shock, different
The simplistic plot of the novel and the overall theme of love allows the author to span the lives of the main characters. The reader sees the span of the life of two of the main characters, Sidda and her mother Vivi, as they struggle to love each other based on their own childhood experiences. The reader also sees our two main characters in parallel encountering love and affairs of the heart; yet the most powerful love throughout the book is the love of four friends who stick together through the good and the bad. Vivi loves the Ya-Ya’s; as adolescents they are looking for love and someone to look up to. Vivi didn’t know how to love Sidda because Vivi’s mother didn’t know how to love her; therefore, Sidda doesn’t know how to love Connor because she has never experienced love and is now afraid to be in love. The simplicity of the novel is that everyone is always looking to be loved. The simplicity is that in real life people are always searching to be loved, or finding love. Near the beginning of the novel when the ya-ya’s are in their adolescence as young girls, going through the normal obstacles of childhood- fighting with their parents, getting into mischief, smoking and breaking curfew- they realize that by sticking together they can get through anything. They formalize this bond with a ceremony early on, "I am a member of the royal and true tribe of the Ya-Ya’s…I do solemnly swear to be loyal sister Ya-Ya’s, and to love and look out for them, and never forsake them through thick and thin, until I take my last human breath" (Wells 71). Wells shows the reader that the inability to show love can be passed down through generations: Sidda expresses to Connor why she is afraid to marry him, "She [Vivi] didn’t know how to love me, so I don’t know how to love you" (Wells 284). Sidda is saying that her mother couldn’t ...
In the undoing of her mistake, it becomes clear just how much Carlene’s friendship means to Kiki, “she felt ridiculous, like a schoolgirl.” This painting of Kiki’s interaction with Carlene closely mirrors that of younger, more romantic relationships, such as Zora’s second interaction with Carl where she wonders “was she ridiculous to him?” (140). In this second meeting with Carlene Kiki not only states explicitly that their friendship matters to her, but makes an effort to be truly herself. As their conversation continues the differences between the two women; cultural, political, and economic become apparent and Kiki begins to wonder “how soon she could make her excuses without seeming rude” (170). However, almost immediately, Kiki rediscovers what has drew her to Carlene originally, “she put things well: insightfully, honestly”
The rifts between mothers and daughters continue to separate them, but as the daughters get older they become more tolerant of their mothers. They learn they do not know everything about their mothers, and the courage their mothers showed during their lives is astounding. As they get older they learn they do not know everything, and that their mothers can still teach them much about life. They grow closer to their mothers and learn to be proud of their heritage and their culture. They acquire the wisdom of understanding, and that is the finest feeling to have in the world.
Major Conflict in Everything was Good-Bye by Gurjinder Basran Life consists of many challenges and barriers: at certain point in life, every individual encounters such factors in one way or another, which affects them in both negative and positive ways. However, in many cases, the family or the close ones play a vital role to eliminate the problem and guide the individual through their journey, but what happens when the family itself behaves as a barrier? In Gurjinder Basran’s Everything was Good-Bye, a heartbreaking novel about family, loss and love, and the struggle of living in two different cultural worlds, Meena, a central character’s family is one of the prime obstacle that make her life miserable.