Cause Of Divorce In The United States

Most adults consider their wedding day one of the happiest moments of their life. In 2016 alone, there were a reported 2.18 million weddings in the United States, with the average ceremony easily costing upwards of $26,000. Unfortunately, happily ever after, doesn't always mean forever, and many of these marriages will end in divorce. There were 827,261 divorces reported during 2016 this data was gathered from 44 States and D.C. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2017) While divorce rates may be slightly down from where they were ten years ago, it is still considered a serious problem throughout America. There is a 20% chance that a marriage will fail within the first five years and a 48% chance of divorce within twenty years (Avvo,

While men cite nagging and partner's lack of appreciation as prime communication issues, women claim they do not feel that their husbands adequately validate their feelings and opinions. Many surveys have been conducted and consistently show that the most common types of marital communication problems are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and a refusal to communicate. Once these issues progress, spouses have stated that they often find their partners body language to be inapproachable as well. When there is no longer open, caring conversation, the connection is lost, and it becomes impossible to work through any issues regardless of how large or small they may be. As time goes on, this can lead to an increase in arguments and the inability to properly resolve conflict. Consequently, these problems have been known to make spouses look for a sense of connection elsewhere, leading to infidelity and a complete deterioration of the

In most cases, the spouse does not set out with intentions to be unfaithful, but as things get less manageable at home, people may look for comfort and understanding from another source without acknowledging the possible consequences. Social media has been shown to play a significant role in infidelity, many times partners will begin online friendships to escape marital issues, sadly, over time this usually leads to an adulterous relationship. It is estimated that 60% of married men and 40% of married women will have at least one extramarital affair throughout the course of their life. Whether it happens one time or many, the consequences are the same. Once the adultery is exposed, there are numerous emotions felt by both spouses. The guilty partner will naturally experience shame and remorse but may not accept full responsibility for their actions. Regardless of how compelling the evidence may be, the innocent partner may initially deny an affair took place because the reality is often too hard to deal with. By suppressing these truths and emotions, instead of properly working through them irreparable damage is being done to the marriage by both spouses. However, once passed the denial stage, anger will take over, and it will most likely be in the form of irrational rage. Because this type of rage is so strong and unfamiliar, most people do not know how