Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code By Michael Kimmel

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In the essay “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code,” Michael Kimmel states how the society treats men. He goes on in his essay explaining how men must deal with all “Real Guy’s” talk but women don’t have to deal with it.
The essay explains how society judge men because they have to be strong and never show emotions nor weakness when they are having problems. According to Kimmel, “No Sissy Stuff! Being a man means not being a sissy, not being perceived as weak, effeminate, or gay. Masculinity is the relentless repudiation of the feminine.” (Kimmel) In 1976 men were taught to man up in everything they had to deal with in life.
I agree with the quote, men need to be tough because if they are not, then who will? Who is going to protect their spouse

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